bellona
03-11-2006, 11:40 PM
My 4yo is very cute when she's just being her. She's cute when she's mothering everyone that's more than a month younger than her, when she talks with her little lisp (that's going away far too fast!), when she dances...ah, I could go on and on.
But, lately, she's figured it out. Where's the problem? Well, she now tries to be cute and its really...not. Like today, we were at a state chess tournament with my ds and the babes were hanging out in the lounge. DD kept 'flirting' with the other parents in there. She'd go over and smile at them, and if they were receptive she'd hug them or talk baby talk to them or (if I turned my back for even a second) climb on them:bag: . This bothers me alot. I know there are people out there that do not like this stuff and would be really bothered/annoyed/uncomfortable with someone else child (who they do not know) being so friendly. Also, she was really monopolizing their time/attention. I tried talking to her about it, but you could see the little gears turning. "Hmmmm, mom says this isn't cute and may bother people...but everyone is saying how cute I am". And they were. They were going on and on and on about it, the more assertive she became the cuter they thought she was. We left a few times to calm down, but I am not happy about the whole incident.
I don't mind her talking to people, its just a problem for me when she gets physical with strangers and when she interupts their conversations or acts like her baby brother to make them think she's cute. We've gone over the whole stranger thing, and she doesn't talk to strangers unless I am right there , but if I am right there she just goes all out.
This has been going on for some time now. We've spent alot of time in the past few months with my grandmother who thinks everything dd does is adorable. I think its great that grandma loves her so much, but there are some times that what she is doing just is not ok IMO, and its hard to convince her of it when she's hearing "oh, that's so cute!"
I didn't talk much about it today when we got home. It had been a long day and we were all tired. I'm going to try working on it tomorrow. Any ideas? She's so smart and funny that I don't know why she feels the need to do this stuff to get people to be friends with her.
But, lately, she's figured it out. Where's the problem? Well, she now tries to be cute and its really...not. Like today, we were at a state chess tournament with my ds and the babes were hanging out in the lounge. DD kept 'flirting' with the other parents in there. She'd go over and smile at them, and if they were receptive she'd hug them or talk baby talk to them or (if I turned my back for even a second) climb on them:bag: . This bothers me alot. I know there are people out there that do not like this stuff and would be really bothered/annoyed/uncomfortable with someone else child (who they do not know) being so friendly. Also, she was really monopolizing their time/attention. I tried talking to her about it, but you could see the little gears turning. "Hmmmm, mom says this isn't cute and may bother people...but everyone is saying how cute I am". And they were. They were going on and on and on about it, the more assertive she became the cuter they thought she was. We left a few times to calm down, but I am not happy about the whole incident.
I don't mind her talking to people, its just a problem for me when she gets physical with strangers and when she interupts their conversations or acts like her baby brother to make them think she's cute. We've gone over the whole stranger thing, and she doesn't talk to strangers unless I am right there , but if I am right there she just goes all out.
This has been going on for some time now. We've spent alot of time in the past few months with my grandmother who thinks everything dd does is adorable. I think its great that grandma loves her so much, but there are some times that what she is doing just is not ok IMO, and its hard to convince her of it when she's hearing "oh, that's so cute!"
I didn't talk much about it today when we got home. It had been a long day and we were all tired. I'm going to try working on it tomorrow. Any ideas? She's so smart and funny that I don't know why she feels the need to do this stuff to get people to be friends with her.