How long before you tell?

[Full Heart]

So I am 5 weeks today and really want to wait till after 12 weeks. But seeing as this is #7 I will most likely be showing by then and how will I hide the midwife visits? How long are you waiting to tell? Am I just being silly? I like walking around with a secret only I know. :innocent

[grapejuicemama]

I can never wait! I always tell people the day I find out.

Some of my friends even know that I'm waiting/hoping/praying for a BFP in the next couple of days.

Maybe I'm just an attention hog. :loveeyes: Plus I like to talk baby to the other moms.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[RachelJune01]

I waited 11 weeks with my first. This time I would like to wait until my 1st trimester is over, but it will probably be more like the end of July. We will have to see how long I can make it though. :)

[an_aurora]

Everybody already knows lol...I'm 6 weeks tomorrow and we told DH's dad the day after we found out, because it was Father's Day. Then I told my sister and I had wanted to wait until I could tell the rest of my family in person but my sister blabbed and everybody knows.

[Arwyn]

Mom and pseudosister - waited 6 hours.

TTC threads - waited 12 hours.

March DDC - waited 4 days. (that's today - HI!)

MDC in general - I'd say next week, but I'm going to be gone, sooo... :shrug Mid July?

The rest of my family - dunno, I'm thinking of using this as an excuse to host Thanksgiving, so I guess whenever that question pops up. :lol Otherwise, we're definitely waiting for as long as we can manage. Fortunately, we don't live in the same state.

The rest of my friends - Whenever I happen to show up with either an obviously pregnant belly or a baby in tow, they'll know. I'm cruel like that.

Random people I don't really know - when it becomes obvious enough that they comment on it.

If I weren't on TTC threads at the time, I would have waited to tell anyone for at least a week, and I now think I should have waited on telling anyone but TTCers for at least that long. Ah well.

[Astromom]

My DD is the one who told me I was pregnant so of course I had to tell her as soon as I got my positive! And my MIL called like an hour after I got it and I was too excited and told her, so of course I had to tell my mom to be fair. My SIL guessed by looking at my ol' bloated tummy. And.. pretty much I'll tell anyone. I'm not much for waiting until the second trimester, because I've had a second trimester loss. So, no point to wait as far as I'm concerned!

[paisley]

TTC threads - waited 12 hours.
You held out on us for 12 hours? Shoot I didn't last 12 minutes before you all got a pic of my pretty pee stick. :lol

Let's see, so far I've told my close IRL friends, you all and anyone here who reads my sig, and really that's about it. I've had some early losses in the past year so I think I might wait a bit longer before telling family, etc. I also need a bit longer for it to finally seem real to me! Ds is 3 and we are talking about waiting until I'm showing (thus tangible evidence of his sibling) to tell him, but he seems to be onto it already as you can see below.

[Llyra]

I tell my online friends everything :loveeyes: , but IRL, I'm only gonna tell my parents and my in-laws. I'll wait to tell everyone else until September, I think. Actually, I'm planning on breaking the news at DD's birthday party, which will be the second week of September. I have a heart conditon and extensive uterine scarring, and I'm at a higher risk of miscarriage as a result. It'd so hard to "untell" the casual friends and acquaintances and co-workers; to me it'll be easier just not to tell until we're sure this baby's gonna stick.

[paisley]

Llyra - I know just what you mean by having to untell everyone. It's the pits. :hug Extra :fingersx: and :sticky vibes for you Mama!

[kdf]

I just found out today and it isn't even a for sure. I had a faint line at the dr office so I am still waiting for the blood test. But I know I am pregnant. I want to tell everyone now. We are going to a cabin for a week with my family next week so there is no way I can keep it quiet but we are going to wait until we get the results from the blood test. We made a t-shirt for my dh to wear to tell everyone. It says on the front "My boys can swim" on the back " Coming to nursery near you March 2007".

[hapahaolegirl]

I told DH right away but I'm not telling anyone else until I at least get my pregnancy confirmed by a doctor. Last cycle I had a few BFPs and told my entire family and a few days later I had an early miscarriage. I'm not going to put everyone through that again. It was really embarressing too!
Of course with DD we told everyone almost immediately and she's here today. I'm just a little more skeptical this time around.

[audeesmom]

We are waiting this time around. With #1 we told everyone pretty much the time we found out. Even though all turned out perfect with #1, I got scared a few times with spotting, didn't want to talk about it, and couldn't control the mother-in-law train once it got rolling. I think we will wait until the 2nd trimester...but I already have a mini bump! How many times can you say you're bloated?:hide:

[Mindi22]

We've started telling everyone. I looked at DH last night and asked him - what if the test was a false positive... he says, well, we'll have a lot of calls to make! The way I feel though, I doubt it.

