Weekly Thread: Sept. 24th - Sept. 30th [Archive]

shockels

09-26-2006, 01:28 AM

Hi everyone!! I thought I'd start a weekly thread for us all to just keep up with the day to day stuff. It would be great to get to know everyone. I should go to bed but am too awake right now. I made an appt. with the hospital midwives today, but I must admit, my heart still wants that homebirth. I had planned a homebirth with Adelaide, but after 5 days of ruptured membranes and exhaustion I transferred to the hospital. i got an epidural and 3 hours of rest and then woke up and pushed her out in 50 minutes! So the trick now is to get DH on board with doing another homebirth. Hmmmmmmmm. luckily there's plenty of time to convince him!

PatchChild

09-26-2006, 06:38 AM

Is it silly to wish I was feeling ms? I'm still having a tough time remembering that it actually worked this time. Feeling something out of the ordinary might help, at least a little.

AllyRae

09-26-2006, 07:10 AM

I'm here, but I'll be out pretty much all day--Brandon has his behavioral therapy, relationship therapy, and occupational therapy today (for his autism)...and the first two are at an office an hour away! Yikes!

About the birth choices...I totally hear you on that one. My heart wants a homebirth. My head knows that hospitals contributed to my son's passing. But there's that nagging voice that's scaring me out of a homebirth (oddly, it sounds like MIL and my mom. :lol: ) I do see the OB next week, but he had me on clomid and prometrium so he has to see me first anyhow...

todavia

09-26-2006, 10:02 AM

thanks for starting this thread sandra.
i made an appointment with a HB midwife that my friend (who is a doula) used for her HB a year and a half ago. she seemed great on the phone and will do all the prenatal checkups at my house - gotta love that.
my family is supportive of HB but my SO is not so into it :( . i told him that he doesn't have to catch the baby or clean up after anything - all he has to do is stay by my side (unless i tell him to get away from me:lol ) and love and support me - same as i would want wherever we gave birth.
also - he really wants to know the sex of the baby and i don't want to find out. Has anyone else had one person know and not the other?
as for pg symptoms - my breasts are definately sore and seem to be growing already - look out! but aside from one night of not wanting to eat dinner (after an hour of cooking and thinking i was starving) - no real ickiness.
i'm kind if looking forward to it too Patch (sorry, i forgot your name). i was pretty queasy with my 1st so maybe i'll get lucky and skip it but those kind of things do help it all feel more real.
we've got such a long ways to go...i'll try to be patient.

Kdybs

09-26-2006, 11:13 AM

Hi all! We will be having a hospital birth:(. I would love to have a home birth but dh is scared out of his mind. So we will have our mw in the hospital like last time. Oh well- she did let dh catch my dd so hopefully he will get to do that again this time.

tls

09-26-2006, 11:23 AM

Hi there,

Glad to chat with you all. Its so funny about wanting morning sickness because I too have been wishing to be sick. I'm so terrified about having another miscarriage that I would love to have all the early pregnancy symptoms and would gladly trade several months of throwing up for a healthy baby.
I am considering a HB but hubby is against it. I had complications with my last birth and it terrified him. I'm gently working on him though.

shockels

09-26-2006, 11:59 AM

Patch: I don't think it's silly at all to wish for MS. Every time I wipe I'm expecting my period to show and for all this to be a mistake. MS would make it more REAL. Once the next 8 weeks pass I'll feel sooooooo much better.

AllyRae: :hug It sounds like your decision about where to birth is more complex and nuanced. I am sorry for your loss. You sound like an amazing mama to Brandon. It's impotant to listen to your family, but at the same time only you and your DP know what's best for your family.

We do have such a long ways to go! I look out at the weeks and months streatching ahead and it feels like FOREVER. But then I remember that with adelaide the time flew after the first tri. I like the idea of gently working on jeremy for another attempt at a HB. I'm more of a bully when it comes to birth. I want it my way!!:lol Ahhh patience is a virtue I'm a little short on.

