Pregnant and NERVOUS

[Touch of Sunshine]

Hey! Didn't know this forum was here.

I'm expecting after 2 consecutive losses, last one was October, and the previous in July. I'm about 8 weeks along now. And every ache and pain, or lack of causes me to go off the deep end.

Paranoia sets in. On days there is no m/s or no breast tenderness, the thoughts are "OH NO, the symptoms are gone.... it's the begining of the end". Yes I know it's SILLY. But i can't help it. I want this baby so much.

Anyone else having lower back pain in the first trimester? Not constant, but there....

Heading back off tot he loony bin now.

[its_our_family]

I haven't been pg since my loss....but I can understand being nervous...I'm sure I will be too!!

[Eman'smom]

I'm just entering my second trimester and starting to relax a bit. I totally understand how you feel. Every little cramp or twinge and I'd freak out. I was afraid to go to the bathroom, what if I saw blood.

It is very understandable that you feel so nervous. The thing that helped me was literally taking it one day, or moment at a time, I tried to enjoy being at whatever stage I was at, "I'm pregnant today, so I'm going to enjoy being pregnant today" I couldn't think about being pregnant for 30 + more weeks, I couldn't imagine the pregnancy sticking that long, so I took it just one small step at at time.

Have faith in your body, and I'll send you lots of sticky vibes.

[Abylite]

Hello!!! I'm in the same boat as you...I had a m/c 3 months ago at 9 weeks and now...

I'm cautiously pg again~ and excited yet nervous. I'm 4 1/2 weeks along!!

I'm trying to take it day by day. I did have a dream last night that I was 9 months pg and I didn't have that dream last time I was pg. I'll take it as a good sign!!!

[Jacque Savageau]

Touch of Sunshine, I see your new to Mothering. A warm and gentle welcome to you.

You're not crazy at all! So, don't pack yor baggs for the loony bin just yet! Take a few moments to read through some of the threads here. You'll see you're not alone.

Many of us have felt like we're loosing it during subsequent pregnancies. I think that's very normal. Please feel free to share your thoguhts and feelings. That's what this forum is about :love

[emmaline]

Touch of Sunshine I could have written your post a few months ago (in fact if you look back at past threads I posted one remarkably similar), I absolutely know how this feels. It is n't silly at all - it's how most of us feel, it's a natural reaction to your experiences.

How to survive it? come here and post often, try to do the "one day at a time" thing, give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel, take care of yourself in whatever way seems right

we'll be waiting to hear from you :hug

[witchbaby]

i am in exactly the same boat. i lost my first baby to a missed miscarriage last february (with a d&c in march)-- found out s/he died around 9 weeks, we found out at 11 weeks-- and lost my second to an early miscarriage at just 4 weeks last month. i became pregnant this time with the aid of parlodel just 2 weeks after my last loss and am only 4w5d right now. i am terrified but still excited.
my main problem is one most mamas who've miscarried don't have: while others look for blood and cramps, i lost my first without feeling or noticing a thing, so i am panicked at all times. i am working on calming myself, but i don't do a very good job.
woah, i just realized this post could really freak some people out. i'm sorry if i place more worry on you. *hugs* and peace to all of you.

[Touch of Sunshine]

We are in the same boat. My first loss was discovered at 15 weeks. Ultra sound showed that the baby had dies at about 11 weeks, I eventually delivered my baby boy at home at 19 weeks. His development was 13 weeks. It was followed with a d&c due to the placenta not releasing(hemmoraging). I lost a second baby at 5 weeks, on it's own. Now I"m at 11 weeks. And anxiously waiting my next appointment, yet dreading it, as this is when we found out about the first baby. I'm happy to say, so far. my symptoms are really strong where they weren't with that first loss. I still feel pregnant, where at one point I just didn't feel pregnant anymore. I'm tired, cranky, enlarged sore breasts, nauseous. It's dreadful, but I rejoice in each symptom, as it means things are currently progressing.

I know what you mean, though, that it's not blood and cramping, it's just NOT knowing.

[ellery]

you have every right to be nervous but dont let it consume u. It will be great. I was super nervous after my loss but i heard that scream and it was the best sound ever congrats and best of luck

[Matzgrl]

So, how are things going? Still pregnant? I am so scared that if I am pregnant again after a M/C that I will be totaly terrified. Just with the worrying of havine another M/C. How did you handle it all? I hope all is going well with you. Update us....

[Touch of Sunshine]

I'm 15 weeks along now :) I think everything is fine. i have a Dr. appt tody for non pregnancy things, but going to ask her to check the heartbeat, just ease my mind. I'm quite sure I'm beginning to feel movement over the last couple weeks, soon, but I'm not a rookie preggers mama, so it is possible.

I'm also starting to think twins....(scary!) cause my belly is growing huge real fast now. But it could simply be lazy muscles too.

Thanks for asking!
I'm feeling good.