miscarrage questions

[nursiemom]

This is my third miscarriage but the first that has been like this. I found out I was pregnant 2/3. Started brown spotting with moderate/severe cramping on 2/6. Spotted for a week, then brown blood turned to bright red blood, moderately heavy. On 2/10 I went to the ER (my OB wouldn't see me because I was too early, 6 w 6 d) and the ER doc diagnosed me with a threatened m/c. They did a bHcg and it was 185. After I had been bleeding bright red blood with the cramping, I was hurting too much so I went back to the ER on 2/16 (again OB wouldn't see me) and this time my cervix was open and the doc diagnosed me with a m/c. bHcg was 70. 2/18 I stopped bleeding, but still have mild/moderate cramping. 2/20 I had another bHcg, it was 6. 2/21 I finally got in to see the OB. Actually I saw a nurse midwife, who was very nice-- but she said my cervix was closed and I definitely am having/had a m/c. Though I'm not bleeding any more, and my cervix is closed-- but my bHcg is still above 0, so my body still thinks I'm pregnant. I had another bHcg drawn yesterday, but I don't have the results yet. The NMW said that if I still have an elevated bHcg next week, I will need a d & c. I never saw anything when I was bleeding except tiny clots-- nothing bigger than a grape. With my first m/c (also around 6 wks) I saw the embryo and sac. (My 2nd loss was an emergency d & c at 12.5 weeks). So could I have passed the baby without seeing it? Is it still inside? I guess I thought my body would just do this on its own. I have not had an ultrasound because the ER doctors kept telling me my bHcg was too low. Would an ultrasound show anything at this point? I just want this to be over. I have been having this m/c for 3 weeks now. No one in the medical community wants to see me, no one wants to deal with me. Go home and wait. Doesn't anyone realize that this is not just some "tissue" I need to "get rid of"?? This is/was my BABY, a baby I very much wanted. My husband doesn't even understand the loss. He's just glad "there's nothing really wrong with" me. No, there's nothing really wrong-- just your baby just died....

Thank you for reading this....

[surf mama]

I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. A m/c is hard enough without the waiting and wondering and little support from drs. I hope your levels go down to 0. If not will they do an u/s to check before a d&c?

I have to get going because I am off to my midwife to check my hormone levels. I miscarried this past weekend but I'm still cramping and bleeding without passing anything else. I am really looking forward to having some closure.

[theboysmama]

I am so sorry for your loss. Peoples reactions can be so frustrating.:irked: I recently had a m/c and i passed a clot but the fetus had been absorbed. I think that it could be very possible that you could just be passing everything in pieces. I would make sure they do a u/s to check for anything before a dandc. I was still testing pos on a pg test 4wks after my first m/c. I never passed anything else and I had stopped bleeding. It just took my body a really long time realize it wasn't pg. Hang in tehre mama.