Happy Tuesday everyone!

jstar

09-26-2006, 01:17 PM

Every time I wipe I'm expecting my period to show and for all this to be a mistake.

me too! i keep thinking that maybe i imagined that pregnancy test line...that maybe it was so light it wasn't really a line. but i am late, my boobs hurt and i wake up slightly nauseous and feeling mentally unstable. i guess all the signs are there! i hate the first trimester. can't wait to get to the 2nd.

shockels i am sure you would have a successful hb if you tried again. i think 2nd labors are usually faster. doug won't do it. i had so much blood the first time he is scarred for life. he says no way. so off to providence we go. if i go with a mw it is outside my insurance. i'm still tempted although i did like my ob a lot and if i did need surgery i would want him to do it. so i think maybe i'll stick with him and get a doula. decisions decisions. isaac's whole birth was ~$700 out of our pocket so that wasn't bad. i have no idea how much a midwife would end up costing. (i hate that about my insurance)

allyrae - your webpage for ryland brought tears to my eyes. i'm so sorry. what a great tribute to him. is there something specific about what they did at the hospital that you think contributed to his death? or is it just one of those things that could have happened at home too? sorry if this is too many questions. i didn't know meconium aspiration could happen. i just knew that docs usually start worrying more when there is meconium.

there seem to be a lot of scared (of homebirth) husbands in this group! i'm glad mine isn't the only one. i feel like a freak going to the hospital when so many mamas in portland don't.

Kdybs

09-26-2006, 01:48 PM

allyrae- I just looked at your page for Ryland. What an amazing tribute. I am so sorry for your loss.

PatchChild

09-26-2006, 04:03 PM

I just got off the phone with the Dr. to make my first appointment. Unfortunately, they don't see you until 8-10 weeks so my first appointment isn't until October 25. Another month? That just seems like ages away.

Jilian

09-26-2006, 04:56 PM

Sandra:I want a homebirth too, but DP is still pretty nervous about it. I told him I'm willing to tour the local birth center and maybe birth there as a compromise. I just couldn't see myself giving birth in a hospital in this area - I'm a doula so I've been to most of the hospitals and have seen enough to scare me. The hospitals around here are not so good. I hope your DS changes his mind!
AllyRae:I'm so sorry about your son's passing, I read the page too and it is heartbreaking. I think you should birth where you feel most comfortable. How does your SO feel about homebirth?
Violetisadora: My DP also wants to know the sex and I REALLY don't. I have known 2 couples who had one person find out the sex and the other was surprised. I don't think I could do it that way. I've decided to let DP decide whether or not we find out - I get to make all of the other choices.
Jstar:I've tested 5 times already because I keep wondering if I imagined the line too :lol Each time the line gets darker and I get more excited :banana
Patchchild:Some of the Midwives and OBs around here don't see patients until they are 10 weeks along :eek My Midwife will see me now, but I think I might wait a little longer. I'm so nervous I'm gonna jinx something by going to early.

We do seem to have a lot of dads who are nervous about HB here. I think it is normal. I'm letting my DP read a lot of links about homebirth that I found on the homebirth forum. My Midwife has some great links on the safety of homebirth on her site too that I'll print out for DP. the site is: sarasotamidwife.com if anyone else needs some good links.

NCMomworld

09-26-2006, 08:16 PM

Hi ladies!

I am also struggling over where to give birth this time. We have had a child at the hospital, a free standing birth center and at home. We were planning another homebirth for the baby we lost in July, but now I am not so sure. I went to a local dr/midwife practice to confirm the miscarriage and they were so great. My sister liked them enough to start seeing them for her pregnancy (she's 13 weeks).

Plus, we are moving (I hope - our house has been on the market for 3 months!). It will be localish, but too far to drive to appointments at the midwife's office we were going to use. We have a fabulous free standing birth center about 45 minutes away, but my last labor was only 4 hours start to finish and I don't think I'd have time to get there.

I made an appointment with the dr/midwife practice today. It's for October 20th. I guess I'll just go and see if I get a gut feeling about them. I might try to schedule a hospital tour before then and maybe take a tour of the birth center (where we delivered baby #2) to refresh my memory. Or, maybe we'll sell our house and find this fabulous rental with a huge jacuzzi tub and I can have my dream home waterbirth :wink

Laurorama73

09-27-2006, 04:57 AM

Hello Ladies!
I actually have my annual scheduled with my Midwife/OBGYN next week - but I think I'll call to push it further out.
I still can't believe I'm here.
I am using a Midwife this tme around and would like to explore the option of a waterbirth!
Poor SO is very stressted about it financially. He pays child support for his 2 children and he feels like he is tapped out. I sent a long time crying with him last night. Sigh.
Plus since we are not married I have to admit to being worried about how I will be perceived at work and thru other parents at my son's school. I know I shouldn't worry about that, but I am.
And then there is my family....
As much as I want this baby, I'm also petrified...timing, timing, timinig - but then again, is it ever right?
Thanks for reading.

zion

09-27-2006, 06:24 AM

Laurorama73- I hear ya! This isn't optimal timing for me either. Make this already stressful time even more so!! :hug

I was planning a homebirth with my first pregnancy. Unfortunately we didn't get past 20 weeks so we didn't have the chance. Now because of my history I am too high risk for the homebirth midwives so I have to deliver in the hospital. Our hospital midwives are great though. They have a bunch of rooms that have huge tubs and they will deliver in them. That is my plan!!

