need support from positive mamas

[gretelmom]

I'm 36.5 wks pregnant, and planning a hypnobirthing birth. I've enjoyed my Hypnobirthing program, gotten a lot from the practice of relaxation, and really taken so much away from the teachings of making a positive home for the baby, a soothing and nurturing place, speaking happy words about pregnancy/birth, etc.

Then all of a sudden the last few days I've made such a turn. I have this urinary pain that the OB says comes from the baby grinding his body/head against my urinary tract nerves which are apparently very raw. I didn't have this with my first pregnancy at all. I know another mom who had this too, and it is really really painful. It happens most when the baby's moving a lot. I've had two urinary screens, had the urine sent out to a lab and everything. The doctor says it's fairly typical. I'm drinking lots of water and RRL tea, cranberry juice, etc.

Here's the big problem, the bladder discomfort is ALWAYS there, as if I had to pee all the time, really bad. I knwo that's typical pregnancy thing. I'm okay with that. I've been okay with hemerrhoids, swelling, back pain, all the normal stuff. But these shooting "electrical" nerve pains are starting to really take a toll in combination with all the "little" stuff in my body. I'm turning into a person I don't know, crying all the time, so irritable, eating badly, having no appetite. I'm being mean to everyone, it's like the worst PMS I've ever felt.

I hate being this way, even worse (and I feel horrible writing it, though I know I"ll feel better putting it out there), I feel somewhat angry at the baby because it's his movements that cause the worst pain. This goes against everything I've ever felt with this pregnancy or the last, and I don't get this way with my son. I've never been truly angry with my son in his life. I don't want to go into labor, I don't feel like "Get this baby out of me" because it's too early and I also don't have anyone to take care of DS1 until the 15th when my parents get here. I"ve also always believed the baby would come out when he was ready. I never wanted to push it, or be impatient.

I feel so out of control and it's so against everythign I believe to be right and true for pregnancy, and even parenthood. I don't want to bitch about being pregnant, I really don't. But I need some help understanding what's going on! I don't want to be ungrateful for this miracle and this new life, I want to be grateful and strong. But I feel resentful and weak.

Thanks for listening.

[gcgirl]

It's okay to be cranky and grumpy when you're in constant discomfort. Really! Try not to be too hard on yourself. Once the baby's out and the pain is gone, I doubt you'll feel any resentment at all. I had a coworker once whose mantra was *I don't want to wish my life away*, but it's hard not to want the hard times to get over with faster.

[adamsfam07]

Don't be so hard on yourself, it's hard to be cheerful when your feeling so lousy. :irked: Soon, all the discomfort will be over and you'll have a beautiful baby in your arms, you won't even remember how miserable you were. Take care of yourself, give yourself a facial, do your nails, have someone rub your feet to take your mind off of all the negative feelings, and hang in there momma! :Hug

[Pastrydemon]

Oh girl....I have a similar pain on and off. It kills my enjoyment of everything. I could have written part of your post. When it flares up I'm grumpy and miserable and crabby.

Just :Hug:Hug:Hug

[Grace24]

Yes, if only pregnancy could be all sunshine and roses. Alas, it's normal to be miserable at the end... I am! And this has been the easiest pregnancy ever. But every time I take a step I have shooting pains in my girly parts and I swear Friday I just fell apart. But I doubt that has anything to do with the kind of mother I'm going to be!

It's hard at the end for a lot of us, it just is. Some say it's nature's way of preparing us for childbirth! :lol I'm starting to wonder if there's something to that. Just hang in there, know that it's normal to feel grumpy and cranky when you feel like crap, and remember this part is almost over. Allow yourself to be a human being, complete with bad feelings and frustrations as well as good.

:Hug That pain "down there" is the worst, and I swear I can't wait to live my life OUTSIDE of the bathroom again. I had a small bladder before pregnancy... now I feel like I might as well sit on the toilet all day and not bother getting up, I pee so much. So I hear ya. But again, it's almost over.

