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Brinda
02-01-2006, 01:06 PM
This is a follow-up on my previous post, http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=401795

The peri scheduled a follow-up u/s after they saw some funneling last week and wanted it checked again. If the funnel was bigger, he wanted me sent in for an emergent cerclage before I hit 24 weeks, when it is contra-indicated.

I had my follow-up cervical u/s today, and I started off super pissed off. The peri was on vacation, and they didn't even have a nurse in the office! I wasn't told this when i made my appt. And the PERI set it!!What is the freakin' point? If I'd needed the cerclage which has to be done within the 3 days left of my 23 weeks, how could it have been done??? Last week I was about 4.8 cm with a slight funnel. This time there was not much of any funnel, BUT I was down to 3.3cm. Which means, the funnel we saw could possibly have caused that to efface away. I just found out you thin inside out. I don't know why, I thought for some reason it was outside in. But, to me, that's a big deal. The u/s tech actually had the gall to ask me if I knew how big a cm really is... "Well, it's only a cm, it's not very much". Well, in MY mind, 4.8 - 3.3 = 1.5, not 1, at almost 1/2 of an inch. So first I think she needs to go back to math class. Second, yes, I know how long a cm is, don't patronize me. She didn't mean anything by it BUT when your entire cervix is only 4.8cm and you thin out 1.5 cm in 1 week with 16 weeks left until your due date, that says to me that I've lost 25% of my entire cervix, with NO contractions 4 months early, and yes that's a big deal to me. The doctor only told her to call if it was short, and SHE said short is 2.5cm... Last time I talked to him, he said they were watching for ANY shortening. This really pisses me off that he wasn't in the office, and this is NOT considered a study visit, I have to PAY the $30 copay to not see a nurse, peri, or anyone. So I have to wait until next week to talk to him about it. Why couldn't this wait until next week like normal??

So, now I'm laying here all pissed off and stewing, and dh says I'm overreacting. He doesn't understand that I know she pry didn't mean anything by what she said, but it hurts that someone who has PROBABLY (I shouldn't assume) never had a problem pregnancy could tell me that such a significant shortening is nothing. She is NOT the doctor. She really doesn't have the best ettiquette. Last time she did an abdominal, she says "Let's take a look at the baby and make sure there's a heartbeat and it's still alive"... Excuse me, that is NOT the thing to say to an expecting mother. Just say "Let's take a quick peek at the baby".

I was going to try and calm down a bit before posting, but oh, well. I gotta get the steam off sometime, right?

My concern is if this happens with NO contractions, what happens when they finally start?




HollysMom
02-01-2006, 01:19 PM
:hug Feel free to let off steam here anytime. That is what we are here for :hug

Happypants
02-01-2006, 01:24 PM
Last time she did an abdominal, she says "Let's take a look at the baby and make sure there's a heartbeat and it's still alive

i can not concieve of anyone "caring" for expectant mothers having the lack of sensitivity to say something like this. i would definately say something about this person's attitude to her supervisor. you're probably not the first person to think that she lacks etiquette, but maybe no one has brought it to the dr.'s attention before.

:hug sounds like an altogether frustrating situation. i'd be pissed, too, if i were in your place.

Throkmorton
02-01-2006, 02:02 PM
Wow, I am so sorry you have to deal with such boneheads!

radicalmama
02-01-2006, 02:02 PM
I AM STOMPING MAD FOR YOU!!!!!!

GRRRRR!!!!! :irked:

What *^*^#&*^(#&(*@&(*#!@&(!

SO, sorry!

ChattyCat
02-01-2006, 02:27 PM
WOW, that person sounds like a big loser! I can't believe she would say 'Let's see if your baby's still alive.' WTF???

And, yeah she does need to go back to math class, because 1.5 cm is over .5". To me that also seems like a good bit of shortening in a week. Surely, if your peri is out of town, somebody is covering his patients. I would call the office and demand to speak to at least the triage nurse, so you can explain what's going on. I can't believe your peri wouldn't want to know about this, especially after the last conversation you had. That all sounds so frustrating!

