taking a break from MDC – GTKY or swap questions please PM me

[~pi]

I am going to take a little break from MDC. I’m having a tough time emotionally right now as I’m making plans for the birth and dealing with a lot of fears about the hospital. I’m finding that this isn’t the bext place for me right now because of that.

I’m pretty irrational and emotional, which I discovered when I started *bawling* after reading someone’s post on the birth plan thread to the effect of, “My plan is to get in the tub right in my own house.”

I don’t even remember who it was, but whoever it was, I know you didn’t mean anything bad by it. It isn’t your fault I’m in the situation I’m in. I really am thrilled for everyone who is planning a homebirth or even a birth centre birth. I’m just jealous and emotional and can’t handle the, “There is an easy solution, just have a homebirth,” attitude right now. It's my issue, so I'm going to go away and deal with it, and come back when I'm feeling less fragile about it.

So anyway, if you have swap questions or GTKY questions, please PM me. I have notification set up and will log in to read PMs, but if you post the question in the DDC, I probably won’t see it. Thanks. :love

[Max'sMama]

Maria,
I am so sorry that you are having a hard time right now! Hopefully, this emotion passes quickly and you feel better about reading posts soon! :hug

[Sandrine]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time.

:hug

[Still_Snarky]

:hug :hug :hug

[ksjhwkr]

Oh Maria, that was me...I am SO sorry!!! I'm glad you know I didn't mean anything by it, but it was really insensitive, I am sorry. :hug :hug :hug

[midwestmom]

I can totally relate. I am also having a hospital birth and although I truely believe it is the best thing for me with my past pregnancy history and the twins and all, I am jealous of the homebirthers too from time to time.

I do want to say that my first two hospital experiences were really positive which helps to get me through. I think yours can be too. You are a strong, smart woman and you know how you want things to go-you have done your homework. That will speak volumes in getting you a satisfying birth experience. For me, when they plopped the baby on my belly, I could have been on another planet for all I cared. I had my precious baby.

If you ever want to talk, feel free to pm me. Hugs, Maria.

[lotus.blossom]

:hug Maria, I'm gonna miss you while you're gone but I understand! Please know that it is YOU that will create your wonderful birth and not the surroundings. :love

[LolaEight]

I'm so sorry for how you feel. My DH absolutely refuses to even discuss a homebirth, but luckily we had two fabulous natural births at our local tiny hospital. I know how hard it is for you, and I want to reassure you that you CAN have the birth you want at a hospital. I go in polite, kind, very knowledgeable, and very firm. I haven't had a problem yet!!!

Hugs to you. I just know that everything will turn out just the way you want it to!!!

[tigress]

i'm going to miss you too, but it is always inspiring to me to see people making decisions that help them to take care of themselves so, thanks for the inspiration. good luck & hugs.

[ma_Donna]

I had planned a birth center birth with Noah, but when my water started leaking with no sign of contractions I let myself be sad that I wasn't going to get the birth that I wanted. I hugged the midwife and let myself be sad for a little while, but I knew that we were making the decisions we had to at the time.

You've got a lot more time to think about it - that's good & bad.

I know that in some ways you're in the same situation. Because of circumstances you're going to have a hospital birth and it's the choice you know you have to make for yourself and your baby.

You've also got the opportunity to make circumstances as best as possible for a hospital birth. I am grudgingly satisfied with my birth because a lot of things felt almost out of control once we got there - you can PLAN and ANTICIPATE.

Take some time. We'll be here, thinking of you... come back when you're ready. :Hug

[otter]

Sorry to hear you are leaving us. My thoughts and well wishes are with you and I hope you feel comfortable in whatever you choose to do.
I am a little nervous and anxious about how things will go but am trusting my self and hoping for the best.
Huge hugs to you!

[MsGrizzle]

I'm sorry to hear this - you will be missed! I had a WONDERFUL hospital birth with my son - it can be done if you have a provider who will respect your wishes and is open to what you want rather than the hospital protocol. Hang in there and come back soon!

[Quagmire]

Oh Maria... :Hug

You have to do what you think is best, but that doesn't mean you can't have the birth you always imagined. Make sure you have someone who can advocate for your beliefs and your hospital experience can become whatever you want. Don't be afraid to demand what you want either! No tiptoeing around... you're the pregnant lady and the customer!

Hope to see you back here soon.

[fenwickmama]

take care of yourself and your little one! we'll miss you...

[jinkel]

Maria,

I'm ALL about working stuff out on my own, so I totally understand. Come back when you're ready. But *do* come back. You'll be missed until you do. :hug Thank you for sharing with us....

[Jade2561]

:hug

Be gentle with yourself - you will be missed!

[Miss Juice]

It took me a while to reply here, because my first selfish reaction was to scream "no no no you can't leave what about meeeeeeeeeee!" Needless to say I'll miss you while you're gone :innocent

I'm sorry it's tough right now. I have a lot of respect for you, that you know what you need and aren't afraid to do what you need to do. I hope you come back soon!

I know you have a lot of considerations and complicating factors, but you seem like such a strong, levelheaded, and well-informed person that I know you'll have an amazing birth. Rememer that factors aside, your body always knows exactly what to do.

I'm wishing you peace, and hoping you won't be away for long!

[JennInSeattle]

Hey Maria!

Well I'm sorry it's so hard right now. :hug I was part of a thread that turned sour because I said something insensitive (so not like me) without meaning to and many pg moms on the thread had a hard time with it - even though I didn't mean it that way either.

Being pregnant is emotional, it's that simple. I now get emotional going back to that thread because of others reactions toward me 3 weeks ago - even though it's done! What can I say, I'm pregnant! lol

I hope the encouragement others have given on this thread help (I too had a lovely hospital birth and will have another) and the little break helps too. My most emotional days seem to cycle in numbers of 3 and 4 back to back.

And don't be afraid to ask your family to hold you up and give you as much love and laughter as you can handle - you don't want to be alone in this. But you've been here and done this so perhaps I'm telling you something you already know. :throb

Anyway - it sounds like we all care about you and I hope you're feeling better very soon. :love

[sewaneecook]

You will be greatly missed during your break! I hope you are able to find some peace within yourself. Pregnancy is such a hard time, especially with everything on your plate. I hope to see you back here soon!

[PancakeGoddess]

Maria, we're missing you, but good for you taking care of yourself. Come back asap! ((hugs))