My Xs Wife Lost Their Baby Today

[Tummy]

Idk why but I want to talk about this.
My X (father of DD age 3.5) and his wife were expecting a baby in September. She found out on Thursday after she began to have some spotting that the baby had no HB (12 weeks preg). When she told me (while the exchange of DD) I just busted into tears.

Only being 6.5 months after my M/C it broke my heart. My baby was due just over a week ago.

I was excited for them to be having a baby together. Regardless of the differences my X and I have had, will have... a baby is such a blessing... such a wonderful thing for any person to experience.

She told me that she had a D&C shed for Tues morning. I told her "dont do it, let your body work." I told her of my m/c and how it took 4 weeks of bleeding ( a week of me knowing he had no HB) for my baby to pass. She said that she could not do that, it would be too painful for her. I respect her for that.

It really takes a strong person to go weeks knowing they are carring a dead baby, just waiting for that moment that the baby will leave your body!!

I sent a text msg to my X earlier this afternoon asking how she was doing. He responded with she passed it this morning!

:crying

I talked to her tonight. She seems to be in good spirits.

I know all to well what it feels like. I know all to well the pain she is going to have in weeks/months to come!
I offered what I could to her in my words. I just pray that she believes me and knows Im honestly here for her if she needs to talk or needs anything else. I told her that it was comforting for me to have someone to talk aobut my m/c.
I have had noone to talk to about mine, not anyone that has been through it!!!

I feel so bad for them and their loss. And just wanted to get it off my chest a bit. My heart hurts for them!
Thanks for letting me share with all of you!

[Red Sonja]

:hug

I understand a bit what you are feeling. I found out not long ago that my XH and his new wife lost there DS at 5 months old. It's hard when someone you were once close to experiences that kind of loss.

[dziejen]

:hug So sorry. I think that it is hard to hear of anyone losing a baby, especially when we have felt that pain ourselves and know what they are going through. It's nice you are able to reach out to her and support her at such a sad time.

[BethanyB]

It's sweet that you care so much for your ex and his wife, and it's nice that she'll have you to talk to about her loss.:hug

[dace101]

It's wonderful that you have offered a shoulder to cry on to your ex's wife, and I wish that the both of you can find some healing in each other. :hug
Please remember, though, that everyone grieves in different ways. She may not want to talk about it much, and it may be quite painful for her to hear about your own loss (even though this may prove quite therapeutic for you). I completely understand how painful it is to m/c and the memories that can be rekindled when hearing of someone else's loss, but for some people it can be hard to talk so openly about it.
Hugs and snuggles to you, I hope your heart heals soon.

[Tummy]

:wave DACE.. I was just thinking of you today... Miss you. Thanks to all of you for your words.