HELP stupid doc pushing for a section!

[wahoowhippets]

Ladies, I had a successful VBAC with DD #2 at 40wks3days. We have since moved and I am going to new ob's. I went in today to get checked, am 2cm's dilated and 90% effaced. Today is Friday. The dumb doc wants to schedule a section for Tuesday if I don't go into labor on my own before then. I will be 40 weeks to the day (according to their EDD wheels) on Tuesday--the doc doesn't want to wait a day past 40 weeks because of "what the academy recomends". What kind of BS is this? I hate this doctor. The other docs in the practice seem ok but this one seems to like to do everything by his own stupid book or else. Can I refuse to sign up for the section and not get dumped by this practice? What do you ladies think? I want to avoid a section if I can help it! Oh and this stupid doc is the one who would be delivering my baby if she came this weekend on her own. I can refuse interventions if I want to, right? Please help ladies this is urgent and I am so pissed off right now! Can I do anything to get labor going? Thank you all for any help you can give to me!

[fljen]

Heck yeah you can refuse!!! As to whether or not the sOB's will dump you, I don't think so but there are a lot of really knowledgeable ladies on this forum who should be able to help you out! I just wanted to give you a :hug and some support to tell them to bloody wait! Where are you in Florida? Could you perhaps talk to some midwives in the area to see if they can take you at the last minute, even in a hospital? We are in central florida and will be going for a hbac sometime in the next year or so and we have already confirmed with a midwife about attending us.

Sending positive vibes your way! Good luck and don't let them bully you! You might crosspost in the midwives section to get a feel for the political climate around here and they might be able to point you to better providers.

[aprilushka]

Plenty of doctors will go to 41 and 42 weeks with VBACs. I would refuse and not go in until I was in very active labor.

[rozzie'sma]

Yes you can refuse to let them section you. At this point you CANNOT be dropped by the practice. It is considered patient abandonment and the doc can get in serious crap and possibly lose her liscense. I think anytime after 33 weeks they can't drop you but I am not sure. It is your body and they cannot force a section on you, that is assault. Stay strong momma. You know your body, you know what it can do, you have proven it.

[kayreyn]

No one can force you into a c-section, it's against the law. From what I've read, if a doctor chooses to "dump" you from his practice, then he must give you a 30 day notice, along with a referral to another doctor. I agree with the pp of getting a midwife and take your chances with another practice/hospital/doctor. Doctors are so quick to do c-sections, that's what's safe for them, not necessarily what's safe for you and your child. Refuse the section!, go with what you feel comfortable with :thumb . I'm hoping for a VBA3C myself, and I'm prepared to battle for it.

[kakies]

What? Don't Ob books say that it is perfectly okay to wait even up to 42 wks? As long as mom nor baby are in distress, the amniotic fluid is fine, temperature is fine, and so on. I don't see what the rush is all about if there are no indications of a problem. He has no valid reason (for you) so don't let him convince you for his own conenience. You can do it!

[Stephanie L.]

RE: Going into labor on your own and having this doc deliver... DUMP HIM!!

I would be VERY concerned about interventions w/this guy. :angry ARRGH!!

You definitely can refuse interventions, but during labor that can be HARD to do. Can someone be there with you as a doula? (Not just your DP)

At the very least, have a Birth Plan and distribute several copies to everyone.

I am so frustrated for you--wish I could be there to help!!!!!! :hug

[maureenfh]

You could always schedule the c-section and "forget" to show up, couldn't you? Then maybe you'll go into labor when one of the other obs is on call.

[aisraeltax]

sorry you are going through this.

they can't force you to have a c/s...so just refuse. let them schedule it if they want and just call to cancel.

i changed from my ob to my mw at 33 weeks, but i understand how you woudl be reluctant to do that now.

as far as what you can do, i took castor oil for 3 nights in a row (2 oz.). there are threads on here for that, but it wont work if you are not ready.

the DCC had lots of creative things to do...walk, walk, walk is prob. the best. but i woudlnt want to go into labor this weekend anyway if that doc will be deliveing.

good luck. :hugs

[wahoowhippets]

UPDATE: I refused the sceduled section and labored on my own at home. I was in transition on the way to the hospital and delivered Kirsten just 41 minutes after I arrived! No drugs either (no time for them YEAA!)! I did have an episiotomy and 3rd degree tearing though,:irked: but no other interventions! All in all, a good birth but would have been much better at home with a midwife instead of the lousy doctor and nurses I have to endure in my agony! :angry Thanks mommas for all your help and advice, this board is great! :love

[velcromom]

Congrats!! Good for you, standing up to the pressure & doing it your way!

How was the attitude of the staff towards you, and was the scalpel-happy OB there?

[wahoowhippets]

One of the scalpel happy SOBs :lol was the one that delivered Kirsten. The L&D nursed didin't know *what * to make of me as I was yelling the entire time before she was born (like they had never seen a *natural unmedicated * birth before! They kept telling me to blow during my endless 41 minute contraction (I had no breaks!) and I told them that it felt good and helpful to yell and they told me "no it doesn't help":irked: I just kept yelling anyway because it did help me to get through the birth :lol Those nurses didn't have a clue! Then after I got to nurse her for the first time they wanted to take her to the nursery for *three* hours and I said for WHAT? Well I got her back in just 40 minutes! I left that place the next day as soon as I could! I wish she could have been born at home instead...

[Amylcd]

I'm glad the birth went well. Why did they take her for 40 minutes though?

[AmandaBL]

Congratulations! I don't know where in FL you are, but if you have more children, & want a homebirth PM me & I can give you some VBAC friendly names.

[aisraeltax]

congrats! that is great to hear! its probably more heroic for you to have natural cb at a hospital than it is at home (seeing as how it is so rare nowadays).
enjoy your baby moon! :)
rach