Feeling awful

[supakitty]

I want to hear from people who have had difficult pregnancies and were able to get through it. I want to hear if people considered termination because they weren't able to handle one more day of feeling awful. I want to hear from people who didn't enjoy being pregnant. I am in such turmoil. I need to know that people have endured despite hyperemesis, chronic health problems, bleeding... Right now I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and I wonder how I can put my family through all this for even one more day.

-Laura

[Individuation]

I want to hear from people who have had difficult pregnancies and were able to get through it. I want to hear if people considered termination because they weren't able to handle one more day of feeling awful. I want to hear from people who didn't enjoy being pregnant. I am in such turmoil. I need to know that people have endured despite hyperemesis, chronic health problems, bleeding... Right now I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and I wonder how I can put my family through all this for even one more day.

-Laura

Me. No time to type now, but if you go to my blog (link in sig) there are a bunch of entries tagged "gestation." Also PM me if you like.

[supakitty]

Thank you, I loved reading your blog. -Laura

[SublimeBirthGirl]

Not me, but an online friend of mine is pregnant with her 4th. She has such severe hyperemesis that she loses huge amounts of weight, and ends up hospitalized for dehydration. Reading about her experiences with pregnancy is heartbreaking. it is so hard on her. It must be worth it, though, because she keeps doing it!

[danotoyou2]

Yep. I didn't have any medical conditions that made pregnancy difficult, I just found it to be a miserable time. I wanted to slap the women who said "Oh, pregnancy is WONDERFUL" and I actually got angry at my mother for the years of brainwashing that "pregnancy was the best part of my life." I went to her and said "How could you tell me that?! Pregnancy sucks!" And she said "Well, at the time it does, but later you look back on it with fondness."

And you know what? You do. Sure there's the morning sickness, weird symptoms (enlarged feet! No one tells you about that in the birthing classes) and general lack of energy, but it IS a neat time in your life. That is, once you're holding your baby and it's OVER! :lol

It does get better, and it's all worth it to have that baby.

[Turquesa]

:Hug Yes! I've been there! I didn't consider abortion, but there were definitely x's on my calendar counting down to the due date!

You don't have to feel happy and hear birdies chirping and angels singing. If that was other peoples' experience, whoop-dee-doo, but that doesn't have to become your reality. A true friend would validate what you're feeling and just listen to you instead of superimposing on you what pregnancy is supposed to feel like. Forgive the tirade, but it really gets to me when people do that. :irked:

I didn't suffer nearly the physical side effects that you're experiencing, but it was definitely an emotional strain. :gloomy: I apologize for sounding so simplistic, but counseling really did help me and may be worth considering, at least for a trial run.

Touch base with us about how you're doing or PM me.

[georgia]

Moving to Pregnancy :hug

[OceansEve]

:Hug You can get through it. My first was a miserable experience as well. I hate it when people tell you it is a great because it isn't like that for everyone. My first was full of bleeding, feeling exhausted constantly, I got seriously ill twice, puking nonstop beginning to end all day, and hospital stays. I don't believe you are alone in the termination thoughts, I didn't think about abortion, but I was definately suicidal during my first because it was so horrible, I felt like no one understood and something was wrong with me because things weren't going right. DH and my dad both wanted me to get psych help after she was born premie and I cried all the time. I don't think anyone had a clue it was the way I had felt since the beginning, not PPD.

The good news is it does get better. After we got through all the premie risk junk, things perked up and I love my DD like nothing I've ever felt before. Still trying to figure out how DH talked me into having another one this fast, but honestly this pg is nothing compared to the last, not saying I feel like walking on air, but it really isn't as bad as last time, so don't think you are doomed to misery with every child either. Good Luck and hang in there, the best things in life are those you have to work hard for.