I think we need a sticky thead with our "rollcall" just so we have a running list of our members. My other DDC did this and it was nice for the newbies and it was a nice way to honor those who had to leave early...me...twice...but not this time!!!:wink I would be happy to do it but I would like to be sure this pregnancy is :sticky before I committ. Anyone else interested??

Have a great day mamas!!

Jilian

09-27-2006, 06:31 AM

Lauromama:My DP and I aren't married either, and I wonder if people will look down on me because of it too. I know some people do. I don't see the big issue because we are very much in love and very committed to each other. I've never been one to do things to make other people happy so I'm not sure if we will get married right away.

Zion: I like the idea of a rollcall sticky.

todavia

09-27-2006, 09:48 AM

laurorama - congrats. and breathe...
my SO/DP and i aren't married either and i worried about it alot when i pg with #1 - mostly because we had only known each other for one month at the time and many of my fam & friends didn't even know i was seeing someone let alone having a baby. the timing was terrible and it was a really challenging time for both of us but here we are 5 years later and still going strong.
i agree with Jillian that a committed, loving relationship is a committed, loving relationship. who is anyone else to say that you *should* be married?
i personally don't feel the need to have our relationship "officially recognized" by any religious institution or government and so we don't.
also, it seems like there's enough going on with growing/having a baby, taking care of other kids, working, life - i don't need to add any more stress or pressure to the mix. that's just me.
i hope you feel better. :hearts

shockels

09-27-2006, 12:31 PM

God... it blows me away that people would still give others a hard time about their personal choices. To marry or not is no one else's Business! It's frickin' 2006 for heaven's sake. I have a low tolerance for that sh*t. errrrrrrrr.

Zion: I have no idea how to do a sticky... but i think it's a good idea.

NCMom: Ahhhh.. So many choices! I hope your house sells soon and that you end up where you want to. You know, sometimes I let outside forces like that just sweep me along. I bet you'll end up giving birth wherever you're meant to.

Jilian: Where do you live again? I know what you mean about knowing the hospitals in your area a little *too* well. I was a nursing student doing a rotation in Labor and Delivery when I was in my 3rd trimester. What I saw made me soooo glad I was planning a homebirth. Little did I know I would end up birthing in the same place, but it all turned out in the end.

I had a wave of nausea last night! YEAH!!!

Have a fantstic day ladies!!

Jilian

09-27-2006, 01:17 PM

Jilian: Where do you live again?
I'm in SW Florida - a little north of Ft. Myers.

Laurorama73

09-28-2006, 05:27 AM

Thank you all. I am feeling so much better as is SO. That initial shock of, "Wow - this actually happened" is over and I'm growing excited about it! And I am also not going to stress about not being married. I've been there, dont that and to be honest, this relationship for me feels so much more REAL and STRONG than my marriage did. And for any of the snootys who may look down upon me, who needs 'em! :lol

This time around, I guess having been thru this before, I already feel so different and much calmer. I really want to enjoy this time beccause I think this will be it for me.

I like the idea of a rollcall - not sure how to get that going tho...

Happy symptoms to all!

shockels

09-28-2006, 10:10 AM

Jilian

09-28-2006, 10:35 AM

Laurarama...It is different the second time isn't it? I feel much calmer as well. And I'm plotting out what I want to do different....Like NOT eat a massive amount of chocolate everyday, and try to exercise a little everyday. I was running regularly up until about a month ago. Now I'm going to try and walk briskly for a little bit everyday.
How about it ladies? Resolutions for your pregnancy??

