What does circ teach?

[MelissaEvans]

I was thinking about how a boy could interpret the fact his parents had him circ'd. Am I off base, or is this what he could learn?

* My parents couldn't love me the way I was when I was born, I wasn't good enough
* My parents couldn't accept me as an individual, I have to "look like my dad"
* My parents think they know more than G-d/evolution who gave me my foreskin
* My feelings of pain didn't matter, I don't matter
* My dad's insecurity was more important that any emotions I have
* My mom didn't think I was smart enough to clean myself, she didn't trust me
* My parents couldn't stand up to their friends for my benefit, I'm not very important

~Melissa

[Frankly Speaking]

· My privates are not private
· What is important to me is not important to my parents
· My body is a canvas for my parents to create what they see as beauty
· My parents don’t see me as an eventual adult
· My body is a signboard for a religious statement
· Appearances are more important than function
· It is OK to be aggressive and impose your will on others
· Other people are worthless and expendable to your desires
· Never question a doctor
· God creates defective bodies
· My penis was too powerful and needed to be wounded
· I was not capable of controlling my sexuality
· Sex is dirty
· Penises are dirty
· Males are dirty
· Males naturally are disease carriers
· Males are defective
· I had to be altered to be acceptable to females
· My mother is a pervert
· My father is a pervert
· My mother didn’t love me as I was
· My father didn’t love me as I was
· I had to be cut to be love-able

Actual thought processes of a 12-14 year old on learning why his penis looks like it does.




Frank

[LavenderMae]

:crying That is so sad.

[MelissaEvans]

Do boys become resentful if they have sisters? "My parents had to alter me, but not li'l Susie." type of concept?

~Melissa

[Frankly Speaking]

I don't have sisters so I really don't know but I doubt it. It's a very personal thing and all of the thinking is inward. I have a younger brother who is also circed and I can't remember ever thinking about him and his circumcision. I think if he had been left intact, I would have had some very serious questions and problems as to why I was "The One."



Frank