Safe place to vent :)

[daceysmomma]

Does anyone else want to do a little early pregnancy venting?

Let's just preface it all by saying that YES, being able to become pregnant is a beautiful, wonderful miracle. There are many things to be honored and revered about growing a new life. No one is taking any of that for granted.

But sometimes, the physical and emotional realities of early pregnancy - well, it's kind of sucky.

If you want to vent about anything, this is a safe place to let it out. No judgments!

[daceysmomma]

I had no idea how exhausting it would be to parent a toddler and be pregnant. I know I am not the first and certainly not the last to realize this, but my GOSH. I just want to lay down on the couch and go back to sleep. I am way too tired and nauseated to fix meals and read books and go to playgroup . . . But I guess I will suck it up and do it anyway because life hasn't stopped just because I feel crappy. LOL! And everyone, EVERYONE around me just irritates me to no end. I am usually not the grump at the grocery store - I am usually the one smiling at strangers and singing with DD while we shop. But lately I am just grumbling through it, murmuring to myself that everyone in this town is a freaking idiot whose only goal is to get in my way and slow me down. This is SO not me, and I hate feeling this way!! ARGH.

Okay, I feel a little better getting that out.

[AugustLia23]

All I can say is that this is all so normal, the crazy hormones that run through us so early in pregnancy. One of those "this too shall pass" things.

[lactivist]

This is my first pregnancy with a toddler in tow. My others have a much bigger gap. The exhuastion and lack of break is really overwhelming. I am grateful for the nausea and the tiredness and the hot flashes because it is reassuring after having pregnancy losses but it can be so tiring to deal with when I can't just go lie down whenever I want to. I too have been extra irritated and just want to withdraw, which I can't do. This too shall pass. It is all worth it. :)
Wendi

[sanguine_speed]

It just sucks. I had been faithfully going to the gym to get into good pre-pregnancy shape, now have gained 10 pounds since I conceived because I'm constantly starving, but I can't go to the gym cause I'm so tired and sick. I go to bed before my kids, like 6:30 and sleep 12 hours and am still exhausted. DP can't do everything, so my house is falling apart. Oy.

[cbmr777]

I'm tired. I'm too tired to resolve sibling conflicts. I'm already getting annoyed at DD2 nursing. She's such an aggressive, frequent nurser and my boobs hurt. I don't want her touching me... yet I don't want to wean her yet... And I'm tired to do anything about it one way or another...

And everyone knows but DH because he is out of the country. I want so badly to tell DH about my pregnancy but just have to keep waiting to be able to tell him until he gets home. More importantly, I want him home to deal with the kids in the evening so I can have a break... :(

I know... it will pass but in the meantime...

[dctexan]

I HATE feeling sick. It sucks. I'll I want to do it lie around and sleep. Instead, I have to get up and go to work and pretend I feel fine so that nobody figures out I am pg.

My house is a wreck. We moved in just before Thanksgiving, went out of town, then I had a huge work deadline, then I got pg, then we went out of town for Christmas, and now I am too tired and sick to do anything. We still have boxes that we haven't unpacked that are just sitting around being clutter. Is it wrong of me to want to just burn them? Obviously we do not need them.

I have spent the last year working out and getting into shape. I was feeling really happy with my body. Now that I am pg it is all going to hell. I am not exercising anymore and I have already gained 5-6 lbs (I'm 7 weeks) and I had to buy some maternity pants last weekend. This is my first pregnancy. I thought I wouldn't be showing until MUCH later.

Wah, wah. Poor me.

Okay, I think I feel better now. Sometimes you just need to let it all out :)

[jeaninevp922]

My poor dh. He spent the weekend complaining about how tired he is. Know why? Because dd says "milk, milk" all night long. So he hears her say it. Well, I hear her say it, and I actually *do* something about it. Why does he think he gets sympathy? I'm the one who's actually breastfeeding her all night long! And growing a baby at the same time!! Do I get any sympathy? No!:hammer Oy, men!

[maylea_moon]

I had no idea how exhausting it would be to parent a toddler and be pregnant.

:truedat:

[gizzyntaz]

I'm tired, but strangely it's not because of DS, even though he nurses all night long.

I'm really irritated at my friend though. Every chance she gets she tells me, "I don't know how you are going to do it with two. You better hope he starts sleeping better soon, I feel SO sorry for you." Mind you, I rarely discuss DS's sleep with her. And why she feels the need to comment? She did CIO with her son at 6 months because her DH made her. Now she's BFing her daughter and frustrated that she's not STTN at 6 months. She keeps referring to how she did CIO with her first and he's "such a good sleeper". Yet, after her DD was born, her son stopped STTN - which prompted all of the comments to me. Just goes to show - kids are unpredictable.

I'll have both of my kids in bed with me. Yes, I'll be tired. I really don't need her trying to stress me out about it. It's out of my control....

[lactivist]

uh oh! I must be in real trouble working on number four. My 22 mo has a sleep disorder and definitely doesn't sleep through the night. I don't expect him to anytime soon. Sometimes I just wish friends would keep their "brilliant" comments to themselves. I have one friend that keeps telling me I am crazy but I totally expected it. She has one son that is 16 and just can't fathom having more. The good thing is that she is totally supportive just can't comprehend. LOL
Wendi

[levar]

We are happy about my being pregnant again, this week. But last week, not so much. I went on WW lost a TON of wieght, and bought a whole new NICE wardrobe to go back to work in. We were planning on my going back to work in Sept so we could buy a house by Tday. Then... I warn you now, if you are teary STOP READING...

:nono

Did you stop? ... My husband's best friend and 18 mo old daughter were killed in a car accident 8/16/06. We spent our entire closing costs and then some traveling and paying for related things. I did not go back to work because crying constantly didnt seem like a good interview tactic. So neither did we buy a house. I finally decided back before Christmas that I would start interviewing again, so I could get a new job, pay for the clothing and closing costs, and buy a house by, get this, Sept!! Well, stress of BF and his DD passing, job interviews, thanksgiving followed by christmas, and lets just add my MIL visiting through the holidays, and NO Suprise I have a 'nervous stomach'. DUH! Guess it was the baby we'd been trying for 5+ years to get and given up on etc.

So, last week, serious debt, tons of new clothes I'll only wear another month or two at most, no new job, no house, AND there is NO way I can fly in August '07 to CA to hike to the top of El Cap in Yosemite to be with family and friends to spread the ashes of my Husband's Best Friend and Daughter.

This week... What a Roller Coaster Ride that LIFE has turned out to be?!?! I'm going to finally be able to say I have KIDS not just "a son" or "a kid" and THAT is one of the BIGGEST dreams I have had in life.

Now, please please please, let me not, gulp, M/C.

And PS to all you wonderful ladies who read this far, thank you. I need to "talk" but can't always do so. It helps.

[lactivist]

Life can be such a wild ride sometimes. I am so sorry about the loss of your friends. What a tragedy. All those clothes will still be waiting for you after the baby. :) As for buying a house, it will happen. It is a major goal of yours so you will make it happen. We just bought our first house when our third baby was almost a year. My first was 14 when we got our first house. I find that babies come when they are ready, whether we are or not. Try to just enjoy as much as you can. Sending lots of sticky baby vibes. Another baby on the way is soooo exciting.
Wendi