Me too! Last time I gained 53 lbs during pregnancy. I was small to start (113 lbs) but 53 ;bs was a little much. It took a LONG time to lost it after DS was born. This time around I'm not going to use pregnancy as an excuse to gorge myself with food :lol I want to exercise more too. Last time I was too scared of hurting the baby so I gave up all exercise. :eek

I'm eating all organic fruits and veggies this time around too. And I'll start drinking RLR tea in the third trimester and OILING MY PERRENIUM. No tearing this time, last time the tearing was awful!

saratchka

09-28-2006, 11:06 AM

I gained so much with my last pregnancy that I'm not even completely sure how much it was. I know it was more than 50lbs, and I believe it was less than 60, but I'm not 100% sure. :innocent I'm still carrying 10 of those pounds, so I really don't want to go overboard this time around. And I definitely want to make an effort to be more active. I have a prenatal yoga video and a couple stretching videos for poor weather and hope to walk a couple miles a day in our hilly neighborhood when the weather is good.

Prior to DD's birth I ate nearly all conventionally produced foods. Now I'm eating mostly organic fruits and veggies and using all organic dairy. Organic meats are hard to come by here, (and we are meat-eaters) but I do buy the "natural" meats. I figure the lack of growth hormones and antibiotics must count for something... I really want to eat well this pregnancy, in part to keep my weight gain reasonable, but also because DD is still nursing and I want to be sure that I'm getting enough of all the good stuff for all three of us! (Let's just hope I'm not having twins - I'm not sure I can eat for four!)

mataji4

09-28-2006, 03:31 PM

todavia

09-28-2006, 03:37 PM

am i always the "me, three" here, or am i just a novice on the message board thing? a little slow on the uptake maybe
anyway, i also gained 50+ pound with #1 and would really like to try to keep it more in the range of 35 this time. also trying to stick to organic produce and stay away from sweets. i walk pretty much everywhere but even so, it seems like my pants are a little tighter than they should be. :innocent
i guess my biggest 'resolution' or intention for this pregnancy is to try to stay balanced and really give my self/baby, son, partner, school/work the attention and care that each deserves and not let anything fall by the wayside - no overdoing it, no excessive slacking. i could easily spend all day on these message boards...but i must resist....
glad it's almost friday though, ready for a little break for sure.

mataji4

09-28-2006, 03:54 PM

Yes, wouldn't it be great to take care of everything!! To balance kids, husband, friends, work, SELF-care! I echo that intention. I am signing up for prenatal yoga classes already so that I can get into good habits BEFORE I get sicky, fussy and overwhelmed by my own body!

zion

09-28-2006, 04:07 PM

Hi all! It's so nice to check in with you all every now and then!!

I have been trying really hard to hold off on telling people about this pregnancy. I am 5 weeks today. It seems like when you tell people you're pregnant the first thing they want to know is how far along. When you say 4 or 5 or 6 weeks they look worried. Like it almost doesn't count until you are further along. I know all the bad things that can happen...I've been through it, but right now I am trying to stay optimistic. I am just so excited I want to spread the word!! We are going to the beach for a week on Saturday. When I get back I will be 6+ weeks. I will only have to keep my mouth shut for a little while then I can let the word out!! Sorry for the rant!!

My Birthday is Saturday!! I'm going to be 29. Woo hoo!! Birthday at the beach. To bad no :drink for me!! It's all good.

Hope everyone is well.:hippie

NCMomworld

09-28-2006, 05:47 PM

I hope you have a lovely birthday!

My resolution for this pregnancy is to enjoy it! I am going to read the pregnancy journal I bought every day, do prenatal yoga (dvd), and spend time talking to my baby each night. My life is so busy with homeschooling 3 other children, that I know I'll need to schedule in these special times to bond with our new little one!

shockels

09-28-2006, 07:17 PM

i guess my biggest 'resolution' or intention for this pregnancy is to try to stay balanced and really give my self/baby, son, partner, school/work the attention and care that each deserves and not let anything fall by the wayside - no overdoing it, no excessive slacking. i could easily spend all day on these message boards...but i must resist....
glad it's almost friday though, ready for a little break for sure.

Violet: Well said!! That sounds like a fabulous way to move through pregnancy. I'm actually very glad you said this early on, because it is definitely something I should take to heart. Starting my new career, having a toddler, remodeling our kitchen and then finally moving into our new home, not to mention a sister planning a wedding, and a beloved cat who has been neglected lately are enough to make me feel guilty every minute of the day. But if you approach it one step at a time and give what you can when you can that's enough right?

