Is there a TTC after Birth Loss forum?

[Shakti]

Is there a TTC after Birth Loss forum, or should I hang out here? :-) I am just starting TTC this month (month 4 after my miscarriage.) It would be good to support and be supported by other women in this situation. The TTC forum seems to be missing something for me.

Thanks!

Patti

[ninafel]

Patti, very glad you've brought this up.

I've also been reading and posted a bit on the regular TTC board and I agree with you. For me, it doesn't capture the trepidation I feel potentially heading into another pregnancy. There's an innocence that's been lost for me about the whole process and it would be nice to be talking about 2wwts and such with others who have been through losses.

I'm trying to open myself to the possiblity of feeling both *joy* and anxiety in the same breath, if you know what I mean.

By the way, I'm about 5 days past O and this is my 3rd cycle since my last miscarriage.

Thanks again for bringing this up!

Ninafel

[Jacque Savageau]

Most of the TTC after birth loss mothers have hung out here, or our TTC forum if they're comfortable there.

We've talked about a sub-forum here, but our concern is that it won't get much traffic - thus our members won't get the support they need.

Please, feel free to post over here. The support is great. Many mothers have gone from Loss, through conception to birth over here.:hug

There's a sticky on the pregnancy and birht loss forum where I listed several books. There are a few excellent ones on TTC after loss that I found VERY helpful!

[Shakti]

ninafel - yes, that is what I meant! You said it better than I! So sorry about your losses. I hope the next one is sticky for you. And welcome to MDC!! :D

Ms. Mom - thanks for the reply. I did wonder if there would really be enough people for a TTC After Loss forum. But it is nice to know that I can hang out here. :)

Patti

[Jacque Savageau]

I was thinking today. You may want to start a thread "TTC after loss" or something like that. This would be similar to the Pregnancy after Loss threads we keep going over here.

Having a specific thread may be helpful in getting the support you need.

Also, someone just posted a BEAUTIFUL poem in our writting section on TTC that you may want to take a look at. I was VERY moved by it.

The feelings you're both describing are SO normal and I think healthy! We feel so betrayed by our bodies when we lose a child.

Deciding to open ourselves up again is a HUGE decision. I'll be thinking of you both as you travel this path.

[Abylite]

I'm so happy you brought this up and that there are others out there like me (not that we chose this though!!). I'm in the same predicament and just posted "how can I get excited about TTC again?" I've had 2 losses! It's hard. Big hugs to everyone out there!

[blessed2bamommie]

:duh I can't find the poem, Jacque! Where? :confused: Last night was the first time of unprotected sex since we lost Jordan. I cried, and while I did the UTI prevention measure (sorry, TMI :eek) I looked to Heaven, trying to see him and cried and I can't remember if I attempted to talk to him; but, some attempt at not forgetting Jordan; but, opening ourselves us for God to give us his brother or sister. (OK, I'm bout to cry). I'm excited. I'm happy. I'm nervous. I am wondering if I really am, and anticipating disappointment. (after all, I had it 13 times until we got Jordan and the whole ordeal) Then, I also, more often than not, consider what if we open ourselves up and God says......Aaron or Mikayla and its :+. I tried to think about my cycles. It was not premeditated :LOL. Although, I have hated condoms for months! I don't even know if it was my fertile time! Actually we conceived Jordan on Jan 1 (mil's bday :LOL), so I thought well......but; AF was a week late last month, so.....maybe not. Anyway! I'm rambling! I am trying to be careful like I'm pg. (checking the green tea, thinking about prenatal care, supplements...) I don't want to wait for a missed period like last time because I want to start care right away, as opposed to my skipping months in the past, I'll wait until I've skipped two. I don't even know when I can test. I think I read on another board 2 wks after 'conception?' I don't want a :- . Ok...emotions are all over the place! :nut I *hope someone is reading this post and :nodding! Allright! hitting submit! :rolleyes:

[shannon0218]

hah hah, you're all over the place but boy oh boy I understand!!!:thumb Maybe I should be worried!!! The emotional roller coaster I think for me will not be over until I'm holding a healthy little baby in my arms and staring at him/her with the ultimate in wonder. I'm so angry with my body right now for betraying me but by the same token, this is the only thing I would be willing to put myself at the same risk level for. I'm such a control freak and the hardest part has been accepting that I can't "fix" it. I was in love with this little soul and I trust that she (I really believe it was a girl) will be watching and protecting her baby sister.
I'm so glad to have a spot to talk about all this, Thanks everyone!!
Lv Shannon

[blessed2bamommie]

update: if anyone cares, I just got a reply to a post I made weeks ago. feelin hopeful. wanting a :+ and a healthy :baby ":nonobut a little darker than that one or dh will be mad, :LOL