Whom have you told?

[daceysmomma]

about this pregnancy?

Both "in real life" and online?

[daceysmomma]

online - here (obviously) and another (private) mommy board I am on

IRL - my sister and my neighbor

DH wants to wait a while to tell anyone else, but I am bursting at the seams to spread the news!

[beckyphry]

My parents and sister immediately, because they were aware that I just miscarried in October so I figured it couldn't hurt to tell them right away.

2 other message boards -- one TTC/Preg related and one not.

3 of my close friends and 2 of my female cousins who just emailed me -- one of whom I had mentioned the miscarriage to, so when she asked how I was feeling, I told them both but swore them to secrecy. We're not planning on telling anyone else until we see the heartbeat.

I won't tell work until at least 12 weeks, maybe later if I don't start showing by then.

[greenmagick]

Pretty much everyone. I debated but in the end realized I cant keep my mouth shut!

[rach03]

Just my mom and the people on another non-pregnancy message board I frequent.

Last time I told everyone at 6 weeks because it was Christmas and we gave out cigars. I want to wait until early Feb this time so I can send out a funny card with DS in a big brother shirt and the ultrasound pic. :)

[goosysmom]

Online: here and my first time mama's board from when I was pg with dd (there are still about 20 of us who chat daily or when we can online....some are VERY mainstream and some meet in the middle...nice mix....)

IRL: DP (lol) and my best friend of 25 years (ok, that made me feel old and I"m only 31)....

We are waiting to tell others until we have the ultrasound and everything else...

[DylBear]

Well the father *cough*cough* sperm donor knows, not that he cares. My father and mother both know. Along with my sister, and my bestfriend Danni. Other than that Im letting the trickle down system take care of it. You know one person tells another and so on...

[cbmr777]

Online: here, the gals at TBW, and at a private momma board I am on as well as a natural parenting yahoo group that I am on.

IRL: only my neighbor across the street (a LLL Leader)

My DH is out of the country still so he has no idea! :lol

[sophiekat]

dh irl. online its on my blog, so whoever reads that :lol and then here and another board i'm on. :)

[naturegirl]

Let's see...

daddy
my naturopath
my acupuncturist
my massage therapist
my son's naturopath
my friend Sheri (lives far away from me. :()
my mom
my older sister
my cleaning lady
all ladies here since it is in my siggy...
and that also means all the ladies from mothering that I meet up with irl. (since they saw my siggy...)
BUT NOT (HELL NO!) MY MIL!!!:firedevil :lol She is insanely unsupportive if anything ever goes wrong. I don't dare tell her until I know I won't need her support aka, things are looking very good. ;)

[sanguine_speed]

Everyone! Except DP's family LOL. That's only because they live all over the place and we will all be in one place the third weekend in feb. It will be nice to tell them all in person, at 12 weeks. The only trouble is that one of the family sets lives in town and will see us at 9 weeks--I'm not sure I'll be doing a good job hiding it come then based on my belly now. But, I'll do my best.
Oh, we did tell DP's parents; no one else in his family.

[gizzyntaz]

Online I have told everybody except for people I know IRL (that I also know online). That's my outlet.

IRL - DH (of course), DS (though we aren't dwelling on it because it's too far away), my friend who knew we were trying and her family, and another friend who is due the day before me, because I didn't want her to think I was keeping a secret, or make it weird...

My playgroup moms know that we are trying, so I'm not sure what I am going to say if they outright ask me (plus those two friends that know are in playgroup). Anyone have a good, not-specifically lying response if someone asks you outright?

I want to wait to tell the rest of the people locally until after my first appt. next month. Then we'll wait until after we hear the heartbeat (the following month) to tell our relatives (they all live far away).

[AugustLia23]

We've told pretty much everybody. I can't keep my mouth shut. We haven't told any family though, and don't really want to for a while. They have all the stupid comments. But most of our friends know already, at not yet 5 weeks.

[nankilicious]

I am telling everyone :)

I have 3 friends that all had dream predictions of this baby being born, so I figure with that many good omens, the baby will stick. :)

eta: they all had their dreams before I told them I was even pregnant!

[flapjack]

Online, pretty much everyone. We moved to look after my FIL, who has been in hospital for over a year and is due to be discharged in two months time, and we're scared to tell him in case he starts worrying again and makes himself ill, so IRL we haven't told any of the family yet. MDC is keeping me sane ;)

[mandy13]

DH (of course), my mom, my sister and my cousin. We will wait to tell everyone else when we are past 12 weeks.

I had a miscarriage @ 9weeks before I had my youngest son...and it was hard breaking the news to everyone. So we thought it would be best to wait.

[daceysmomma]

Anyone have a good, not-specifically lying response if someone asks you outright?



That's a good question! Could you get away with something like "We'll see! We are keeping our fingers crossed!" I don't know how long that will hold them off, so it depends on when you were planning to tell them . . .

[bhawkins]

We've told nearly everyone that we want to tell personally. As a PP said, others can get filled in through the grapevine.

