I have a very mainstream DH, hes a great guy but we're constantly battleing about anything natural. I got yelled at today for spending $10 at the healthfood store for kiefer and tapioca flour, when he spent $15 on McDonalds yesterday.:dizzy:

So we just had it out and he said he is going to start an anti breastfeeding group becasue breast feeding is disgusting and immorral and on and on it went. I was in tears by the end of the arguement. I finally told him to stick it and that I was going to nurse my baby untill he was 10 if I wanted to and if he didn't like it to leave me. He stormed off in a huff and I am left here sad and unhappy. So I came here to wine cause I know you all would have something nice to say to help me feel better.

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:hug I'm sorry mama. What ugly, hurtful things he said to you.

:grouphug I'm sorry mama, whine away!

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I'm sorry, mama.

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It's always tough when the older baby in the house is a :moon about how you're taking care of the youngest baby in the house.

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It's always tough when the older baby in the house is a :moon about how you're taking care of the youngest baby in the house.


Yeah. And good for you for standing your ground and doing what's best for the baby.

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I'm sorry he was such an a**!

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So, So sorry. But just imagine how proud your kids will be of you.:Hug

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I am so sorry, hon. I know how hard it is when someone you love (especially someone who is your partner) goes against what you KNOW is right.

I wish I had some advice for you, but I don't. Sooooo - here is a :Hug and :bow for sticking up for yourself and your kiddlettes!!! Way to go!!! :thumb

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You're a better wife than me I would have politely told him to take a long walk off of a short pier.:irked:

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Since I know what background you're coming from, I would suggest that next time he says something you might remind him that Jesus was breastfed, so he may want to rethink the "immoral" aspect of his argument:wink !

How hurtful! I'm so sorry you had to go through that fight. *hugs*

Awww, its okay. :Hug My boyfriend can be a d**k about it too sometimes! :shrug I think guys have trouble with bfing cuz the baby takes over "his" boobies or whatever, and totally disregard all of the benefits of nursing...so immature...

Since you're nursing your ds hopefully he won't grow up to be so jealous of little babies.

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do you have babies?..that is really sad momma, but way to hold yer ground!!
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If he starts an anti breastfeeding group, let us know, we might have something to say to him to.:cuss :hammer :fence:

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You might want to go to the Parents as Partners forum, too, to see if they have any suggestions about what to do if your dh/partner is unsupportive of bf.

:grouphug but I have to call CPS on you because I find it highly inappropriate that you chose to marry a baby :lol

(on second thought, scratch that, he's not a baby. Babies are pro-boob. He's just a douchebag.)

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BTDT w/ my dh. What turned him around on things was going to an Area LLL conference. Can you hang out w/ other parents like you IRL? Do you go to LLL meetings, functions or a similar group?

Good luck!

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LLL will help you.

Gah...you are a much better person than I....even the long walk off a short pier remark was too polite for me. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}} for standing up for what you know is right!

I'm so sorry that your husband said those things to you! Maybe after he has a chance to cool down, he'll apologize.

(My dh is the same way about buying healthier foods that are more expensive... "$1.20 for Annie's Organic Spaghetti Rings!!!! Here's Walmart brand for 60 cents." ARGH!)

Thanks for the hugs guys. I live in a pretty mainsteram area. People look at me like I have to heads when I talk about orgainics, breastfeeding past 6 months, etc. I'm pretty alone here.

I am going to search out and LLL, I hadent before because I thought LLL was for people who needed help with BF.

I doubt DH would ever start any group, but I would divorce him if he did. For sure.

To top off the bad day DH came home with pretty much every crap food you could purchase from the grocery store. Just to spite me. Little debbies, white bread, multicolor sugar captain crunch junk. 2 cartons of the most chemical laden ice cream I could imagine, I think the whole thing was artificial. AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH he is such a pig!:irked:

Yes, get thee to LLL. It is *not* just for problems, it's mother-to-mother support for breastfeeding, and often attracts people with more naturally inclined perspectives.

And if my dh came home with that kind of "food", just to spite me, I'd be tempted to throw it out. I don't allow that kind of sh*t in my house!

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I see your are LDS..or I'm just assuming with your quote in your siggie...
Do a FHE lesson on the word of wisdom....I'm finding more and more how wonderful the word of wisdom is in regards to eating.
Maybe a lesson on prepardness and link breastfeeding to being prepared...heaven forbid a natural disaster and no water, breastfeeding to me is part of the word of wisdom and emergency prepardness. Heck I convinved FF moms in my ward to breasfeed because I approach the subject as a prepardness tool.

Most of all pray, my dh is pretty main stream and rolls his eyes at times when I start talking about breastfeeding but now that I'm still nursing my 3rd child, he is long over trying to ever start anything with me. I'm sure he's picked up on quite a bit of breastfeeding knowlegde over the years.
Just keep praying that his heart will soften and maybe leave the quote I have in my siggie around somewhere...lol

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That does sound a bit selfish and childish. Have you told him about all of the benefits of breastfeeding for you and the baby as well as how dangerous formula can be? If you have, and he still is against it, I think someone needs to learn to put baby FIRST. :P

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Ask him if he'd be willing to have a calm talk with you about breastfeeding and healthy food. Tell him it's important to you. Tell him how it makes you feel when he shows such disrespect toward your choices. Explain your reasons for choosing breastfeeding and healthy foods.

If he's unable to have a reasonable discussion between the two of you, tell him you want both of you to go to a counselor together.

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