loss of a home

[flutemandolin]

I haven't seen anything about mourning the loss of a place in this forum, but I have been going through this for a while and can't seem to get over it.

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I think the big difference between grieving for a person who has died and grieving for a place is that a person is gone, is never coming back, but unless a house burns down or is bulldozed over to make way for a freeway, it is still there and there is always the possibility....what if the person living there now decided to sell it? How can I persuade her to sell it? (Yes, I've spent a lot of time dreaming up these scenarios). If we won fifty million dollars in the lottery, I would offer this person a ridiculously large sum of money to vacate that $xxx house and let me live there again. That's all I want (other than, of course, the best possible life for my children).

But then again I think I'm crazy and I need to get on with my life. Has anyone else had a similar experience, or any words of wisdom, or anything? If you've read this far, thanks for listening.

[sanna]

tuftet,

You said that you all built the house, right? Well, I imagine that you gave that house life, like a child. And you mourn that. It seems very reasonable. I am sorry that it is still so painful.

One of two things will happen, or maybe three; !). By some miracle (and they do exist), you will live there again (and that is why you can't let go of the dream). 2). You will learn to let go and move on, enjoying your life as it is in the 'now'. or 3). You will always have regrets..

I wish for you that it is one of the first two. But, you know, I too live with a major regret of another kind. It just seems like one of Mother Earth's lessons. For one.. To listen to oneself better next time ! :crying

Ps; Why don't you go and introduce yourself to the people there, and just let them know that if they are ever interested in selling..?
(That's called creating your reality!).

[lisamarie]

tufted~

It is such a loss!!! My ds and I lost our home too~in a different way though, but very sudden and traumatic. It is SUCH a loss~my ds still asks about our old home. Allow yourself to grieve, because its a loss of many things. It took me 2 years to "get over" loosing our home. It takes time, be gentle with yourself.

BIG HUG~

Lisa:love

[Cedarah]

I'm so sorry for the sense of loss and regret you are experiencing. My mother grieved the loss of her house -- she talked about it for years and years. I came to believe that her sense of grief over that house had to do with something about her life at that point, and it ended up being mostly about her family being intact and having her babies during that time. You mentioned several milestones you experienced there, and I can totally understand your attachment to a place where you first built your nest and brought home a baby. Hopefully it will move into a space of always being important, but not holding you back.

Connection ending, will post more in a moment.

[Mommy2ZaGirls]

Well tomorrow we close on our 3rd house in four and a half years. We made a huge mistake moving out of that first house & city. We loved it & I cried so hard when we left. We just left our second house, the house my daughter was born in and that was excruciating. I think some of us are just more attached to places than others.

I hope you can focus on the positives of where you are living now. It seems to be the only way to survive!