[lactivist]

I have told my close friends and obviously dh knows. Online I have told most everyone. I was going to keep it close but realized if I do miscarry I will need support and I am also just so happy I want to share. We haven't told our families and don't plan to for quite a while. Last night I sent the toddler in to the other kids with a note that said "I am going to be a big brother!" My teenaged daughter came out with her mouth open and a wondering look. Then my 9yo read the note and everyone got really excited. It was such a fun way to tell them. I should have videotaped it.
Wendi

[mommajb]

I have told dh and anybody here but nobody else IRL. It is killing me. I really want to wait a few more weeks but... We had our LLL meeting this morning and I am bursting at the seams with the news. Because we do not truly want to spread the news yet we are not telling our children and that is tough. Also, I feel like I am lying by not telling my mother.

I thought about putting my youngest in a big sister t-shirt but then decided everyone would just think it was a hand-me down that I was putting to good use. That and I would have to go out and buy one. :lol

I would love more non-lying answers that do not spill the beans. Thank you for the one. How about "We'll let you know..." delivered with a smile.

[debra_lea]

We've told our families and our closest friends. I figure if something terrible were to happen (praying not), we would tell our friends and families anyway in need of their support.

[Einen]

I saw a bunch of my best friends from college the evening of the day I found out. I was going to wait to tell people but ended up telling them all. I would never get the chance to tell them all in person if I didn't do it that night.

I've told my family and many of my friends that are local. I haven't told my side of the family anything yet. I'm waiting to see them in person.

[teniprice]

Pretty much everyone irl and online knows. We waited to share the news when I got pg a few months ago and so this time I told everyone right as I found out! I wasn't going to let something take away my joy of this pg by keeping it a secret. If I did lose this baby, I would want people to have had the joy of knowing about the pg and the miracle we had because this is our baby and very much wanted and if we were to lose this one I would need to talk about it because it happened. That's just my own feeling on it. So I pretty much told everyone the day of or the day after we got our bfp!

[allbrightmama]

Well, here of course! It is my only outlet since we aren't sharing yet IRL. We are living with my MIL who is going in for surgery on her knee tomorrow and is very stressed out. Worrying about me being pregnant would be too much for her right now especially since I am the one who will be taking care of her when she comes home. We plan on telling at 8 wks when I have my first prenatal appointment. She should be well by then and ds will know and he can't keep a secret.

[kristen1978]

After debating for all of a week, we told everyone, except DP's coworkers and our not-so-close friends. Why? 1) This baby is our first, and we are ridiculously excited, and 2) my mom has been struggling with cancer for the last 3 years, and we felt this news might come at a time when she needs a little more motivation to get healthy and stick around for a while longer!

[stacyg]

Since I just found out on Friday - I've only told DH, my ds's and 2 close friends. My parents came for a visit today so we're planning on telling them tonight - or letting our ds1 bust out "Momma's got a baby in her belly!!"

I'll let you know how it goes... :lol

[bandgeek]

Anyone have a good, not-specifically lying response if someone asks you outright?

"Why!? Does it look like I've gained weight!?" (stare down at your belly, then around at your butt self-conciously) You're not lying, just side-stepping. They'll be so distracted trying to reassure you that they'll forget that you didn't answer them. :lol

[bandgeek]

Here, 2 other message boards, and one IRL friend. I'm about to tell another friend today. We'll tell our families in a few weeks. W might tell DH's family earlier, I don't know.

[Wugmama]

I told my grandma, two of my closest friends, my dh, my midwife and all of you. Oh yeah, and the lady that cut my hair today. And another clerk at the mall. Yes, I'm really crazy.

And I only just got :+ today!

~Tracy

[LacieD]

Only my online friends. We probably won't tell our families until after we pass the point where our last baby died - 8 weeks. Sometimes I feel like we jinxed ourselves last time by telling our families early - they didn't know about DS1 until 13 weeks.

[moodyred01]

No one IRL (except DH)
Just MDC!

[goddessgold1]

Well, you guys, my stbxh, he said, oh thats good, you are good at having babies, it will be ok. I told my little sister, because she was there when i did the test and I made her look at the line, i knew I must be hallucinating,lol. And my boss just this morning. I havent told anyone else yet. I just dont want to hear any of my or his family crap, my youngest is 10 months old, still nursing, and we are getting a divorce, so I dont guess it is gonna go over real well with either side of the family,kwim?

[mimiharshe]

ppl on here.

IRL...my dh's dad and his wife, a few friends. my aunt figured it out..she said she could just tell, but she is sworn to secrecy. i'm gonna show up an visit my family at the end of april when i'm showing and suprise them!

[Maple Leaf Mama]

I told Dh the deed was done the next day. (Afternoon after)
But because I'm still a couple days away from the earliest chance of getting a BFP, I've only told my sister. I had a M/C before DD and want to avoid telling too many people.

[mommajb]

I really do want to wait to tell people IRL for so many reasons but I have been 'caught' napping 3 times in the past two days. I am so tired I sit down to read to the kiddos and I am out like a light. They play in the same room as me and really help each other out (my oldest is 10) but people keep stopping by the house. It is so embarrassing. :o I know these friends would understand if they knew but i am not ready to tell. I guess I had better stay on my feet!

[pianojazzgirl]

So far just dh, my best friend, you guys and another couple of forums I frequent. I wanted to tell my other good friend when she came over today but she was with her 4 yr old and I didn't get a chance to tell her when he wasn't listening. If he knew he would start telling everyone, lol.