I talked with my sister last night, though, who told me that once she found out she was pregnant, she just told everyone. She'd stick it into any conversation, regardless of relevancy. So I didn't feel so bad about just starting to inform the family. I've told a few friends, but mostly just family first.

I figure once I get the confirmation from a doctor, then I'll tell the world. I have no poker face, though, so if anyone asks me prior to that, there will be no hiding it!

=Mindi

[Full Heart]

I told dh I don't want anyone to know till after we hear the hb. Especially the kids, I would hate to try to tell them something happened. If I tell my mother everyone will know, same as with my ils. I could tell my friends probably, and they would be good support if something happened. But that doesn't mean I want to :lol . Its a secret for now...just the whole internet knows! :innocent

[cinnamonamon]

Well, I told MDC before I was even sure, and if dh ever comes downstairs from playing his stupid computer game I'll even tell him. :rolleyes I'll probably call my rockin mil tomorrow & my family on Saturday at my sister's wedding!

[lotusdebi]

Well, it's in my sig line, and I'm posting here about it, so a number of my IRL friends will probably know before long.

We're not telling family immediately, though. I had a miscarriage in February, and I don't want to go through untelling people again.
Then again, I suck at keeping secrets, and my son's birthday is coming up, so it may slip out...

[shalena]

I'm not planning on saying anything to my family until closer to 12 weeks. My FIL is not going to be exactly supportive, but I know everyone else will be excited! :D

[Brisen]

I only just had a veeeeeery faintly positive line today, though I'm feeling pg; I've just told dh and some online people. I'm testing again in a few days, hopefully that will give me a more solid result.

I wait until the first tri is over for family and general people, but I do usually tell a couple of close friends before that. I've had 2 m/cs, and I would hate to have to "untell" (as has been said here) and have people worrying or making a fuss. We don't live close to family, so either they don't see my weight gain, or if they notice it when we visit, they'll likely just think I'm indulging in too much ice cream and not getting enough exercise. :p

This will (:fingersx:) be #4 for us -- dh's family will be supportive (they have 7; dh's two sibs who have kids have 4 and 5 each) but mine will not. So I don't mind putting it off, though I would like to tell MIL earlier.

[secretlypregnant]

Not sure exactly how long we'll wait to tell. I waited 3 days to tell dh. I dropped hints left and right but he wasn't getting it, for example:

dh: "I'm going to get a movie. Do you want anything?"
me: "Oh, what about that movie She's Having a Baby. It's older but they probably have it." :innocent
dh: "I'll look for it."

:hammer :nana:

I think we're going to try to make it through the first trimester. Never made it that long before telling in the past. This time it just feels right to keep it to ourselves.:innocent

[paisley]

Secretly - I am so dying to know who you are! Do we get any hints? What forums do you frequent? :mischief Come on, we can't do too much damage with the search fuction down. :wink

[raversangel]

mdc - hehehe, like 5 min after i poas :lol although i waited to come over here for a day or two

relatives - well its 'tradition' in my family to spread the news after the first tri...which with what happened last time i'm definatly going to wait until i'm 12wks at least...probably after my first ob visit and we hear a good hb like other posters have said...

[secretlypregnant]

Secretly - I am so dying to know who you are! Do we get any hints? What forums do you frequent? :mischief Come on, we can't do too much damage with the search fuction down. :wink

Don't wonder too much...you may not even know me if you knew who I am (did that make sense:scratch) :wink Seriously, I have been at MDC for a LOOOOONNNGGG time, but I spend alot of time :lurk: and :notes:. Sometimes I feel a bit invisible. But I :love it here.
:mischief I feel so mysterious :mischief

[pianojazzgirl]

Well, I let all my TTC/parenting buddies know just as soon as I could get to the computer! LOL!

No one IRL knows yet - not even dh (he's working out of town and I don't have the number where he's staying). Since having a mc earlier this year I think I'd like to play it cautious and wait until after the 1st tri.

[PinksMommy]

Hmmm, I'm 5 weeks and I don't know. I haven't even told DH yet...we were on vacation with his bio-dad when I found out this week and I didn't want to draw a bunch of attention to myself with a big distraction because they only get together every few years.
Then today, my and DH's mutual best-friend-for-life came home from USMC boot camp and is having a graduation party tomorrow. Tomorrow is also my mom's birthday. So I'm planning on telling DH on Monday/Tuesday and telling other family in the next couple of weeks, maybe after I get a confirmed test from my doctor or the health center. Although I have POAS 6 times already and I feel like ass, so I'm pretty sure it is real.
I have already told you all and 2 of my girlfriends IRL, one from my local AP board and my old neighbor who is my only real mommy friend that is my age.

