SAHM to WOHM x-post

[Momma2LiamandTara]

x-posting from working mamas

I'm about to file for divorce nad I'm going to have to go from being a full-time SAHM to a full-time WOHM. Hoiw did you make the adjustment and how did your kids? My kids are 3 1/2 and 17 months never been in daycare. I've left them w/ sitters for a few hours here and there. I'm mainly owrried about my dd (the younger dc) she gets very sad when I leave nad cries on and off when i'm gone. We are still nursing too. I'm looking into a compnay that is family friendly and has on site daycare.

It's going to be hard on me too. I love bing home with them but i can't stnad their father anymore and the thought of being with him anymore is awful. So I know it's for the best but how did you do it?

[CalebsMama05]

it is hard. the hardest part for me is finding a job :L which is rather difficult since i'm at the end of my pregnancy already.

I've always had issues with daycare (just didn't want Caleb in them) so my sister is going to be taking care of him/them (after Cayden is born) while I'm at work/school.

I hope it is a smooth transition for you.

[freewitheft]

:Hug

My boys are the same ages and we've been in the same situation. Little one is still nursing too. TBH, if I could've found acceptable childcare I'd probably be WOH part-time and make enough to support us. But my 3yo isn't potty-trained and I'm not willing to push the issue, so I was stuck.

I've taken on a paper route that covers a little more than 1/2 my bills. I'll be watching a baby p/t starting soon too. I'm only a few hundred dollars short of being able to meet my budget. I also do direct sales, but just recently moved so have to get to work building a new client base. Also looking to start another part-time biz that will hopefully prove profitable eventually. Or, finding another child to watch even p/t would be enough to make up the difference. I've had a couple people contact me through a post on craigslist for AP-style childcare, but nothing firm yet.

All that to say, look into your options. If you don't want to WOH, perhaps you can find a way not to. It's definitely scary to forego a steady paycheck, but it can be done. I'm glad I was forced to look for another way, b/c with all the changes we've been through, I think it would've been very hard on them to have to go into daycare too.

[woobysma]

:Hug just wanted to give you a hug and say "I've been there" - My youngest was only 7 months when I was told by my office that I couldn't tele-commute full time anymore, so I had to put ds in daycare and was FRANTIC about it.

It did work out OK - I found a very AP-friendly daycare close to work and still went to nurse whenever I needed to do so. I've worked at this company for several years, so I have a really flexible schedule and can shift my work schedule around my family needs. My best advise would be to be creative and sacrifice $$ for flexibility if you can.

Have you thought about going back to school to get an advanced degree and use the finaid for living expenses? A lot of us are doing that (I'm planning on it, but am not quite ready) - I'd rather pay off debt when I'm making 50% more and be able to SAHM until my youngest is in school.

Good luck with your decisions!

[Momma2LiamandTara]

Thanks so much for all the info! I'm pursuing both options of working full-time and going to school full-time. Whichever pans out is more than likely the route I will take. Both palces have on site childcare which is super important to me!

Now to go get the divorce paperwork going.