octobermom
05-17-2007, 12:34 AM
Today shes said.
DD Mommy?
Me: yes honey?
DD: are you going to have a baby?
ME: No honey not now. DO you remember what we talked about? What happened?
DD: The baby died :(
ME: yes sweetie the baby died
DD: My tummy hurts does your tummy hurt mommy?
ME: why does your tummy hurt
DD: Its empty no more baby. :(
ME: yes honey my tummy hurts too
DD: mommy?
ME: yes?
DD: Can grandma buy me a baby sister? :(
:( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( This has ben soo hard for her much harder than I'd ever imangined. :( She processing its hard.
Deanna
mama2mygirl
05-17-2007, 12:36 AM
I'm so sorry. My dd was in the room when we found out that I'd miscarried. She was a toddler and she still talks about it when we drive through the town where the dr. is. "Do you remember that doctor's office mama? I don't like that machine." (The ultrasound.)
It's really hard.
wwisdomskr
05-17-2007, 12:38 AM
Deanna, :hug :hug :hug :hug for your entire family as you grieve the loss of your precious baby.
scheelimama
05-17-2007, 06:57 AM
:hug for your dd. It's so heartbreaking when your children are processing such tough things. I haven't been there with a miscarriage, but I've been there with other things.
Isaac'sMa
05-17-2007, 08:58 AM
This brought tears to my eyes. But it is good that she is talking about it and processing with you.
Ivanhoe
05-17-2007, 09:30 AM
I totally agree with Isaac'sMa.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, but mama It's so good your daughter is talking and being so clear about her feelings. The fact that she is processing this *now* (hard porcess, for sure) puts her at ease of having to do this at any other time of her life. That means you have done an excellent job raising her as an emotionally strong little girl.
Hugs to you,
Ivana
sandiegokristi
05-17-2007, 10:01 AM
:hug :hug :hug for you and your entire family. I think that it is healthy that your daughter is talking this through with you and I am sure that must be so hard. I am so sorry.
yogachick79
05-17-2007, 10:34 AM
Deanna, much love and healing to you and your family right now.
De-lovely
05-17-2007, 07:40 PM
This brought tears to my eyes. But it is good that she is talking about it and processing with you.
Exactly.....:( HUgs!