Thsi is HUGE! Ok, most of you do not know my story but basically my almsot 5yo DS was in Headstart, His Headstart was awful and it ended in a horrid situation. A teacher had filled his head with BS (she is the boss, we are bad parents, etc. NO LIE!) I did al lt omake the situation right and she retaliated by calling CPS. there was no legitimate basis and it was dropped imemdiately but defiantely hurt teh whole family in many ways. Not only did I rip him out of school (which he had loved prior to these incidents) btu my Dad died teh following day. It has been traumatic.

then we learn due to overcording he and DD will eb attending different elementary schools. More fear on his end!

So he has been refusing to start school (it starts next week). Claiming he will never go and so on. It is only half day but we are in financial binds (DH has been home with him) and at risk of losing it all. But I sent him during the day (with DD) to a cousins last week (daily, all week). Well, it was his first length of time away from us since he was taken fro mschool. His confidence grew. I then showed him hsi new school, it looked ok to him. Then I got him a backpack and shoes. And slowly he is asking about school. Then today, he says he wants to start NOW! :thumb

but my anxiety is HIGH. Oh is it. I fear what he may say (he sometimes says odd things, we beleive he got attention from the bad teacher for it!) He is very sensitive now. And how do I know who to trust. ugh. But this is a major step!

Sounds like you might want to let his new teacher in on the highlights, that he had a rough time last year and you took him out. Just so she knows the history and doesn't have to guess about things. Do you get a parent/student orientation, meet the teacher day or anything like that prior to the first day? If not, ask for one!!!

Definitly let the teacher & the principal know what happened in the previous school and how it affected him then and now so they can watch out for that behaviour.

Yeah, the Principal of DD school-where he was set to go-knows the whole story. Then they switched his school due to overcrowding! So I spoke to the new Principal shortly and she seemed put off (she does not know me so will probably question how a teacher could be so "bad", even tho I kept it simple). I meet his teacher the day before school starts... I have her name now, so I guess I could try to call...

If it were me, I'd let my child go to school, taking the time to clearly explain to the new teacher the situation, and give my child the freedom to choose to go to school or not.
If he's happy to be in the class, great, but if that changes, then dont force him to go.
Just my 2 cents.

Unfortuately, I make little money and DH has not yet found a job tha twill pay enough for childcare and to live on. We need school. We need some help to get us on our feet. We tried the gov't, it was a joke. Many loopholes and were told most programs are cut unless you are all out welfare-which we are not eligible for and if I quit my job that makes me automatically ineligible for any welfare or unemployment ofr at least 2 months.

One sad note is he brought up NEW details of what happened at Headstart today. OUT OF THE BLUE. Clear details (almost 6 months later!!) of how this teacher sat him down and had him talk to her about his parents!! How I know she coerced him!! Oh it scares me so much! And he misses her!!!!!!!! This is pure hell. I ran itno her once soon after and she left teh store. I fear him seeing her, I will nto let their be contact btwn him and any employee of that awful place. They lied ot me so much. They hurt my child. They threatened me. My pleas and concerns were ignored.

OMG, I so cannot do this!