:Hug :Hug :Hug Try to relax. I know, easier said than done. And, just visualize your little bun all happy and cozy in your womb, and STAYING there! :Hug :Hug :Hug

Xiaguan
02-01-2006, 02:29 PM
Brenda~ I am so frustrated for you! Any cervical change is frightening esp with a twerp of a tech like that! Keeping you in my warm thoughts for that funneling to stop!

Warmly with lots of baby dust!
Melissa

~*max*~
02-01-2006, 03:04 PM
Brinda, you have every right to be angry! I would be furious too. I hope you get some reassuring answers soon.

busybusymomma
02-01-2006, 05:22 PM
OMG! I stewing with you. That's so ridiculous. :(

And yeah, a centimeter is only a centimeter but there's only so many centimeters to a cervix- that's why it's not measured in inches! :hammer

Keep us posted. :Hug

Brinda
02-01-2006, 05:43 PM
Thanks for letting me blow steam, ladies, I'm feeling better now. :)

mamacatsbaby
02-01-2006, 08:23 PM
Another one who's pissed for you! People are so freaking ridiculous, I can hardly stand it. :angry But I am glad you're feeling better mama. :thumb Big hugs. :hug :Hug :hug

Sydnee
02-02-2006, 01:35 PM
I'll just join the "pissed of Mother's club"! :o The nerve, and gall, of some people. I had a CNM tell me AFTER hearing the baby's HB at 10 weeks, that I could still miscarry that night, or the next day. :irked: Hugs to you mama, I hope the cervix calms down, and SOON!!!

*GreenMama*
02-03-2006, 11:53 PM
Wow, now thats a piece of work! Some people are REAL insensitive. When I found out I was pregnant my original obgyn told me not to tell anyone or get too excited because almost 50% of all first-time pregnancies end in miscarriage and that normally people don't even know they're pregnant until its much later (I knew at 3 weeks because DUH I was looking!) The guy knew that I was planning and was on cloud 9 because I knew that at least I could get pregnant. I was already in love with baby....

Needless to say I went right out and switched to my midwives who have been nothing but supportive since day 1.

BTW, after I left jerko a lab came back to him that showed progesterone levels to be normal but low. Dorkface wanted to label me high risk and put me on progesterone.... Since I'd already switched to the midwives I told them the results and they laughed said it was normal.... Now I'm almost 24 weeks along, no extra progesterone required and baby is allll healthy.....


Just goes to show you some people are COMPLETELY insensitive....

I GRRRRRRRR for you!

kathteach
02-05-2006, 09:00 PM
Brinda,

I'm sorry to hear about how insensitive the tech was with you.

If it makes you feel any better, my cervix is 1.04 at 26 weeks. I was about 2.5 at 19 weeks. I was told that 3 to 4 cm is the length of a normal cervix, although we both know funneling is not.

I guess what I'm trying to say in a nice way is that I would kill to have your problem.

Apiana
02-05-2006, 11:42 PM
I am fuming after reading this!! Sometimes I just can't believe the medical 'professionals'!! :(

Brinda
02-06-2006, 07:09 AM
Brinda,

I'm sorry to hear about how insensitive the tech was with you.

If it makes you feel any better, my cervix is 1.04 at 26 weeks. I was about 2.5 at 19 weeks. I was told that 3 to 4 cm is the length of a normal cervix, although we both know funneling is not.

I guess what I'm trying to say in a nice way is that I would kill to have your problem.

Oh, I'm sorry! I think the only reason I've done this well is because I am taking those progesterone suppositories. They really have kept me from contracting. I was thinned much more, like you at 27 weeks last pregnancy. In fact, at 27 weeks I was hospitalized and catheterized. I'm afraid I'm much thinner now, but won't find out until wednesday.

kathteach
02-06-2006, 12:27 PM
No need to be sorry! In fact, I am kind of sorry b/c I feel like I took over your thread, as in "poor me." So I apologize for that.

That's really great the progesterone is working. I had never heard of that working for cervical insufficiency.

Keep strong and keep us updated. I hope the doctor's office is more respectful next time, there is no need for that kind of attitude. Take care, Brinda.