I'm so relieved...

[veganf]

...and no, I still have morning sickness...haven't been to the drug store yet...

My husband has been very anti-adoption for as long as I've known him. It's not that he doesn't think adoption is great--for everyone else--just not for HIS children. Grrr...
Well, I've been mentioning it consistently, not in a confrontational way, just informative and positive things, and he has FINALLY had a change of heart! I just knew it was in him, knowing his views on the rest of everything in the world, it was hard for me to believe he would be so against adoption forever.

I don't think it was just my comments that changed his mind; he just told me about his work last weekend. He often rents space at a local Knights of Columbus Hall for his medium sized gaming events. He's been renting at this particular place for years and he knows the owner pretty well now. The owner often stops by during the day and hangs out and chats. He's probably in his 60's, with grown children of his own. Anyhow, he also had his younger foster son with him, and then started talking about how excited he is because he and his wife are about to adopt a 2 year old girl from Vietnam.
After he got through telling me this, he said I should just stop worrying about whether this baby is a boy or a girl (because he knows I want a girl, but I'm now afraid to get pregnant a fourth time after this morning sickness), because he said if I really want a girl, we'll have one, even if it means adopting.
I'm really happy, because I don't want to put my family through another pregnancy like this again (not that it's my fault of course). It's just nice to know I don't HAVE to, but that we can still have more children.
Besides, I've always wanted to adopt a girl from Russia. My mother was adopted from Russia. I think it would be perfect.

...whew...

- Krista

[jenmk]

Wow, Krista! That's wonderful news. I'm so happy for you!

[SlingWearin'Mama]

oh that's great!

[eco_mama]

I'm very happy for your family! :twothumbs

I've always loved the thought of adopting. God has blessed me with a dd and another on the way :bow that I'm sooooo thankful for and could never live w/o. But I would totally adopt too. I have always thought about a baby girl from China. Most baby girls born there are just tossed away, I have so much compassion for them. (as well as all the other children in the world) Anways, Congrats for your family and :thumb for your dh "seeing the light!"

[2 in August]

That is so cool. It's great to know that your dh would be willing to adopt since you feel so strongly about it.

[ColoradoMama]

That's great Krista! I have always wanted to adopt a child from Russia, too. The only sad thing about this pg is that it makes it pretty unlikely that it will ever happen! I'm still holding out for a fost-adopt though. I believe that things will work out the way they are supposed to! Good for your dh - I'm glad he had a change of heart.

[CatskillMtnMama]

Krista -that's great about your husband! My DH has always been the pioneer in our family about adoption. He used to work for the Population Council (trying to prevent world overpopulation, a UN group, I think). He says anything over two kids (are "bio-replacements" in a sense), we are going to adopt!

You say your mom was adopted from Russia -- that is very unusual for that generation (I'm not sure what generation, but...). With the cold war and all, I can't imagine any state sanctioned adoptions. She must be a rarity!

I've always seen us with an older adoptee, an American child, who has had an abusive childhood. We'd be up for that -- especially my DH who had a terrible childhood. We'll see, maybe when we stabilize financially!

Liz

[3_angels]

Adoption is so wonderful. :) I have so much respect for couples that adopt. Congrats.

[veganf]

You say your mom was adopted from Russia -- that is very unusual for that generation (I'm not sure what generation, but...). With the cold war and all, I can't imagine any state sanctioned adoptions. She must be a rarity!

It was right near the end of WWII. Lots of children were brought to Europe from those countries (she's technically from Latvia, though her father was apparently Russian). She was in orphanages for quite a while, and foster care in Germany for a bit, then in foster care here for 2 years, and adopted at 8. She sooo wishes she had been adopted by her foster family though, but that's another long story.

- Krista

[CatskillMtnMama]

Of course! I should have thought: immediately post-war (pre Cold War), wiith all the human "shuffling"/relocation going on as people tried to pick up the peices. I've been doing a lot of reading, just by chance, on that time period. I can't imagine what your mom must have gone through... to have lived in those days. To have been an infant/toddler during those times! That is sad about her foster family ... :(

Liz