When are you telling your family?

[iachica]

Do you tell them right away or do you give it some time? Just curious!!!

[KatWrangler]

They already know. I told them last week and my husband told his this past Sunday.

[blizzard_babe]

Beginning of October. Both DH and I are fairly private people, and we want to have stuff figured out on our own before we start dragging people (specificially, our mothers, who are very similar in many ways... thus our hesitance) into it.

One friend knows, though... she had weird baby premonitions. She thought to herself, "I bet Sara's knocked up," so she called me and asked, "So you knocked up yet?" I didn't know how to answer, so I stuttered around for a while... eventually DH and I communicated through sign language that we'd just tell her.

[kwilki8]

We'll be telling family at the beginning of October, too. I have an ultrasound scheduled, and we want to wait until after that to spread the news. I do have two friends who we told, though, because they would have figured it out very soon anyway when I kept refusing the wine they kept offering.

[MrsSurplus]

We're planning to tell in November....but I have to admit I'd LOVE to tell just one non-cyber friend so that we could be excited together! However, I don't think that it would stay a secret long if I told even one...so we'll wait.

[merry-mary]

Last time we told them the day after we found out.

This time, we're holding off for awhile. I want to wait until I hear the heartbeat or until we're out of the first trimester ... I just want to wait this time. Mainly b/c frankly, I am enjoying keeping it within my little family (DH and DS (16 mo)). Also, my MIL and FIL are very vocal about how people who have children close in age (as in less than 4-5 years apart) are crazy. And I don't need those comments.

Also, I know last time, it was really hard for our folks to keep the news quiet, so I'd like to tell them when we're comfortable enough with sharing the news with the rest of the world!

Right now, only cyberfriends and two of my girlfriends know.

[Taedareth]

Last night I ordered a Big Brother shirt for DS. I'm thinking in the next few weeks we'll attend some kind of family get-together (for DH's side) and we'll let DS run around wearing the shirt. See how long it takes for everyone to notice. :lol

My side of the family lives spread out, so I think we'll take a picture of ourselves with DS in the shirt, and put it into a family newsletter to send to everyone. (Like a Christmas newsletter, but December is so busy, I would never get around to it then.) I'm thinking we won't say anything about the pregnancy in the letter itself, just include the picture and sign it, "Love from Dale, Sarah, Wesley and Little May Flower '08." (I LOVE that May Flower line... except then everyone will assume we're having a girl. So maybe I'll have to put, "Someone new in May '08".)

As for timing, I don't know. Sometime in the next few weeks, I guess?

[junipervt]

We told our parents and siblings the day after we found out, but we're not telling anyone else until Thanksgiving. Hopefully they keep it to themselves like we asked them to.

[Pseudopods]

I can't ever keep my mouth shut. :lol I tell everyone as soon as I find out. I'm just too excited and I have to share! :D

[*Aimee*]

I didnt tell anyone I was pg with DS until I was 23 weeks! I'm fat so I can hide it well. I had a m/c before that and was veeeery cautious. But this time we told my mom and told her she could tell people if she wanted. So I know a lot of my family and friends now, I'll be MORE blabber about it next week after my heartbeat ultrasound!

[Shanana]

I had a m/c before dd, so I'm a little leery. That said, my policy is to tell anyone I would tell if I was having a m/c. I'm not a super private person, and I tend to reach out to others for support. So I know who I would tell if I was having a m/c, and they're the ones that I told about the pg.

My ILs are absolutely fantastic, and we told them right away. MIL is a great help with dd, and now I can just call and say I'm tired and hormonal, will you babysit? :lol Sadly, they go out of town for the winter at the end of October :(. I sure am hoping they make a few trips back here before spring.

OTOH, I'm not currently speaking to my parents, and the last thing I need to drag into the middle of that is me being pg. So they do not know, and neither does my brother, since he's not good at keeping his mouth shut :lol.

[shamarico]

Dh and I were going to keep it to ourselves for a while...that lasted two days. :lol
Since this is our first baby and the first grandchild on both sides, we were both too excited to wait any longer. Everyone is really supportive and I think my Dad is even more excited than we are!

[Galatea]

Dh's parents will be excited; mine may not be, b/c my dad really wishes I had become a famous, rich lawyer instead of a mom. He will see baby #3 as a set-back. I would like to wait until second trimester (Nov. 7) but I will likely show before that (I showed at 9 weeks with ds2) so the cat will be out of the bag. Dh is already bothering me to tell people.

[ferretfan]

i told some close friends, and my mum who's way over in the UK. but we told her not to spill until the second tri. we'll tell dh's family and anyone else who cares to listen then too

[alegna]

I think we'll tell my parents and MIL soon. Siblings we'll probably wait a bit.

-Angela

[happyfrog]

January 27

I'll be 24 weeks then and baby has a chance at survival outside womb. . .. 56% . .. .

[pdxmomazon]

I told my sister right away. As in minutes after the positive. She is my best friend:)

We told my Dad and stepmom right away, too. They knew we were trying in August, so it couldn't be a secret for long. My wife's parents are in Europe, so when they get back we'll probably end up telling them. They are big drinkers and when I refused wine the last time we saw them (tww) I saw a flash of suspicion in my MIL's eyes.

My cousin called me yesterday to tell me she is pregnant and due in late April or early May! I ended up telling her, too! But the rest of the family we won't tell until the first trimester is over.

