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Katie Bugs Mama
03-20-2006, 11:59 AM
Hi--One of my closest friends is in the process of losing her baby. Her water broke at 15 (maybe 16?) weeks, and it's just a matter of time. This is her 5th lost pregnancy since her daughter was born 5 years ago. She had one etopic, three miscarriages between 9 and 11 weeks, and now this.

In some ways, I think that this one is even harder than the other losses because she finally had the hormonal problems that caused the first three mc's under control and because she had made it through the first trimester. She had finally allowed herself to hope, only to have her hopes destroyed. She says that this is her last pregnancy because she can't stand the pain any more, but she is heartbroken at the idea of not having another child.

She lives 4000 miles away from me in another country, so there is very little that I can do for her directly. However, I was planning to send her something. I several novels by her favorite author that I was going to send her anyway, but now I'd like to include another book of some sort that might give her a little bit of comfort. Does anyone have any recommendations?




AllyRae
03-20-2006, 12:21 PM
My hands down favorite "grief" book was Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby...it is about any type of pregnancy/birth/infant loss and it talks about the grieving process, making memories of the baby, and making the decision to try again. If she believes in Christianity, the book Empty Cradle Full Heart is a good one (it's not related to the above book even though the titles are really similar...)

egoldber
03-20-2006, 01:22 PM
I would second Empty Cradle Broken Heart. Its a great book.

Other books for when she is ready might be:

Sweet Grapes: How to Stop being Infertile and Live Again
Adopting after Infertility

Katie Bugs Mama
03-21-2006, 05:03 AM
Thanks so much! I'll include a copy of Empty Cradle, Broken Heart. It sounds like just what I was looking for.