ANOTHER boy?!?!

[tatgurl]

So, we found out this week that we are having another boy. this will be 3 for us. I REALLY wanted and thought that we were having a girl. I don't know how i'm going to stay sane with 3 boys in the house. I have enough trouble with two!!

[Azreial]

:hug I hope you're feeling better about things soon

[jenmk]

You will be the only voice of reason in your house. :)

(I have two boys and am hoping for a girl this time, too. I find out next week.)

[autumnfaery]

Trust me, you won't even hardly notice a third boy. They just sort of blend into the madness. :lol

~ says the mom of three boys...

ETA: I do know the disappointment you may be feeling. As much as I love my boy#3, it was really hard to deal with the idea of never having a daughter. Little did I know that I would get another chance. Of course, I'm sure I'll end up with 4 boys. Now that's a little frightening (imagining into the teen years and my grocery bill!).

[tatgurl]

I guess that one of the hardest parts for me is that we were totally DONE with having kids after two and this one was a big OOOPPSS.
The thought of it possibly being a girl was helping me to get through it. And we will not be having any more. DH will be getting the snip.

[autumnfaery]

This is totally me too. I'm really trying to keep neutral on the whole gender issue for that reason. When I first got pregnant (a HUGE oops!), my first thought was how I was going to maybe have a daughter after all and that made me feel slightly better about the whole thing. I realized pretty quickly that I needed to come to grips with the fact that I will likely have a boy again and to NOT get my hopes up about a girl. That's partly why I feel the need so strongly to find out. I don't know if I can hold off that longing for a daughter for an entire pregnancy. And I'm afraid my disappointment (not in having a son, but in not having a daughter, if that makes sense) will be overwhelming this time. (Dh is getting the snip, so no more for me either.) I feel like I need to know now so I can get a grip on the situation well in advance.

These are such difficult, guilt ridden emotions to deal with. I really understand where you're coming from. :hug

[aisraeltax]

im not in your DDC but just wanted to share that i was in the same situation. ds3 was born 1/1/06. i always kept this secret hope that the u/s was wrong, but it wasn't. i really wanted the experience of a girl since ds3 was such a "surprise" in teh first place. alas, it was not meant to be. you have a right to mourn the little girl you will never have, but i assure you that you will love and cherish your ds3 as i do mine.
i still feel jealous w/ all the pix of the little girls and i still drool over little girl clothes (they are sooo much cuter than little boys clothes).
i only dress ds3 in pastel colors...if anyone gives me anythign dark, it goes to the back of the closet! if i cant have a little girl, at least ill have pastels for as long as he is little! :)
good luck with your preg. and remember that it will be cheaper not having to buy all new stuff! :)
rach

[KarmaChameleon]

I guess that one of the hardest parts for me is that we were totally DONE with having kids after two and this one was a big OOOPPSS.
The thought of it possibly being a girl was helping me to get through it. And we will not be having any more. DH will be getting the snip.


Tatgurl, you must be my evil twin. I could've written your post, except of course that I am having 3 girls. And it isn't so hard for ME to not have a son but poor hubby reeeallllly wanted one. But he will still be getting the big V.:mischief

[veganf]

Well, we won't know unti August, but I know if it's a boy I'm going to feel guilty about having wanted it to be a girl so much. My SIL has 6 boys, ugh. But I am the youngest of 5 girls. I just really want a more gender balance family, and we will either "spin the sperm" if we can manage to PLAN another baby, or adopt a girl. I just seem to be unable to accept NOT having a girl someday. :innocent Sigh.

I have tried to talk my husband about a vasectomy when we know we're done, but he won't have ANYTHING to do with it no matter what approach I take. When it comes to birth control, it's all in my court. :irked: I should have thought of THAT for the prenup! LOL

- Krista

[Mama2 '05'06]

This is only my second baby. The first is a precious little girl -10 months old now. I am the oldest of 9 kids. 8 girls and finally a boy. He turned 8yrs old on Valentine's Day. My husband's family is exactly opposite with just 6 kids- 5 boys and 1 girl. I wonder how we will end up. His two older bros each have a girl and a boy. The one bro and wife are expecting another baby 2 months before ours. I don't know if I want another girl or a boy. On one hand it is so much fun dressing up a little girl and our dd had enough hair for a pony tail on top at 6 weeks. so that is fun. Her hair is down to her shoulders now and I can put it in two tails or use foam curlers on it or braid one tail. A boy would be nice b/c I think dh would like a son though he says a girl is fine. I don't know when we will find out. Before we got married he wanted 6 kids and I wanted 8. We'll see. Am I crazy?

[Kindermama]

CONGRATS and my answer is the same way I'm going to stay sane in a few years down the road when I have 3 hormonal girls......you just do it! It's life :D lol

[peilover010202]

Oh, I can't believe I missed this post. I'm sorry you are a little let down about not having a girl. But, congrats on a new little man! :) Boys are so much fun. I grew up with 3 younger brothers. :D

[tatgurl]

I just wanted to thank you all for your support and reasurance. It's getting a little better every day. Boy am I glad that we found out before the birth that it wasn't a girl.

The only thing that gets me now is when I see all the awsome girl stuff out there. I don't think that I could bring myself to put a bracelet on a little boy, although they do have some less girly ones.

Anyway, I guess that now I can take all the money that I was going to spend on new girly stuff and use it for a cute boy diaper stash and the new carriers that I want to get this time around. :wink

[aisraeltax]

i dont think you will ever get over looking at the girly clothes..this is ds3 for me and i drool every time i stand in front of those things. i consule myself with teh fact that i get to save all that money that is really just clothes!!
oh, and as far as carriers...some mamas wont wear girly carriers if they have boys, but the way i look at it, those carriers are part of MY clothees, not his! i have a pink moby wrap and a gorgeous reversible MT that has beautiful iris' on one side.

[2 in August]

My Aunt and Uncle have 3 boys each 2yrs apart. Growing up with them was definately interesting coming from my family of just me and a younger bro. But you know what they all really were/are great kids and grown up and having their own kids. You need to give yourself some slack for being sad about the dd you didn't get. It's normal to have that kind of reaction. Like the pps said he'll just blend right in and you'll love him just as much.

[fromscatteredtribe]

hugs momma!

your post made me cry!

when i was pregnant with ds3 they told me he was a girl. when i became (oops) pregnant with ds4 i didn't even hold out any hope ...

i love my boys and i get to be the princess. i can blame some stuff on being a woman and get to buy a pink toothbrush just for me.

dh did have a vasectomy when i was pregnant with ds4 so no girls here....no cute little dresses and no fun bandanas to match...alas, they are pretty cool kids and i will keep them and love them and pamper them like you will yours :)
congrats