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theboysmama
02-13-2006, 02:29 PM
Last night Dh and I had a wonderful evening to celebrate valentines day. We had a couples massage, then a movie, then dinner. When we got home the kids were in bed so we made love. When I got up there was blood on the sheets. :( I have never bled not even the smallest amount during pg except when I had my m/c. I feel a little crampy and the bleeding was a pink color. Then it got darker red. This morning I was still bleeding and it was pretty heavy so I went in and had a u/s.
I went to the u/s appt and had the same tech that did my u/s w/ Sam. She looked at my uterus and everything in that area and asked if i was sure that I had gotten a :+ ? What does she think I am a frikin idiot!?!? Evidently the clot that I passed was my precious baby. :( My uterus was completely empty and had gone down to its original size. So I took my baby ( I had put it in a ziploc in a lunch bag) to the lab so that we can get some testing done. I told them that I would want it back and she looked at me like I was :nut. What do you mean? I said I mean I want it back. She sais well what is it. I tell her in a very loud voice that it is my baby that I m/c this morning. She finally pulled me into a private area. I was able to get them to agree to try and get it back to me. I don't have high hopes though. :(
Then I went to hobby lobby and bought a pretty box to put some memories in. I think I will put the pg tests, my proof of pg from birth right, a letter to the baby, the washcloth it was wrapped in, and maybe I will think of something else.
I am so frustrated, :hopmad and really upset :bawl . The fact that these horrible things have to happen to us is so awful. I want this baby so bad. I want to hold, and nurse, and snuggle, a little scrunchy baby. Why is this happening to me?
I am very dissapointed that I will not be able to get to know you ladies better. I wish all of you the best of luck in the next 9 months.
Nicole




Kaitnbugsmom
02-13-2006, 03:03 PM
:hugs:

soccermominsd
02-13-2006, 03:14 PM
:crying for your loss...I am so sorry Nicole.

:1praying: that you will be comforted as you grieve your loss.

stayathomecristi
02-13-2006, 03:23 PM
Nicole, I am so sorry :hug

You have a right to the fetal remains, do not let them get away without getting them back to you.

Do you know which lab they are using to do the testing? If so, you may want to call the lab directly and make sure that everyone in the loop understands that you are to get the remains back. I have personal experience with this, so feel free to pm me if you want to. Originally, I was told that if I wanted the testing, that I couldn't get the remains back. This turned out to be a lie--just easier for the pathology lab to do less work :irked: .

Which state are you in? I'm not sure if I can find it, but some states have laws regarding fetal remains.

HTH,
Cristina

mom2sweetboy
02-13-2006, 03:23 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss. . .

tabitha
02-13-2006, 04:42 PM
i am so sorry.

i will take over the thread. off to post now...

tabitha

Tori Gollihugh
02-13-2006, 06:43 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss! I hope you are able to find some peace and receive your baby back from the testing.

Media Mama
02-13-2006, 07:17 PM
I am so sorry! :crying
Much love to you!

chrissy
02-13-2006, 07:35 PM
i'm so sorry nicole. :(

i can't believe the u/s tech was so heartless to you.

:hug

:candle

katiesmom
02-13-2006, 08:54 PM
I'm So very sorry for your loss.

deliarose
02-13-2006, 09:42 PM
I am so sorry. I think your memory box is a really great way to remember.

citizenfong
02-13-2006, 10:30 PM
Just lurking and had to jump in...

What a nightmare! I can only imagine how you felt, dealing with the heartless u/s tech and lab personnel.

:hug to you. I am sorry you lost your baby, Mama.

Sprucen
02-13-2006, 10:42 PM
:Hug So sorry for your loss!

merpk
02-13-2006, 11:17 PM
:(

Sorry for your loss. Sending light & health energy your way ...

:(

Earthy~Mama
02-14-2006, 01:24 AM
Nicole I am so sorry for your loss. I hop ein time that your heart heals.

mama2silas
02-14-2006, 10:05 AM
:( I'm sorry.

crazyknitter
02-14-2006, 10:19 AM
Nicole, I am sorry. :hugs :candle

Alimaccat
02-14-2006, 11:07 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray peace and comfort for you and your family.

BCmamaof6
02-14-2006, 12:32 PM
I am so sorry for your loss mama :candle

Michele in Italy
02-15-2006, 06:22 AM
I am so sorry for you. It is just terribly unfair, and then to be treated like that on top of it. I'm sending good thoughts out for you.