Anyone feeling like this may be their last pregnancy?

[Jilian]

I always thought I wanted to have at least 4 children and to give birth to at least 3, but now I'm not so sure. My first pregnancy was wonderful and easy, this pregnancy is not so fun. It feels like it's really taking a toll on my body already and I'm only 18 weeks along. I'm so unbelievably uncomfortable and I just can't imagine doing this again. I'm about 90% sure this will be my last pregnancy. I do want more children and I'll most likely adopt.

Does anyone else feel like this is your last pregnancy? Has anyone felt this way and then changed their mind later?

[HopesMom]

This is definitely my last pregnancy! Even if we weren't having twins--I'm exhausted. No way I could do this again!

[doudat]

Last pregnancy here too. I don't mind so much being pregnant, but dh & I had agreed on 2, and this is our second. I don't think I'd be able to handle 3 kids in the city. So while it isn't the easiest pregnancy, I'm trying to enjoy it as much as I can since I won't be experiencing this ever again :shy

[inkedmamajama]

hyperemesis has convinced me that this is it for me. i cant handle more pregnancies when i spend quite a bit of time in the hospital, and on medicines to keep this evil illness under control. i cant tolerate going through this again. pregnancy is not exciting or joyful and i think thats one of the biggest deciding factors for me. but i will be the mother to these little ones and i think thats ok.

i was convinced that my 2nd child would be my last child, simply because i couldnt see myself having children with different fathers. luckily i met a wonderful man that changed that mindset in me. so i became very happy to have another.

also i am 30 now, and when i think of being 37 or so by the time this child starts kindergarten, i think that for me, that is good timing. i dont want to be older than this and having more children.

i have a 6.5 yrold, a 4yrold, a lil angel in heaven and this child due in june.

a

[mamallama]

This is my last baby. I'm trying to enjoy my pregnancy as much as possible--but it seems like a much bigger challenge this time around. I don't know if it's my age (32) or the time that's passed since my last baby (5.5yrs) or that I miscarried at 13wks right before this pregnancy and now it seems like I've been pregnant forever and I'm not even halfway there...I don't know...I'm just tired.

Dh and I agreed before we conceived the baby we lost that it would be our last. At the time I was hesitant to agree, but now I'm not. The more I think about having more than 3 children, the less I want to do it. It's really more about the resources & less about the demands of pregnancy.

We're both looking forward to dh's vasectomy. :)

[OnTheFence]

I know this is it. This will be 5 for us.

[indigo515]

Last for me too. We would like to adopt.

[2Sweeties1Angel]

This is definitely my last pregnancy. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I just can't do it again.

[koru]

Does anyone else feel like this is your last pregnancy? Has anyone felt this way and then changed their mind later?

we thought "2" was our magic number but when my dearest friend gave birth 3 months after i did, i just knew i had to be pregnant one more time! so...#3 is on the way. :) 100% sure this is it, though, because hubby will be 50 when this one is born.

[koru]

I miscarried at 13wks right before this pregnancy and now it seems like I've been pregnant forever and I'm not even halfway there...I don't know...I'm just tired.

i've been pregnant 5 times in the last 6 years (2 m/c) and i feel like this, too! plus....my body is just different at age 35. (or is it that i'm chasing around a 3.5 & 2yr old?)

[cjanelles]

This will most definitely be my last pregnancy...I'm 32, have a 10 yr old and a 14 yr old, and my husband desperately wanted us to have a baby together, so I agreed...but after this, no more. No way. Getting my tubes tied.

[Mumof3Nic]

Number 4 for me and this is my last. I thought I was done with 3 but immediately after I had him I knew I wanted another.. I just felt our family wasn't quite complete. I know this is my last though because I personally don't want to have any after 30, once this one goes to school I will most likely as well.. that was my plan for ds3 who is now 5 and will be in school next year. I am considering having my tubes tied after this one but the thought bothers me a bit so I will either need to come to terms with it or find another way. DH will not get a vasectomy and won't listen when I try to explain to him about one either. I can't take BC because it makes me terribly ill and really isn't worth it to me.

[annekevdbroek]

Last pregnancy. My first pregnancy was sooo easy - almost no nausea, good energy level, etc. This time I spent 15 weeks throwing up, felt ok during the second trimester, and now feel exhausted, huge, and very uncomfortable (pubic bone pulling apart). Blech. I'm done. I can see adopting in the future, but no more pregnancies for me.

[Fay]

This is our second and last baby. DH had a vasectomy last month. Our DS has special needs, and we don't know yet if this one will, too. DS is a blessing from heaven, but we also have to consider the cost of long-term care for him.

I've enjoyed very easy pregnancies. I would love to have more children, but I feel that I must take proper care of the children already sent to me.

