What Was It LIke For You A Few Days Before/After The EDD Day?

[Tummy]

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I am coming up on that day. March 4.

It hurts! I do not know if I want to cry, scream, run away, sleep, keep busy making crafts, ect.... I just dont know how I feel right now.

My DH does not seem to have any empathy about this.
I have at times through the past few months tried to talk to him about this. (I have not talked in depth to anyone IRL about loosing my baby) Every time my DH has just kinda pushed the subject away. Had nothing to say about it at all. He a couple mo ago did not even remember when the baby was due.
It just hurts that he is not supportive of me right now, not in the way I feel like I need him to be..... HELLOOOO damn you, this was our baby that rejected me/my body rejected!!!
My emotions are going apeshit and I do NOT like it, not one bit. I know this is because of my EDD that will NOT IN ANY WAY BRING ME THAT BUNDLE OF JOY!!!

Before anyone even says it.. I know pregnancy, m/c, birth is totally different for a man then it is for the woman. I know he thinks with a different side of his brain. I know women are emotional while men are physical. I know I am overreacting about my DH not being as supportive as I want him to be.

Im just sad! No one has said to me that they are sorry I lost my baby. I dont feel like I have gotten much sympathy about my m/c in any way. I have gotten a lot of, "well it was ment to be"... "you have 5 kids, isnt that enough"... "not like you needed another baby".... "why dont you just get your tubes tied and stop having kids"...:irked: oh how the list could go on and on!!!!


What feelings did you have? What have you done to get through it?

[theboysmama]

I am so sorry about your loss. I am in the same position as you as my edd will be on March 18th. My best friend told me she is taking me for a pedicure. I couldn't believe she remembered the date. My dh did not remember the date but he did remember it was in March sometime. I talk w/ anyone I can get to listen bcs that is how I get through my grief. If you don't have anyone that will shut up long enough for you to cry on their shoulder maybe you could try a grief councilor.
I am also getting anxious for the edd. Hang in there and know that there are many women thinking of you.

[pumpkinseed]

I am so sorry about the loss of your baby, Tummy. I don't have any sage advice. I was in the same position with my dh. We never talked about it after the first few weeks, still don't. Even if you have to do something special on that day yourself, make sure that you do something to remember your baby. The due date was agonizing to me, still is-its been a couple of years.
I am sorry that you have had so many insensitive comments your way. I found it easier to tune those people out, but the comments still echo in my mind when I see some of those people.
I agree with theboysmama to try to seek out someone you can talk to. It is too hard to keep it bottled up inside-I speak from experience. Just get your feelings out.
I don't think that you are overreacting at all about your dh's support. Try to let him know what you need, I know that is easier said than done.
Hugs to you, we will be here for you if you need to talk.

[Susan Kunkel]

tHE FIRST EDD was painfull.Each year gets easier.I have blocked out the acualldates of the last two.The day that should have been dc first birthday I brought home my adopted son from Russia. I have since went on to have another ds
Each year will get better
Susan

[Gray's Mommy]

I will be throwing myself into complete baby world on my EDD. I have a client who will be due just 2 days after my EDD would have been. I am thinking that if I can't have my little one, then I am going to make sure that someone else will.

[ColoradoMama]

Honestly, I stayed in bed all day grieving. I let dh take care of dd for the most part. I haven't reached the due date yet of my last miscarriage. I won't be able to stay in bed and grieve since I will be at my niece's wedding - that's going to be tough. I'm so sorry you received so many horrible comments. Sometimes I just don't know what the heck is wrong with people. I'm sorry you lost your baby. It sucks and it's not fair and you are allowed to do what you need to do to take care of yourself!