Those who "knew" what their babies were....

[Harmony96]

Hi all,

Random curious question here. :P I know there are women out there who "just know" that they are having a boy this time or a girl that time. And sometimes those feelings are wrong... but sometimes they're right too.

I don't know what I'm having, but ever since the beginning of this pregnancy I have felt that it's a girl. When I'm drifting off to sleep or otherwise half-conscious of what I'm thinking or saying, I always refer to the baby as "her" or "she". And maybe, it's because even though I will be overjoyed with either gender, my subconscious secretly prefers a girl. Or maybe this tiny one inside me really IS a girl. I'll find out in December. :lol

So anyway for those of you who knew what you were having and your feelings were right, what kind of thoughts did you have? :)

Andrea

[elmh23]

I was 100% sure my first was a boy. I was wrong. I dreamed of a little boy and referred to the baby as he even though we didn't find out the sex.

I think I wanted a boy more than a girl for only one reason: to piss off my MIL. She has 6 grandsons and wanted a granddaughter so bad. Also, she really hated the name we picked out for a boy. She doesn't know it yet, but if this baby is a boy (I have no clue with this one, though dd says it's a boy) we're going to use the same name.

[earthmama369]

I just knew from very early on with both of them. It's hard to describe. It wasn't my dreams or anything like that. In fact, several dreams were of a baby of the opposite gender and that's how I knew I was dreaming! :lol

I just had a certainty inside me.

[LeosMama]

I *knew* that my first baby was a boy. Just knew it. I can't explain how I knew. I always dreamed of him as a boy (except for the weird scuba diver dream with the aquarium tank, then the baby was a girl, but I don't count that weird dream :lol)

This time I don't know. I don't feel any different than I did with ds, so maybe it's a boy. But my father and FIL have both been referring to the baby as a girl, so I'm starting to think of 'her' that way.

No strong feeling this time.

[RainbowsMum]

When I first found out I was preg I thought I was having a girl, then slowly it changed and I was totally sure I was having a boy, and when I went for the scan @ 20wks it told me I was having a girl (Shes definatly a girl, well theres little doubt her legs were wide open) which was all good - I was releived cos while I would have been totally happy either way I would have preferred a girl cos I have little sisters so I sorta know the deal with them... Little boys are a bit different. But anyway, my initial instinct was right, and my strong "Its definatly a boy" instinct was totally wrong... But in saying that all the clothes I got for her for when shes first born are neutral and white colours, I have girly clothes for when shes a bit bigger and I've kept all the receipts just incase she really is a boy...!!

[treemom2]

I knew right from the beginning with both my children and I was right both times. This time I'm not sure yet. . .hmmm......

[marnie]

my husband was more sure than i was, but the doctor who gave us ultrasounds at 11 and 20 weeks said without doubt it was a boy. he went so far as to say '28 years and i've never been wrong...' but we *knew* she was a girl. we just didn't believe the ultrasound. we knew she was a girl all along. we were right.

i can't describe what i felt. i just KNEW. it's like someone NOW trying to tell me she's a boy - after 3 years of having her around.

[ChristieB]

Like others have said, with my first pregnancy I just knew. From the very beginning. I had always figured I'd have a girl. Not that I really thought about it that much, but it was just that when I thought of having kids, I always thought in terms of a girl (probably because I'm one of two girls). Then, when I found out I was pregnant, I just knew it would be a boy. I don't think I thought about him really, not like you describe, I just had this knowledge. And I was right.

BTW, my midwife took my pulses during the pregnancy and said that my pulses indicated a boy.

Ever since ds was born, I've always assumed that any other child we have would be a boy. About 3 mos. before we concieved this baby I started thinking that no, this baby would be a girl. And after conception I didn't really have a strong feeling like I did with ds. But I had an inkling that this is girl. I wasn't feeling very "connected" to this baby yet either. Now after we told ds that I'm pregnant, I'm feeling more connected to the baby. And I'm having a stronger feeling about her being a girl.

And, once again, my pulses agree with me. And ds thinks it's a girl, too (we asked him before telling him what I think). We'll see!

Christie

[rad]

I honestly had no idea with my first. With my DD, I was about 98% sure she was a girl. With DS #2 I was 100% sure he was a boy from the start. This baby I swore was a girl and I was totally wrong. :lol

[iamama]

Names. With the first I only had a girl name...had girl. With the 2nd only had boy name had boy.

[boscopup]

For #1, I and everyone around me just KNEW I was having a boy. I had dreams that it was a girl cat... :lol But I still knew it was a boy. Also, we picked out a girl name right away and took F-O-R-E-V-E-R on the boy's name. Sure enough, it was a boy! :)

For #2 that I'm cooking now, I just KNEW that it was a girl. Didn't have any dreams either way. Just knew it was a girl. And we originally picked out a boy's name that we agreed on (until I changed my mind later :wink) and were waffling on a girl's name. Well, shortly before the 20 week u/s, I nixed that boy's name due to the meaning, and we tentatively settled on a girl's name. I wasn't too worried about the boy's name because I really did think it was a girl. Well... the u/s showed that he is definitely 100% BOY. The doctor even said "Wow, he's a BIG boy!" when showing that particular area. :lol But it was very clear on the u/s. No doubt about it. He's a boy.