[kerikadi]

I am 37, this will be our 5th baby and is my 7th pregnancy.
For the first time I feel done but it's not for any of the physical pregnancy reasons or my age. We just feel that this is a good number for us.
My first two are from my previous marriage.
DH and I planned on having one child together - that was all he wanted, I hoped and prayed he would change his mind. Once our DD was here he was much more open to having another child, we decided we would have another but were surprised to get pregnant unexpectedly, so fast, the girls are only 16 months apart.
Then DH was done and I was not. This caused a rift in our otherwise nearly perfect marriage. I was sad every time he put on a condom, discussed a vasectomy or my period started.
DH had a life changing experience as the victim of road rage, was able to spend some prayerful time away from the family (camping) and came to the conclusion that we were supposed to have one more child.

We both feel that this child has been waiting for us. He or she is supposed to be part of our family and was just waiting for us to let him or her in :)
But we both feel done. With one, soon to be two in braces and our four bedroom home becoming a bit crowded we just feel that this is the right size for us.
I felt each of my last three pregnancies would be the last so each of them is very special to me and I do something a bit different each time - belly cast, photos etc. I know I will miss being pregnant but look forward to moving on to the other joys Motherhood brings.

Keri

[MizLiz]

This is my last baby... my kids are quite far apart in age (6.5 years btwn the first two, and close to 5 years between dd and her upcoming sister) and I'm ready to move beyond 'babyhood'. I do love when they are babies, but it is difficult to give older kids what they need (attention and activity wise) while giving a baby all of the attention they also need... not to say it can't be done, of course, it's just more complicated to find activities that suit the whole family. I'm sure that I'll go through a period of sadness about this being the last little one that I'll nurse, etc., but I'm looking forward to watching my kids grow up.

[tomothermine]

way back we decided we wanted 4 kids the first 2 being 2-3 yrs apart and when the oldest got aound school age the next 2 being 2-3 yrs apart. I don't like odd # and figured that would work. I only wanted boys at most only 1 girl. of course life has had other plans... I think this is our last baby and yet i am hesitant to make a final decision. this is our 3rd baby plus i had an early m/c right before my second. For me the pg are relatively smooth with the usual 'complaints' its actually something i feel i can do well. but this last baby is closer than we had planned. Not sure how i will handle 3 kids under 4yrs. The hardest part for me is dealing with the anxiety of raising dd's. I have some unresolved issues that put me in a near panic upon hearing 'its a girl' and to some degree dealing with depression/guilt that ensues. its complicated but you get the idea... :(
lots of people are asking how many we are going to have, are we done, do we want more etc, its hard to know how to answer them

ds almost 4
early m/c in april/04
dd 22 mo and
dd due in april

[OTMomma]

I think this one might be our last. This is baby #2, and I'm not super good at being preg- no major problems, but its not easy. But the real reason I'm feeling ready to quit is that we were ttc for 2 years for this baby, and it was HORRIBLE! I don't ever want to ttc again. Dh and I are agreed we would be OK with a suprise baby in theory after this one in a few years, but its not something either of us think we could push for. Working at ttc might have been the most emotionally draining thing we've ever been through- including family deaths and health issues.

We also might consider adoption in the future.

[Anglyn]

I never thought Id feel done, but I think I do....

DS1 was 11 when dd was born, so with my first two, I wasnt chasing any other lil ones. We tried to concieve ds2 even sooner than we did....he came along when dd was only 19.5mos and it really thew me for a loop! First of all, I had prenatal and postpartum depression with him, though Id never had it before, that on top of dealing with two small and demanding children. After that, even though we had agreed to one more, I didnt' think I could do it. But ds2 got older and now they are such great playmates that Im glad they are so close, practically twins, lol!! I agonized for awhile, my last pregnancy was hard on me etc but somewhere down deep I just felt we were SUPPOSE To have one more! ONce I decided that, we did it. Actually, I decided I wanted to get on with it, so to speak, and lo and behold, just a couple weeks later my period came back and two weeks after that we concieved. DS2 will be 27mos when this baby is born and is right now already much more independant than dd was when he was born. So, I think the eight extra mons between ds2 and ds3 is going to make a big diffrence. Though sometimes I worry dd and ds2 will leave the baby out. The level two u/s showed a white spot on teh babys brain....a week and a half later a MRI showed nothing out of the oridnary and a follow up u/s showed nothing out of the ordinary. But dh, who had been of the opinon that he would have as many as I was willing to squeeze out now says he cant go through the worry again. And I will turn 38 just days before baby is due. My oldest is 15. Do I really want a newborn and a 18yr old? Yikes. Plus I know the risks do go up and up the older I get, and I'd like SOME amount of time between the kids leaving home and me getting senile!:lol

From before we started ttc this child I felt certain it was my last pg. Somewhere in the last month or so Ive had a few random "one more" thoughts, prompted in large part by dd begging for a sister....but, all in all, Im pretty sure this is it. Adoption is an option, but I dont think I want to four months of morning sickness and the horrible back pain and all the rest again. Plus, Im really worried about postpartum depression happening again. That really sucked. Pregnancy aint as easy now as it was when I was 22!!

