Le sigh

[KC in KS]

I realized something today - I'm actually feeling a little bored by this pregnancy.

With DD, I was totally baby-obsessed. Spent all my time reading and thinking about pregnancy, birth, parenting. I had lists of things to discuss with my doctor at each appointment, and I eagerly awaited them. I scoured the net looking for reviews of baby products, looking for the perfect things. I eagerly read up on each week's development, and kept of calendar of each milestone.

With this munchkin, I'm nearly blase. He'll get here when he gets here. I'm only going to my prenatals to humor my doctor. Shopping? I'll just grab some dipes next time I'm at Sam's, and I'm all set. Milestones? They'll happen eventually. Ho hum.

Maybe it'll be different once I can feel him moving around in there... :(

[peilover010202]

I understand. I've been the same way. I hope that our u/s next week will get me more excited. Right now, I just take solace in the fact that I do feel the babe move - so all must be well.

But, like you, even the monthly dr appt's aren't getting me excited. In fact, for the last two, I've told dh that really, no reason for him to come. Unless he wants to hear the hb. And, so far, he's happy hearing from me each time that all is well.

I'm hoping spring will kind of kick me into gear and get me excited about getting closer. I can't believe next week marks the halfway point for me.

[BirthFree]

Are your pg close together? I noticed that I felt similar (but I had a just barely 1 year old) last time - but this time I am savoring it all (no idea why, but I really do so love being pg and this may be my last time (hopefully I get one more chance though)). I am feeling a lot of movement and I get to get caught up in that with baby and imagine who s/he is going to be.

I don't get obsessed though, just think about baby in there every day - but the other stuff? Not at all. :) You just know you're not starting from scratch the 2nd+ times around...
~Julie

[KC in KS]

Well, DD is 17 months now, she'll be 22 months when the baby's born. But now that I think about it, I conceived only a month after weaning.... maybe it is just all blurring together for me. Interesting perspective.

[veganf]

Yeah, I hardly remember my second pregnancy. I felt like I still had a newborn. They were born 15 months 1 week apart. The night A.J. was born everyone was scrambling around trying to find my birth supply stuff because I hadn't gotten it all together. I just didn't have it in me.
This pregnancy I just want it to be over. I love that last push when you get the humongous weight out of you. Everything before that sucks to me. I'm trying to enjoy the baby moving, but really I just find it annoying!!

- krista

[rebeccalizzie]

I'm a bit more excited than some of you, I think, but it makes sense--with 10 years between kids, this is all pretty new to me again! But I'm definitely not obsessed the way I was last time--I have one book that I like because it shows how big the baby is, and I read Birthing from Within because I had an epidural birth last time, but other than that I haven't been into finding out everything I can. I just don't worry about it as much! I can't get into the idea of classes or a doula or any of that...my attitude is that the baby is going to come, I'm going to deal as best as I can, and my doc and midwife team are going to support me (they strongly encourage natural birth).

DH isn't into my appointments, and I could care less if he comes--I wouldn't go either if I didn't need to. I do wish I could hear the hb whenever I wanted though...especially since I'm just starting to feel movement. He's going with me to my u/s tomorrow, and he's excited about that, but other than that he doesn't come.

[eleven]

I actually wasn't that "into it" the first time either. I never had much to talk about at prenatals and I have a mostly empty pregnancy journal somewhere around here, too. :lol

This time I'm thinking more about the actual birth because I'm planning a VBAC. Other than that, though, whatever!

[BirthFree]

Yeah, I weaned my firstborn a month into pg (well, he weaned, my milk dries up instantly when I'm pg)... and that's part of the reason my second was a bit of a blur (and I kind of felt like it was "ho hum")... I mean when you JUST did it like 10m before it's hard to be "YIPEEE!" as much (or it was for me). Second pg was also a suprise so that was part of it.

This pg I was still nursing into it, but my youngest was almost 2 years old... BIG difference adding another year to what it had been before! Planning a pg makes a big difference for how I feel about it too (but the time frame is huge too).

I'm into what is happening weekly, stocking up on newborn cloth, making my own diapers (soon), etc., etc. but that didn't happen at all last time... just for the sake of having too much on my plate already... or at least it's how it felt.

Hope you don't feel bad about it KC... you'll love the baby when they are here.
~Julie

[marymamma]

I feel the same way. My DD is 15 months old and this pg was a surprise too. I just don't feel as excited about this one yet. Also, my DD keeps me very busy, so I don't have a lot of time to think about being pg. Hopefully, when we get the ultrasound and find out if it is a boy or girl, then I will get more excited about planning. It might also help when I am more obviously showing and wearing maternity clothes and I will feel more pregnant. I am feeling some flutters here and there, but not too much movement yet.

[2 in August]

Some days I forget I'm even pregnant. I feel bad about it but I've got a busy preschooler and we're always doing something. Now that I don't feel sick I just feel normal, except my jeans are finally feeling a little tight. I do feel little movements every day but not anything consistent. I should have my u/s in another week or two so maybe knowing what is in there will help. Dd is so excited and keeps asking questions so some days that's the only thing that helps me remember that I really am going to have a baby in a couple months.