Anyone Else Nervous?

[Jenny0116]

So, I am feeling fine about having the baby. It's just coming home and being mommy that is freaking me out. I am scared. Being home, and co-sleeping w/baby, waking to feed, getting up to change a diaper, etc. It's what scares me, I just can't picture it. I can picture the birth and being at the hospital, it's all that comes afterwards that's SCAREY!! I think I am normal, but I don't know. Does anyone else feel this way? :o

[vforba]

Well this makes #4 for me and I'm still scared half to death about labor. Even though my last one was born in 2hrs. I'm due March 8th, they just checked me on Friday and they said that I'm starting to thin out and am 2cm dilated. So while I'm thrilled about the anticipation of being a mommy again. What it takes to get there is sometimes not so thrilling!lol
I'm just glad that the other 3 can kind've fend for themselves. lol All I have to do now is finish cleaning the house so I can have room to move and room to put the baby!
vicky

[momto3g3b]

So, I am feeling fine about having the baby. It's just coming home and being mommy that is freaking me out. I am scared. Being home, and co-sleeping w/baby, waking to feed, getting up to change a diaper, etc. It's what scares me, I just can't picture it. I can picture the birth and being at the hospital, it's all that comes afterwards that's SCAREY!! I think I am normal, but I don't know. Does anyone else feel this way? :o

I don't, but only because I'm expecting my 7th, not my 1st. :lol I remember being just as nervous as you are when expecting my first baby, though, and wondering how I was going to be able to "do this" and what if I *couldn't*??? Honestly though, after a little time of "settling in", you are going to be just fine and it won't take long before you're a pro at the feeding/diapering/comforting gig! It's kind of a learning curve, I think ~ give yourself time to figure things out and don't expect perfection from yourself right away. Your baby won't suffer from little mistakes made and you'll figure out pretty quickly what works for you and what doesn't. Try to stay flexible ~ you may have in mind to co-sleep but then find that you don't particularly enjoy it. And that's okay! Be flexible and willing to change your mind and you'll find things will work out better than if you are stubborn about doing things a certain way.

((((( hugs ))))) You're going to do GREAT at this mommy job ~ enjoy your last few days/weeks and try to not worry too much (though I really do understand that it's difficult not to).

[AppleCrisp]

I'm not as nervous about the actual labor as I am about the part afterwards too!! I know everyone means well, but if I heard it once I've heard it a thousand times - that patronizing "Your life will never be the same!" Don't know if that's good, bad, or what! I've had a few people right off the bat tell me its great and I'll love it...and I always thank them profusely for saying so and being encouraging.

[Ellarae]

I'm a tiny bit nervous about the whole birth part, but I know that won't really be that long so it's okay. What worries me a lot more is the recovery and taking care of a newborn and then having house guests. Yikes! Thank goodness my dh is supportive.

I know it will all be okay, I just would like the first part over!

[lilsishomemade]

I'm a little nervous, I've got two little ones and dh works all the time, so I'm going to be home alone with two toddlers and a nb!! But, I'm sure we'll make it through

[Mariposa]

i'm nervous about having to be a mom to 2 kids!

you will be a great mom!! it's the baby's first time too, so you will learn together. just follow your instincts and love that baby and things will be fine.

[Tine]

So, I am feeling fine about having the baby. It's just coming home and being mommy that is freaking me out. I am scared. Being home, and co-sleeping w/baby, waking to feed, getting up to change a diaper, etc. It's what scares me, I just can't picture it. I can picture the birth and being at the hospital, it's all that comes afterwards that's SCAREY!! I think I am normal, but I don't know. Does anyone else feel this way? :o

Yup, and I've got a kid already! I think this shows you're smart, actually. You've figured out that parenting is harder than childbirth much sooner than most people do.

But fear not: You WILL figure it out as you go, and you'll do GREAT. :)

[majorsky]

What worries me a lot more is the recovery and taking care of a newborn and then having house guests. Yikes!

That's my biggest anxiety -- having relatives stop by while I'm still going through the postpartum stuff! Most of the relatives will be supportive and understanding, but my MIL tends to add a layer of unnecessary complexity... I'm dreading her visit after the baby because it's her first grandchild and she's likely to weird out. I'm also not thrilled about having my MIL's mother visit, either.

Kristin

[corhorvath]

Oh yes, please know you're totally normal. I felt this way with my first. My bestfriend just had her first baby one month ago and she felt the same way. The other moms here felt the same with their first.

Your first couple of weeks are going to be difficult. Adjustment is rough but you will totally be OK. I remember with my first my sister told me, "it's ok to break down and cry." And I did and it was great. It was great to know that I wasn't a failure and that it's hard on all of us. We've never done anything like this before and it's scary. Your heart is wrapped up so tight in this little tiny person and you want to so badly to do it perfect. And you know, as long as you try your best, ask for help when you need it, and allow yourself the room for mistakes, you're going to be fantastic. Our little babies need love and attention more than anything else. That comes from you and your partner. The logistics of diapering, waking, feeding, etc.--they're rough but the skills evolve quickly and you'll feel like a pro in a few weeks.

Just give love and do your best, you'll all be fine.

[Mallory]

I am not too worried about the mothering part. My first fit right into my life, I always think every week or month gets harder not easier, those first few weeks are so nice. I was worried a bit more with my second, because the boys are only 19 months apart, but I found the same thing- those first few weeks are easy and things get harder every day (until they are about 6 years old:wink). this time I am not worried at all about having a newborn and an almost 5 and 6 1/2 year old. We are all excited to love this new one.


BUT, I cut my finger with a butter knife the other day, just a little teeny cut, and it about made me pass out. I usually have a high pain tolerance, this wouldn't even slow me down most days. As I am laying on the floor pressing a paper towel to this tiny cut, I am thinking-"I have to have a baby in the next couple of weeks, how am I going to get through that?" "Maybe I should go to the hospital"

[Carrin]

Oh yeah, I'm totally freaked. Last night I had the realization that I'm a quitter, that I usually give up on most hard things in life....I can't give up on th is and it really scares me. I think I'm starting to become irrational. I don't want to go to the doctor anymore because I'm afraid they are going to tell me that I'm starting to dilate. I thought, for the last 8 months, that when this point in my pregnancy came, I'd just be so excited! Not... I know it's normal to feel this way though, especially with your first.

I too worry about after I bring him home. All of the reading and studying I"ve been doing has only taken me up to childbirth. What if I can't figure out the breastfeeding, what if I don't have enough clothes for him, what if I get postpartum depression and my husband leaves me? I know...all irrational. My doula reminds me "Carrin, all this baby is going to need is food, love and shelter". I try to focus on that!

[Jenny0116]

Thanks ladies! At least I am not alone, I did think I was too. I am worried about my MIL sooooo much! She has been driving me alittle crazy lately. I am on bedrest and she comes over to help. Thankfully she does, but I hate that she "ohhh"'s everything we do. How we clean, wash, shop, what camera we buy, etc. It's all getting to me and now w/the baby coming very soon, I think I might burst on her. I am worried she will be overly critical and I won't be able to hold back anymore. I feel bad at the same time, you know? My mom at least knows when to keep her mouth shut and not give any comment. (I do have to thank my sis for breaking her in though).
I appreciate your support though! Good luck to all of you!
Jen