[bluepetals]

Our parents, siblings (well, except one, my brother is comign for dinner this weekend and we'll tell him then), my best friend all know already. As well as a smattering of other people that I have blabbed to! I can't keep it secret at all this time! Last time I was working outside the home and didn't want it to get back to my boss till I was ready to tell...this time I am a SAHM so I think that is making my lips a little looser!

[heatherRN]

Told my sister and best friends right away, but I am waiting to tell everyone else until after my first midwife appt Sept. 27th. We did the same thing last time. It is nice to be able to report to everyone with the news of the pg and the healthy u/s. Plus who knows...could be twins!? :dizzy:

[veggijessie]

I can't ever keep my mouth shut. :lol I tell everyone as soon as I find out. I'm just too excited and I have to share! :D

:yeah: Me too!:lol

[TheGirls]

We told our parents and a few close friends immediately, however, I'm waiting until a family wedding at the end of the month to tell the larger family. I'm basically holding out as long as I can because I'm nervous about a miscarriage, but I know I won't be able to hold back when I see everyone in person. Also, the morning (and afternoon/evening) sickness is pretty bad, and I don't want everyone to think I have something they can catch every time I clutch at my stomach!

[Korimomto2]

I told my mom yesterday. She was not amused. This is our third in four years and although *we* are thrilled, she believes we are ruining our lives. :gloomy:

Why can't people just love babies??

[symesa]

I told my mom when she came to visit last week -- so 5 weeks. But...we won't be telling other people until we head home to visit in late October.

Aside from that, I've told a *few* IRL people who would be my support/comfort should anything go wrong...

[1babysmom]

I wish we could tell right away. :( I have had past experiences that lead me to believe it'd be best if we wait, so we won't REALLY be telling until around late November/December, if possible. We told early on in my first pregnancy and got some not-to-thrilled-but-congrats-anyway responses from most family. Then we lost the baby and had to untell them all, and since I'm pretty much the only one in the family to have fertility issues, it was awful. We never told anyone about the second pregnancy, which we also lost. We only told my family at 9 weeks with DD because we went on vacation with them and I needed to explain why I had to keep progesterone suppositories in our snack cooler in the car. LOL

I will probably tell my MIL pretty soon because she'll be in prayer for us and keep quiet about it, but also she's our access to any medical stuff we need ( she's an RN and married to the medical director/ER MD in our hometown- 1 hour away- so can get us anything if we need it). My mom is here today and I SOOO want to tell her but I'm just afraid. My family is great about joking about when we'll have another and teasing me about DD having a little sibling, but if I were to tell them that we were really pregnant, all the opinions on our situation would come flying in and I just hate that. (the biggest being that we're young and DH is in school now...but we wouldn't have tried for a baby if we couldn't have managed! Oh yeah, the obviously don't have any idea we've EVER TTC).

Anyway, sorry for the novel!! Sometimes I wish I could just blurt it out to the world...it's such wonderful news. But it's so early still, so I'm pretty nervous about telling anyone.

[blizzard_babe]

I told my mom yesterday. She was not amused. This is our third in four years and although *we* are thrilled, she believes we are ruining our lives. :gloomy:

Why can't people just love babies??

:hug sorry to hear that. Hopefully she'll come around and understand that if it makes you happy, then it is a good thing.

[Molck]

I'm not sure what we'll do. The plan right now is to wait until at least the beginning of the second trimester (all the better to avoid well-intentioned meddling).

But my parents are driving down from Washington tomorrow for a one-day visit, the first in ... four years? And I'm terrible at keeping secrets. I'll probably grin like a fool as soon as I see them and then blurt it out within the first hour. D'oh!

[MamaJ2005]

We live about 800 miles from our families, so we're thinking about sending out Christmas cards with the news included somehow. : ) Love hearing about everyone else's plans.

[SunRise]

I will see my parents first week of October. We are all going to a cousins wedding. I would like to tell them AFTER the wedding.

But it depends if I am showing or not ... Also my sister has an inkling and she is a huge gossiper. I like to keep her hanging and wondering. My plan is to make some cards and distribute them after the wedding.

Partner has already told his mom and family (they live in Turkey)

[amandaanne]

We told the day after we found out with DS, waited a couple of weeks with DD. I don't know what we'll do this time. I'm only 11 DPO, just found out today, so we'll probably wait a few days at least and make sure this sticks. I just don't really expect anyone to be overly excited this time since it's our third. Probably a few will think we've lost our minds. :duck:

Last night I ordered a Big Brother shirt for DS. I'm thinking in the next few weeks we'll attend some kind of family get-together (for DH's side) and we'll let DS run around wearing the shirt. See how long it takes for everyone to notice. :lol

That's exactly what we did with when we announced my last pregnancy to my DH's family. It didn't take them long to figure it out, but I think if it hadn't been for DH's observant brother it would have taken longer. The rest of them don't pay that much attention. :lol

[princesspennie]

I am about 5 weeks and already told everyone!
To excited to keep it to myself.

[pammysue]

Well, since we have only know for about one hour only MIL knows. She is very happy. I left a message for my parents (they are apparently still sleeping) to call me back. We will call SIL in a little bit.

Other than family, we won't be telling anyone for a while. Though, if I continue to feel so nauseous and start throwing up, it won't be a secret for long at work. We are all women and pretty close-knit. I work in day care and had a gag reflex yesterday when changing a poopy diaper--a dead give-away.:sick :Puke