Anyone term'd for med reasons? New Member

[angeldmt]

I just wanted to introduce myself and my situation. DH and I terminated our VERY wanted pregnancy for med reasons almost four weeks ago. Our ds had a fatal brain defect and we delivered at 20 wks. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to deal with. I have been looking for a message board somewhere that I can talk about this - but I haven't found one yet that "fits" for me. (Other sites just don't seem quite right.) But the people on here seem to be more what I am looking for and I was just wondering if anyone on this board has had a similar situation? I know we all grieve regardless of how our little ones leave us. I just wanted to see if there were any others who had a situation like ours. It's amazing how many people don't acknowledge pregnancy loss and I know it would help to have a community I can come to and talk about it.

Thanks for listening,
Nicky - :angel ds dominic 1/9/03

[its_our_family]

Nicky--

I wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. My dh had an older brother born with a defect where his brain only split into 2 not 4 parts (only they didn't know till after birth) I know how hard it was on them I cannot imagine how hard this is on you.

I hope you find the support you're looking for :)

[abimommy]

I cannot imagine how painful it must have been to have to make such a decision. I am so sorry this has happened to you and my heart aches for your loss...

:hug :hug

[karenpl]

Awwww, Nicky. So sorry for your loss. What a heartbreaking experience to go through.

This board is a great place to get support and understanding.

Karen

[jtsmom]

Welcome to MDC. I am so sorry that you were faced with that decision, I can't imagine what you are going through. :grouphug

[Jacque Savageau]

Nicky A warm and gentle welcome to you.

I remember in a support group I attended many years ago. One of the women had a very similar situation to you. I still remember her son's name Matthew. I remember so vividly the pain she was going through.

I've never walked in your shoes, but I have lost a VERY wanted and loved baby. She was born still. I know how important it is to share your experience and move through your greif.

Please feel free to read through the threads here and find a connection to the women on our boards.

I also invite you to share your feelings here. There is no judgement - only support.

Again, welcome to Mothering. I wish you a gentle and peacefull journey through your greif.

Gently,

Jacque

[naotalba]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious son. I've never been in your situation, but I saw the following site and I thought it might be helpful for you.

http://www.aheartbreakingchoice.com/


I'm sorry such a sad reason brought you to MDC, but we welcome you nonetheless.

[angeldmt]

I just wanted to thank you all for your kind words. This is a totally horrible thing to go through and I appreciate it. I also wanted to let naotalba know that I have been to aheartbreakingchoice.com - it is the best site out there for those who have gone through what I did (or those who are just curious). Thanks to all for listening! I'm sure I'll stick around and hopefully be joining the TTC group soon.

Nicky
:angel ds dominic 1/9/03

[Chanley]

Dearest Angeldmt,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. We are here for you whenever you need to "talk". Most of us have been through the loss of a child and understand how important it is to leave logic and reason behind and just let it all out. So feel free, we understand.


with love,
Shannon