Zion: Happy happy birthday for sat. Enjoy the beach!!!

todavia

09-28-2006, 07:25 PM

I was surprised to read about so many of you willing to give up a homebirth for your husbands...what is the difference between you giving birth in a hospital when you would rather be at home vs. your husband watching you give birth at home and wishing you were in the hospital??? Well, I think it is more important that the birthing woman be comfortable birthing than the husband! I'm not saying that a father's input isn't important. But considering that homebirth when using a qualified midwife is really as safe (at least!) as having hospital birth, then why would you give that up for your husband's worry?? He is going to worry no matter where you birth!

when i first told my SO that i was planning on a homebirth with a midwife he couldn't understand why i would make that choice (what if something happens - like last time? what are you trying to prove?). as i said in another post, he was also concerned that he would have to play a major role in the birth which, for whatever reasons that i personally cannot understand, he has zero desire to do (don't want to catch anthing, cut anything or clean anything). so my feeling was that he didn't have to do anything but be there for me (encouragement, love and a cold cloth or snack occasionally) and if he couldn't find a way to be supportive and positive about it then i'd rather he not be there at all.

now, of course i hope it wouldn't come to this although i also think it's okay to have a more "red tent", all-women birth. but i really don't want to give up on my dream of a natural birth experience because somone else's fears/issues/discomfort and i know that i cannot have the birth experience i want in a hospital.

that being said, of course if any significant risk arises, i'll do whatever i have to do to have a healthy baby but barring that, no one (and especially not someone who is basing their opinion on pretty much no information or even personal philosophy) is going to stand in my way.

Originally Posted by mataji4 "But it's beautiful that we get to make our own choices, just like getting married or not!"

:truedat:
and for anyone who is making a different decision - much respect for doing whatever is right for you and your family. i would never impose my choice on another woman. i just want to be able to do what's right for me - and i feel in my heart that that is a homebirth.

todavia

09-28-2006, 07:34 PM

Starting my new career, having a toddler, remodeling our kitchen and then finally moving into our new home, not to mention a sister planning a wedding, and a beloved cat who has been neglected lately are enough to make me feel guilty every minute of the day. But if you approach it one step at a time and give what you can when you can that's enough right?

Sandra - Yes! Let's try to help each other remember this over the next nine months...but now i'm wondering if my cat is neglected :scratch :lol

jstar

09-28-2006, 07:35 PM

i'd like to not gain the 44lbs i gained last time but i tend to believe each woman has a pregnancy 'set point'. i'm starting out heavier this time i think by 5 lbs but expect i'll probably end up at the same weight. my bigger intention is to be in better shape. i went to aerobics tuesday but it SUCKED because my boobs hurt and it was way too much bouncing. i'm hoping to keep that up until 6 months or so. maybe not even that long :lol

another resolution is to enjoy every last minute of my 'only' and give him all the undivided attention that i can. i am grieving the loss of his onliness (only a little bit at this point but i know this will change his life completely). ya know? even though it is a change that i wanted and that i think will be great for him i think he is going to be mad when mama is so consumed by this new creature. i'm scared about that.

i am soooooooo tired today. i was out in the sun for a couple of hours and it completely zapped me.

i'm not so dismayed by my hub's desire to go hospital because i'm a mega wimp and i hate pain. the thing i mainly hate about the hospital is the iv. needles gross me out. i also think the monitors bug but it has to be possible to not be hooked up to them constantly because i know they have tubs for laboring. i never made it to the tub last time. i don't mind the rooms or nurses or the vicodin :shy (kidding about the vicodin ;) ) i have a big doubt that i could make it through birth (want to) without some kind of pain med :o my goal is to avoid the epidural. i truely do believe that they 'call' c-sections far more often than necessary and that IS a risk of going the hospital route. i would really hate to have one unless it was really needed. that was my biggest fear the first time. i have the belief though that since this will be my 2nd birth my body will know more what to do and that it could possibly be pretty non-eventful. we'll see. i'm still undecided about midwife vs. the ob i used before. part of me wants to go back to my ob so i can compare my weight this time last pregnancy :lol stupid, i know. and i liked him. but then i've never had a 'midwife' experience so i'm curious about that too.

i have huge admiration for women who homebirth (and i feel like a wierdo for not choosing it for myself because i know so many women who do). i'm glad everyone is free to do what they want.

happy 29th zion! i turned the big 3-0 when i was preg last time so no big drinks for me.

Jilian

09-28-2006, 07:43 PM

Happy early birthday Chris!! I hope you have a great day!

ChristineIndy

09-28-2006, 07:59 PM

Happy early birthday!