[roadfamily6now]

nope, I love being pregnant. Even with our 15 week scare, it is still awesome.
We are so done having our own children so I became a surrogate. :)

This is pregnancy #6 for me and I think I can do at least 2 more :)

[chrissy]

i think this is my last pregnancy.

my dh is sure this is our last, so unless he has a change of heart or we have an oops, this will be it.

i have mixed feelings about it. when i was feeling really bad with morning sickness and exhaustion i felt totally fine with this being my last. but now that i am feeling much better and really looking forward to birthing and having a newborn around, i'm just not sure.

[jingwen]

This is our 3rd and i pretty much feel is our last as well. All my pregnancies weren't difficult, it's the birthing process that was. One unplanned C-sec (breech), one VBAC (almost forced C-sec) and i'm hoping this one we will be cleared to do a homebirth. It's so weird being so busy with my 4 1/2 and 2 year old, i feel like i'm not really in touch with this pregnancy. Not to mention i feel wiped out!

[ktmelody]

According to DH this is our last! :lol

This is number 5 for me.
We have a 9.5 yr. old, 8.5 yr old, 3 year old, 15 month old and due in April!

I really want one more. I HATE being pregnant though. I get everything, from hyperemesis to heartburn, backaches, headaches. I just cant stand it, BUT I love having newborns!
I am desparatley trying to convince DH to have just one more. So we will see!

[Mere]

I'm done after this one, which will be #3. I tend to sail through my pregnancies, and truth be told, this one has been even easier in many ways. However, I don't feel myself! I'm tired of wierd food cravings; of feeling starved one minute and then overfull the next; the erratatic heartburn; the random backaches; maternity clothes that never fit me right...and did I mention that I really want a beer?! All the things that are bothering me this time around I never thought twice about the times before...all that seems to point to the fact that I am done!

Aside from the pregnancy aspect, I'm feeling like 3 will be a good - and challenging - number. We're planning on homeschooling too, so I really can't imagine dealing with that on top of everything else with more than 3 kids!

[Eaglevoice]

Ever since I was little I knew that I wanted to have two kids, two years apart. That's exactly what we are having! Dh was not really ready to have another baby when we found out we were expecting #2. It's #4 for him (previous marriage) and he was pretty much done. But now we are both thrilled for this next baby to come, but he's made it clear that he is planning on getting a vasectomy once the baby comes. That's fine with me. Though I do LOVE being pregnant. I wish I could do this again, but I can't imagine my life with three or more kiddos, so we are stopping at two. I think our family will be perfect as a family of 4.

[vannienicole]

I don't really have much of a choice of this being our last pg. Before Alli, DH and I wanted none. Then OOPS! here comes #1. He was done, still one the fence, but pretty much done after Alli. Now OOPS! #2. I wanted to have another, but finally become content with waiting for his decision. I wanted all babies we had together to felt loved and welcomed.

Now here I am at 16 weeks and he is finally showing interest in baby #2. Not much, but I think the idea is finally settling in him. I would love to have 4 kiddos. Love, love, love, love! His comfort though is much more important though. He has informed me that after the birth, when he finds out that both of us are okay, he is making his appt for a vas. Whether I am okay with it inside or not, I need to be, because it really is his decision.

So, yes, last pregnancy. I am trying to enjoy it even though this time around has been pretty hard.

[habibekindheart]

We're not sure. If we lose our court case, it will be our last most likely, but if we don't, we may want another one or two down the road, esp. if this one is a girl. A house full of girls when I'm used to having boys seems really odd to me.

[My_Three_Sons]

I am 95% sure this is my last baby. Dh & I had always said 'between 2 and 4 kids', so 3 feels like the right number for us. There are other issues - he's 40, I'm 36, we have 3 boys already and do we want a 4th, we're not rich (although not struggling either)... do I want to drive a minivan? I thought of stuff like that, but really the biggest factor is that I just feel complete. I'm so happy to be expecting another beautiful boy, we're so lucky and blessed. Unless something drastic changes, this will be our last baby and although I will sadly say goodbye to pregnancy, I am looking forward to a more grown-up family that can do so many things together.

Tricia

[artgirl]

this is our 3rd and last.
I am not sad about it at all.
I have been lucky to have great pregnancies. This time I feel a little nauseous but not too bad. :sick
I feel very thankful to have been able to experience my body in this way.

I know that I could not handle more than 3 kids and feel like I was doing a good job. Not to mention the financial aspect. But this last one will be a very welcome addition.

[sally Z]

this is our last, dh only wanted one and finally agreed to have this one. Like the OP i am uncomfortable at 16 weeks and can't imagine doing this again. I do not like being pregnant. I think dh will go for the big V after this one

[stormgirl]

DEFINITELY the last. This is my 2nd, and it's been grueling and so difficult. I didn't want more than 2 kids, anyway, and my dp didn't want more than one so we're kinda on the same page that way. He's all for adopting more down the road if we choose to have more, but there is no way my body is going through this havoc again!!!! That said, I'm a miserable 38 weeks, and ready to birth!!!

[OTMomma]

habibekindheart - :hug and Congraulation on your preg!