chop wood, carry water... everyday things...

[honeybeedreams]

how do you get on with the everyday things?

it was really hard making dinner last night. i did manage to give my son a bath yesterday and read him some books. but i opened a package of underwear for him rather than do laundry... (which i will have to do at some point, but i am avoiding it)

i have to take him to nursery school this morning and do grocery shopping, but just showering will be a chore.

yesterday i watched the birds at the birdfeeder for a long time. just sitting there, watching....

[aileen]

oh mama honeybeedreams -
your post brings me back so closely to where i was just months ago.
i was reeling and finally a dear friend said to me, "of course you are. be where you are."
finally i realized i need to experience this grief and pain just like i needed to relish the sensation of the mini labor ot took to end the pregnancy. you have lost something that you treasure.
you watch that birdfeeder. watch it just as long as you possibly can.
i trust that in those moments your grief will lessen in your arms and legs and gut and come to rest, perched, lightly, fluttering on the edge of your heart. with you, but with the grace and weight of a small bird.
:heartbeat

[theboysmama]

When people asked us what they could do we asked them to bring meals or watch our older children. I had my dad pay to have someone clean my house ( we could not afford it). These things helped me to just grieve and take care of me.
Hang in there mama.

[Barcino]

It has been 5 mo. for me and I am still in my pajamas and my house is a mess. This is from someone who formerly had a spotless house. I just dont have the energy :(

[surf mama]

I think this is a time to do the bare minimum. We ate quick dinners like grilled cheese or Annie's boxed mac n cheese with thawed frozen veggies. I let the dishes pile up. Also when dh was home he hung out with dd so I could lay on the couch or bed and rest. He also spent many evenings after dd went to bed listening to me or holding me while I cried. It took me a week of really good rest and now I am starting to feel closer to normal again. I am also taking good care of myself...taking a good vitamin, drinking lots of water, etc. This is definitely a time to be as gentle with yourself as possible.

[BethanyB]

Surf mama is totally right. You shouldn't expect a lot out of yourself right now, and neither should anyone else. When you are depressed, you lose interest in everything, including the things you used to enjoy. I guess it just takes time to get back to normal, or so that's what everyone tells me:Hug