[chemE_momE]

So far I have told five friends and no family (except DH and DD of course). A lot of my friends knew I was going to start TTC in June, so they may be asking, in which case, I may be telling. :lol Our families have no clue though. We'll try to wait as long as we can, but I don't know how long I can wait. With DD I think we waited about 8 weeks (until after my first midwife visit). The thing is, I feel like I'm going to start showing earlier, so it'll be harder to hide.

[BrookeAD]

I will have to tell earlier than I'd like to my principals so that I can leave school to go to appts. We are going to tell our family at about 12 weeks--I think it's around Labor Day.

[celesterra]

we've told already... in fact, we told on the day we found out 9 days ago! i just figure if something "bad" happens they'll find out, so i might as well let them know when things are happy! :wink

[coffeetastesgood]

We tell friends and family usually around 10 weeks

[crazycandigirl]

As soon as the lines showed we told DD and started making phonecalls. lol:lol I as always have to share my joy. And DH just was not going to wait (not even untill the morning). :p

[Mavournin]

Well, I told Dh and a very good friend. I told MDC and my blog yesterday (a week after I POAS) and I am waiting until later to tell everyone else. I need to tell my mom first - and let's just say she is NOT going to be happy. I'm avoiding that, but when I finally bite the bullet I will spill the beans to friends and the ILs etc. I figure I have a couple couple of weeks before I get really sick - with my other pregnancies I never figured it out until the nausea got really bad, about 7 weeks. When that happens my mom willk either figure it out or I'll tell her. She's already giving me 'the eye' because I've been so bone weary tired - unexplained of course! :lol

[YogaMama04]

We tell right away. I don't broadcast it to whole world, but to my close friends and family. I figure if something happens, I'd appreciate their support anyway, and I wouldn't hide it from them.

[Arwyn]

The "who would I be ok telling about a miscarriage?" is the rule of thumb I go by, too. It's just that I wouldn't want to tell most of my no-children-yet friends, nor my SIL (who would probably say something like "Oh, well that's for the best. You're so young still! You should wait another couple years!" Just because SOME PEOPLE like to wait until their thirties and their husband works on wall street earning six figures a year doesn't mean we all feel the need. :angry: She's said, repeatedly, when she knew we were TTC that we should wait until they're "done" - in probably 3-4 years - because they have "so much great stuff". I DON'T WANT YOUR CRAP! What the hell do I need a crib, a bottle warmer, and a hundred pink dresses for??)

Can you tell I have SIL issues?

Anyway, because we REALLY don't want SIL to know until, well, ever (we'll tell her by Christmas if not Thanksgiving, probably), we're not telling my dad (he CANNOT keep a secret) or my brother (because it's cruel and unusual to expect him to keep it from his spouse - not that that stopped us from telling my mom :lol). And if we're not telling them, then we can't really tell most of the rest of the relatives.

DP's family, well, we don't talk to them anyway, so we'll probably just show up very very pregnant or with a baby one day. :shrug

But see, I'd be ok (well, as ok as one can be) sharing a miscarriage with the whole of MDC - the odds I'd get any kind of crappy comment here, are, well, basically nil. And the congrats and enthusiasm I get from telling are just great! :love

[Ben's Mommy]

Let's see....

MDC ~ Within 15 minutes of my :+!

DH ~ Right before MDC knew.

My immediate family and 2 close friends that same day.

My IL's will find out at my fil's b-day at the end of this month. We're signing his b-day card to include our new little one. :D However my sil is an mdc mama, so if she notices my siggie I guess she'll find out sooner!

Going out for a b-day dinner w/ friends this coming Wednesday and I'll tell then.

Everyone else will find out after my first appt in mid Aug. :thumb

I can't keep secrets for long, especially since everyone knows we've been ttc. I'm about to burst waiting to tell my IL's! :)

[cuddlebug]

I havn't even told dh yet. I am at my mum's for my sister's wedding and he stayed home, and I don't want to tell him over the phone, and I don't want other people finding out at her wedding. I will tell dh when I get home. Then dh's sister is getting married next week, so I will at least wait till a week after that to tell everyone. By then I will be 8 weeks. I waited till 9 weeks last time. I really am surprised no one here has even guessed yet with all my dizzy spells and always being tired

[kdf]

We told our families right away and I wanted to wait a few more weeks to tell our friends but my fil was going around telling our friends and all their friends so we had to tell everyone a lot sooner then I wanted.

[kerikadi]

We have told our closest friends, I called my Mom & my brother, DH told his aunt, I think that's it so far.

My ILs will not be happy at all :irked: They are poo poo heads and DH wants to wait a few months before telling them, probably second tri.
My Dad will probably be ok but he has a tendency to say stupid things and my sister and I don't talk much, she has yet to meet my girls and doesn't even talk about my children when we exchange e-mails :(

We will wait another month before telling the boys and probably tell the girls shortly after that.

Keri