[fek&fuzz]

You might consider trying acupuncture. It can be a great help and is completely safe during pregnancy.

[xelakann]

You might consider trying acupuncture. It can be a great help and is completely safe during pregnancy.

I do acupuncture for my bladder pain.

Like you, I have done many lab tests to see if its a bladder infection, but alas, it is just my baby bouncing on my bladder. I find it tremendously uncomfortable/painful.

So acupuncture doesn't stop him from bouncing on my bladder but it does stop the UTI symptoms associated with it.

P.S I am planning a hypnobirth too... when I practice my relaxation with my DH I have him throw in some lines about my discomfort. For example right before he counts me up from a relaxation he says something like, "All pain and discomfort in your bladder (or where ever I'm aching at the time) will release, you will feel comfortable and healthy, etc..."

I feel like it helps... currently we are working on turning my posterior baby through our hypnosis sessions.

Good luck!
~Kimberly

[OpenHanded]

Just wanted to give :hug. Go easy on yourself -- it's hard!

[gretelmom]

I feel like it helps... currently we are working on turning my posterior baby through our hypnosis sessions.

Good luck!
~Kimberly

Kimberly,

How do you know baby's posterior? I know baby should end up with butt to your left, head down. But I'm 36.5 wks and baby still moves around EVERYWHERE, but left right and middle! DS1 was in position for a month before delivery. This little guy is always up and down with feet everywhere.
When should his butt be stuck to the left?

[kjoy2]

Hi! I'm doing hypnobirthing classes, too, and though I haven't experienced the sort of pain that you refer to, I was going to suggest a couple of things:
- using this pain as self-hypnosis practice sessions, to try to numb your pain and send endorphins instead; and
- going in for hypnosis sessions

It looks like, from your last post, that you are already doing both of these things. I hope that something helps you to overcome the discomfort until you have that baby in your arms!
Let us know how you are doing.

[gretelmom]

Hi! I'm doing hypnobirthing classes, too, and though I haven't experienced the sort of pain that you refer to, I was going to suggest a couple of things:
- using this pain as self-hypnosis practice sessions, to try to numb your pain and send endorphins instead; and
- going in for hypnosis sessions

It looks like, from your last post, that you are already doing both of these things. I hope that something helps you to overcome the discomfort until you have that baby in your arms!
Let us know how you are doing.

You know, I'm having problems even practicing my relaxation techniques because the more I lean back, the worse the pain gets. I do agree though, it's a great way to practice sending endorphins and I hadn't thought of that. I was just trying to relax through the pain, but it wasn't working. I think because it's not muscular. But I need to use my little pain relief gauge I created (we didnt like the one in the book, I think called "the valve" or osmething, so we drew our own) and also the glove method. That is great advice.

I'm also calling my OB today to double check tha tmy urine sample from Thursday that they sent out came back clean. The pain has become a feeling of burning IN my urethra which makes me feel it could still be an infection, though DH says it's probably still nerve pain.

The sad part is, I feel like my weakness in handling this pain the last four days or so is planting a seed of doubt regarding being able to have a comfortable, natural birth. And I know that doubt is toxic. I was formerly SO capable of handling all the pains of pregnancy, all the BH contrax were so EASY to deal with, I felt so capable, now I'm doubting myself.

I need to take some time today when the babysitter's here to do some positive affirmations. I hate feeling so down and negative.

[gretelmom]

It looks like, from your last post, that you are already doing both of these things. I hope that something helps you to overcome the discomfort until you have that baby in your arms!
Let us know how you are doing.


Just wanted to tell you all that I had some crazy Strep urinary tract infection... I knew inside something was WRONG, not just "discomfort" and finally after sending the urine out for testing they discovered this. I knew that every single movement the baby made shouldn't be causing me such horrible pain! Anyway I'm already feeling a bit better just knowing.