And of course, now we haven't even discussed names since the u/s, so I'm 28 weeks and have no name picked out. My DS #1 came at 29w4d and there is a possibility of a repeat of preterm stuff, so I'd really feel better with a name picked out, but oh well! We'll decide on one by time he's born or shortly thereafter. I do NOT want his name to be "Baby" on the birth certificate. :)

So for me, intuition was 50/50. I don't trust my intuition on such things anymore. :lol

[mary3mama]

One of my favorite subjects!

With #1, dh and I always thought of ourselves as parents to a girl the first time around. Neither of us has any clue where this came from, it was just there. The night before we had an u/s at 20 weeks, both of us had dreams in which we were introduced to our baby boy. Sure enough, the u/s confirmed boy parts. We didn't find out about each other's dreams until after the u/s. So, we knew before the u/s told us, but only barely.

With #2, neither of us had any feeling at all. U/s showed him to be a boy, and then 3 days later he was gone, due to cervical failure at 21 weeks.

With #3, I never felt a specific thing that told me what I was having, but at the same time, I knew. We went into the u/s scan at 19 weeks and I heard myself telling the tech. "I know it's a boy already, I just want you to confirm that for me." And, sure enough, there were the boy parts unmistakeably. I didn't even realize, really, that I knew it was a boy until I heard myself say that.

With #4, this one, it was a totally different experience. I had been hoping to conceive for over a year, since my cycle had returned after pg #3. But in the 2-3 months before conception of this baby, I felt a spirit hovering around me. It felt more distinctly female than male, but too amorphous to be sure. I remember telling dh that I really wanted to have one more baby and that I felt this spirit around me so strongly. It was a spirit that wanted to come and be a part of our family, but it wouldn't unless he was emotionally ready for it. I told him that if he wasn't going to be ready any time soon, I felt a responsibility to release this spirit so that it could choose another family. After a long talk, dh decided that he was ready to welcome another child, if one wanted to join us. 5 weeks later I was pg. When I was only 4 weeks along, I was sitting outside watching my sons play in the yard, and I had this very strong visual image of a little girl, about 6-9 months old sitting on a blanket in our yard watching the boys play. She was laughing and she had dark, curly hair and an infectious laugh. Then came a strong feeling that I was carrying a girl and that I had no worries this time around. That I would carry this baby to term and that she would grow to be a very strong spirit. For weeks I was able to feel this spirit, not a baby girl spirit, but that of an adult, strong, powerful woman. As I approached about 13 weeks, this spirit left me, at which time I can easily imagine it entered the body of my wee one within me.

It was a great thing to find out via u/s that I am carrying a girl, otherwise all of this would have just been weird. :wink

[L J]

I *knew* this one was a boy from the moment I got my BFP. My husband did, as well. We started referring to him by his name immediately. :)

Two things really stuck out that confirmed my initial thoughts that he was, in fact, a he.

One, I kept having boy dreams. Every night, I would go to sleep and visit with my son. Sometimes he was a newborn, sometimes a child, and sometimes even an adult - but always a boy.

Two, DH and I knew what name we would use for a boy months before conception. We agreed on it instantly, and absolutely love it. We never did even like a girl name, much less agree on one or love one. He swore that was a sign that its was a boy; he was certain that had it been a girl, something would have come to us.

[2much2luv]

I didn't know at all with my first two. My third pregnancy was very interesting all the way through. First of all I felt my daughter's presence so early; I'm not talking about knowing I was pregnant, but rather just feeling bonded to her, IYKWIM. I didn't feel it so soon with the other two. It actually made me worry about miscarriage for some reason. Anyway, about the sex; I was sitting on the floor folding laundry one day in the first trimesters and suddenly just felt as if she were saying hi to me and felt a distinctively female personality. I just said "hi baby" and knew she was a girl, just like that. I felt it. It was very strange. :shrug

[Cloth4Colin]

I think I "knew" DS was a boy all along. It was sort of as if the thoughts of him being a girl never really crossed my mind. I had such strong urges that it was a boy. I carried the "classic" basketball (boy) way and so I had many ppl guessing it was a boy as well.

All of my dreams had the baby being a boy and we came up with his name very easily. When they said, "It's a BOY," I almost went, "of course it is!" LOL!

[mamaglee]

If my first was a boy, I really woulld have thought there had been some mistake. I was *that* sure she was a girl. I had always thought I wanted two boys. Then I got pregnant, and I wanted a girl so badly...so I knew I was having a girl.

I don't know this time and I didn't really know last time, but man, that first time!

[LavenderMae]

With my other two, I knew what sex they were. I had pretty accurate dreams about what they each looked looked like and all. I was right both times. I also started really wanitng wich ever sex I was carrying. I really wanted another girl after my dd so she'd have a sister but almost the second I got pregnant I just really wanted the baby to be a boy and he is.

This time I don't have a clue what this little one is. I'm glad I don't have too much longer until I find out!

[CryPixie83]

With dd I knew without a doubt she was a girl... we had an ultrasound and that confirmed it (that wasn't *why* we had the ultrasound, it was the routine thing ya know?).

With this one... I've felt it's a boy since I knew I was pregnant. The really funny thing is, the morning we found out I was pregnant, we told dd who was about 17 months old and she rolled onto me and snuggled my belly and said "happy happy boy boy". Now she's mean to me and tells me the baby is a girl when I ask :lol I still feel like it's a boy... not much longer till we find out!