hslingmomof4
06-27-2003, 02:15 PM
I've read some posts over the past few weeks and noticed there were a lot of ppl affected by the economy and the loss of their jobs.
I don't think there is a forum for unemployment or support for a loss of a job so, that is why I have started this thread.
I like to hear stories and how being laid off affected your living. I also wonder how it affected your parenting.
I'll start with mine.
It has been two years since dh got laid off. We were o.k. with it until I got laid off 5 months later. I got laid off 2 months after 9/11. My deep depression started and I felt impaired to raising my four children. I am openminded but have a stubborn independent personality. Dh was off of work for 15 months b4 he found a job in Florida. I was still looking and had an offer with a company an hour away from our new hometown (Jebb's country). It was also in the Central time zone which would affect my parenting. I wouldn't get home until 7pm. I decided to homeschool, considering the school are no match for back home. I have gotten out of my depression without meds. I still have a bit of depression but I think in time I will adjust. During my time of deep depression, I neglected the basic needs of my children. communication. I slept tremendously. I did force myself to do get up and get them ready for school, brush teeth and even had parties for them. I was just silent and numb. I wasn't myself. My kids seen our cars get repo and we were hiding when they came knocking. I would scrounge around for pennies to buy milk. I couldn't believe my children were experiencing this. Dh picked up 3 pt jobs b/c none of them would hire him perm. They were retail stores and grocery stores. They wouldnt give him full time work. He lowered his standards of work and pay and still no one would hire him. It was really bad.
Now, at the end of it all. I am with my children all day and hsling them. I don't mind, I just need more time to adjust b/c I was this person who believed I needed to work and have a career. I am happy to be with them. I see that they are happy too. Normally they would be in a daycare in the summer months getting bored. Now, mom can take them everywhere and we have fun. They will remember the fun.
They say losing a job is like losing a loved one emotionally. There are 9 million ppl that are still out of a work. Some can't even find min. wage jobs as my dh tried. Majority of them have exhausted their benefits and have been unemployed for two years. Did you know that if you are out of work for 13 months (seen this on DR. Phil) that you have a 5 percent chance you will return after 13 months. You become consumed with the new lifestyle.
As for myself, well I am going to hs the children. I am planning on starting my own business where the children will help too. I will not return back to the corporate world. They don't deserve me, my children do.
So, how has losing a job, whether it be your spouse or you affected your parenting? How did you adjust? Are you still adjusting? Are you able to see the step in front of you? ( I couldn't for a long time)UY
I don't think there is a forum for unemployment or support for a loss of a job so, that is why I have started this thread.
I like to hear stories and how being laid off affected your living. I also wonder how it affected your parenting.
I'll start with mine.
It has been two years since dh got laid off. We were o.k. with it until I got laid off 5 months later. I got laid off 2 months after 9/11. My deep depression started and I felt impaired to raising my four children. I am openminded but have a stubborn independent personality. Dh was off of work for 15 months b4 he found a job in Florida. I was still looking and had an offer with a company an hour away from our new hometown (Jebb's country). It was also in the Central time zone which would affect my parenting. I wouldn't get home until 7pm. I decided to homeschool, considering the school are no match for back home. I have gotten out of my depression without meds. I still have a bit of depression but I think in time I will adjust. During my time of deep depression, I neglected the basic needs of my children. communication. I slept tremendously. I did force myself to do get up and get them ready for school, brush teeth and even had parties for them. I was just silent and numb. I wasn't myself. My kids seen our cars get repo and we were hiding when they came knocking. I would scrounge around for pennies to buy milk. I couldn't believe my children were experiencing this. Dh picked up 3 pt jobs b/c none of them would hire him perm. They were retail stores and grocery stores. They wouldnt give him full time work. He lowered his standards of work and pay and still no one would hire him. It was really bad.
Now, at the end of it all. I am with my children all day and hsling them. I don't mind, I just need more time to adjust b/c I was this person who believed I needed to work and have a career. I am happy to be with them. I see that they are happy too. Normally they would be in a daycare in the summer months getting bored. Now, mom can take them everywhere and we have fun. They will remember the fun.
They say losing a job is like losing a loved one emotionally. There are 9 million ppl that are still out of a work. Some can't even find min. wage jobs as my dh tried. Majority of them have exhausted their benefits and have been unemployed for two years. Did you know that if you are out of work for 13 months (seen this on DR. Phil) that you have a 5 percent chance you will return after 13 months. You become consumed with the new lifestyle.
As for myself, well I am going to hs the children. I am planning on starting my own business where the children will help too. I will not return back to the corporate world. They don't deserve me, my children do.
So, how has losing a job, whether it be your spouse or you affected your parenting? How did you adjust? Are you still adjusting? Are you able to see the step in front of you? ( I couldn't for a long time)UY