Christine

saratchka

09-28-2006, 08:51 PM

another resolution is to enjoy every last minute of my 'only' and give him all the undivided attention that i can. i am grieving the loss of his onliness (only a little bit at this point but i know this will change his life completely). ya know? even though it is a change that i wanted and that i think will be great for him i think he is going to be mad when mama is so consumed by this new creature. i'm scared about that.

Wow! That is so very well said - I feel exactly the same way. I'm excited to have another baby. I'm happy that DD will have a sibling, which I believe to be an enriching relationship. But I'm sad that I will no longer be able to give DD as much of myself and frightened that the transition will be hard for her. I vascilate between being grateful that this pregnancy started with no stress or fuss and that the decision about when to have another appears to have been taken out of my hands and guilt that I didn't wait longer to give DD more time as an only child. :dizzy:

shockels

09-29-2006, 11:55 PM

Just wanted you ladies to know, I walked past a whole table of doughnuts this morning and didn't take any!! Yeah self control! I will stay healthy, i will stay healthy, I will stay healthy....

todavia

09-30-2006, 05:36 AM

good 4 you sandra :twothumbs

shockels

09-30-2006, 12:50 PM

Violet...were you really up at 3:30 am or is that my computer offsetting the time from the east coast? Please tell me you're getting more sleep than that!

rosie29

09-30-2006, 01:09 PM

Hi All! Just checking in. :) I just POAS yesterday and so much to think about. Vitamins...anyone have suggestions? Last time I just took what the OB prescribed but I'm leery of the gelatin and who-knows-what-else in there. Anyone have a vegetarian prenatal vit. to suggest?

jstar

09-30-2006, 01:15 PM

i'm taking the rainbow light just once vits. not too bad so far. but man $26 for the bottle!

sandra - i'm impressed! :lol

what is poas?

rosie29

09-30-2006, 01:33 PM

what is poas?

Pee On A Stick :wink (pregnancy test)

NCMomworld

09-30-2006, 02:24 PM

I also take Rainbow Light, but I take the "complete system" which is 6 pills a day. It can be a drag taking so many pills, but I think I feel better when the nutrients are spread out throughout the day. I buy mine from vitacost.com - 360 tabs (2 months worth) for about $29.

mataji4

09-30-2006, 03:34 PM

I take the Rainbow Lights, too, 6 a day. I chose them because they are packed with vitamins and herbs and supplements to help fight nausea, which is a big one for me. Keeping nourished in my fourth pregnancy is important, even if I have to take all those green pills!

I'm also taking an Omega 3 and 6 pill, as it helps to maintain hormone balance.

todavia

09-30-2006, 04:32 PM

Violet...were you really up at 3:30 am or is that my computer offsetting the time from the east coast? Please tell me you're getting more sleep than that!

sandra - :lol yeah, it was 6:30. but i did wake up around 4 and couldn't fall back to sleep esp. since DP's alarm goes off at 5:30, 5:40, 5:50 until i'm like "get your butt outta bed or call in sick already":p. then my son and his sleepover buddy were up by six anyway and then we went apple picking so it's been a long day. i know i'll :zzz good tonight.

rosie - i take the rainbow lights one-a-day too and it says vegan guard on the front so i know there's no gelatin. they are pricey though, but what can ya do?

ChristineIndy

10-01-2006, 07:36 AM

Okay, this is a totally random question, but what is NAK? :shrug

Thanks! :lol

Christine

saratchka

10-01-2006, 09:51 AM

Okay, this is a totally random question, but what is NAK? :shrug

I wondered that for weeks when I first came to MDC. :lol It stands for Nursing At Keyboard.

Kdybs

10-01-2006, 10:57 AM

I know that I am willing to listen to my dh's concerns about a homebirth vs hospital birth for a few reasons. Primarily, he feels very strongly about it, more strongly than I do. It is his birthing experience too (even if I am the one doing all the work) and I don't want him to be scared out of his mind and on edge the whole time. Whatever the setting is, I want us both to be comfortable. I would probably be more comfortable at home, but not if he is nervous, kwim? We are partners, and we make compromises as part of our marriage. I'm sure if I cared more than he did or if he didnt' have feelings of abject terror at the thought of a homebirth he would agree to one. That is why I would like to try and get him to change his mind but if he doesn't that is fine by me too. It probably doesn't help that the only 2 people we know who have planned a homebirth have either ended up in the hospital for a C and I had a complicated birth with our first.

As for the weight issue, I am trying to be good, I really am. But I am so hungry all the time. I only gained a little with my dd, I had ms until midway through the final trimester. I have minor ms now and eating makes it feel better:).