Water has been broken now for about 43 hours. Baby is ok, I am drained and emotional but determined not to go to the hosptial.

Midwives want me to sign a waiver saying I refused Transfer. I have no fever and they are comfortable not making me go till 72 hours.

BUT they refuse to give me the ok to try castor oil till morning. I slept a lot today and feel like I need to tonight, while the kids are sleeping and I can get support. They made it sound like I would be dropped from care if I tried things without their ok.

You know I will not sleep tonight.

Do I do it anyway and try and try to UC rather then wait longer and further risk c-section? I can not afford a section as I have no help to recover from it never mind the damage to baby and interventions.

I can not believe I am here thinking about this. But baby is ok and kicking me and I am not ready to give up. I almost feel like my midwives who have done nothing do not want to come out in the middle of the night.

Not sure my friends or doula would support me in a UA.

Could I go to the hospital tomorrow and say my water just broke and convince them to at least try inducing me without c-section? Would my midwives rat me out to cover their own butts?

I badly need advice.

Blessings,
Kimmy

What's a UA?

Sorry, I meant UC. Meaning no help from someone trained in birthing babies.

I think she means UC--unassisted childbirth.

I am so sorry you are facing this! I seriously doubt your midwives would rat you out. I think you would likely not even have them at your birth at the hospital.

Doing a UC is certainly an option, and I would suggest you post on the UC board if you think that is an option for you.

This sucks. Have you gone ahead with the castor oil? Breast pump? Are you positive that your bag isn't still intact? Are you still leaking?

Aww, I'm so sorry! It's so hard when this happens, especially as you have your partner far away. :Hug

Oh and I'd sign the waiver. If they are willing to wait till 72 hours until you transfer, then that's good. Sleep tonight and see what tomorrow brings.

I went to a hospital birth recently for ruptured membranes and it turns out only one layer ruptured, and the bag was still intact enough to need to be ruptured later...

You need to do what feels right to you. Personally, I'd be really uncomfortable w/ a mw that was so medically minded. (In fact, I felt that way about my mw this time, so I chose to have a UC and it was a great decision.)

UC is certainly an option, but you should have at least one person there who can help out in case help is needed, i.e. if the cord is around the neck tightly and it needs to be clamped and cut *before* baby can come out. You just can't predict that...I had a friend this week who had both shoulder dystocia and this particular cord situation happening simultaneously.

Just be sure you have extra hands there. :hug I hope it happens soon for you Kimmy.

I am going to wait till morning to try castor oil if that does not work then I will let the midwives know that I do not want them sharing my medical information with anyone for any reason. If I am worried about baby I will try and go to the hospital then and get induced telling them I am leaking but not sure how much or how long.

I am certian my water broke and it keeps leaking. Sometimes just getting up is enough to soak a clean huge pad. I am trying to keep hydrated. I have gone through a full bag of pads so far though so I long lost hope it was not really broken.

Oh funny, now I get a contraction even though I have not tried to walk or pump for a few hours.

Sorry, I meant UC. Meaning no help from someone trained in birthing babies.
OK, I had a UC with DS. I thought maybe UA was something new I wasn't familiar with (and I thought I knew all the internet terms!) Maybe you were thinking "UA violations" about the midwives? :lol

Here are some "baby come out" vibes: :dust

Sending you peaceful birthing vibes mama.....keep us posted. I have my candle lit for you!

Hang in there, Kimmy! Please keep us posted and let us know what happens!

I'd keep waiting if I were you too, but it's a tough call. On the one hand your MWs are being pretty great by waiting 72 hours after water breaking, but to make you feel like you will have to UC just because you wanted to try castor oil at night instead of the morning seems very wrong.

I hope the castor oil works this morning... maybe also try journaling to try and let some thoughts out of your mind, emotional and mental stuff can definitely hold up labor and I know you are in a tough spot without much support. Lots of (((HUGS))) and good thoughts coming to you.