Anyone not finding out the gender?

[LAMommy]

I'm not even sure if I am pg but I know that if I am we will not be finding out the gender. Our first was a surprise as well. The tech for our 4D ultrasound took pics and put them in a sealed folder for me. I was the only person to know where they were.

Just wondering what everyone else is going to do.

:rainbow

[hyz]

Ack! I couldn't possibly wait if I didn't *have* to! I'm soooo eager to know! It's just one bit of early information about who this person inside me will turn out to be. The only benefit I could *personally* see in waiting is that it would discourage family members from buying us tons of distinctly gendered baby stuff (frilly pink things, truck & car sheet sets, etc.). We like to think that we would raise a girl or boy the same way, according to their *individual* wants/needs and not any stereotyped assumptions, but I want to know if I should be dreaming of pigtails or little boy rumpled bed head! Also, I'd always said I wanted a girl, because I felt I would know how to be a better mother to a girl. This isn't true so much anymore--I'm getting more and more excited about the thought of having a boy. But I'd like the time to prepare in advance and get myself pumped up whichever way it turns out.

[BakerALM]

Well last time we did not find out and it was the most amazing surprise EVER! It was like you just pushed out this HUGE object and then you get to find out what it is.:p It took us just a bit to look between the legs, all the genitals were a bit swollen so my hubbie hesitated before saying it was a girl:lol. It was awsome. We also did not tell anyone the names that we were considering until we announced the birth, it did not allow for any criticisms.

This time my hubbie wants to find out and I still don't want to know, we will see how this plays out:wink.

[geo_girl]

We didn't last time, although I was sorely tempted!!!

We ended up having an amnio, and *COULD* have found out, but it was a wonderful surprise.

...I can definitely understand wanting to know, but we loved finding out at the birth.

cheers,
charlene

[ananas]

I won't be finding out the gender. I most likely won't be having any u/s, although if I do, it will be pretty hard to not ask!

This little one told me a long time ago what gender it will be :loveeyes:

[amymaew]

We won't be finding out. I don't want a u/s this time, and I found out with both of the boys, so it's time for a surprise!

[LAMommy]

I ended up having a C section and when they took him out they kept saying things like "The baby is doing this, The baby is doing that". After about a minute I said "We don't know what we're having". The nurse said "You don't know what this baby is?" After telling her no she said "Well, he looks like all boy to me!" My husband and I were so happy! (Until they had to wisk him off to the NICU b/c of meconium aspiration but that's a different story).

[Got_Cloth]

im not finding out. I determined it really doesnt matter, and i really dont care, so we wont find out. At least until the birth LOL

[EmilyS]

Anasas: I have a really strong conviction about what this one is too! I had been having dreams about him for three months now!

[Got_Cloth]

Anasas: I have a really strong conviction about what this one is too! I had been having dreams about him for three months now!

I am never sure what my babies are, so i dont even attempt to guess. DH on the other hand has never been wrong...

[fridgeart]

We didn't find out with our first and I don't think we will for this one either. It was such an awesome surprise! If I'm going to guess, I think this one will be a boy.

[gemelos]

We are having a homebirth and I won't be having an ultrasound unless my midwife is concerned about something. But even if we were having an ultrasound I would not want to know. We didn't know with the twins and it was so fun!

[hyz]

I had a dream this morning that said this baby is a boy--my first dream about it, either way. I've never predicted anything through dreaming before, but who knows? At least I have a 50/50 shot at being right, eh? :p

[emikey]

We didn't know with #1, and loved not knowing. I wanted a little surprise to look forward to at the end of labor. The line I used with people was "the kid will surprise us its whole life, and might as well start right away." At the 20wk ultrasound, I asked the tech to write it on a little card and seal it in an envelope, but we never opened the envelope. ... I even remember that at my first (6wk) and last (early labor, is the head down?) ultrasounds, I kept yelling, "don't tell me! I don't want to know!"... I understand wanting to know, especially if you have decorating to do, but it made me feel really connected with all those generations of women who never knew.

[PrayinFor12]

Current plan is no u/s unless some problem arises. But even if we do end up needing to, we'll beg the person looking not to say anything!

[Pyrodjm]

We won't do and ultrasound unless it is medically necessary. DH has always said that he wants the surprise. If we end up with an U/S for some reason, then we will found out.

[Carley]

We are definitely finding out. It helps me connect with the little person inside of me & allows pronouns instead of "it" (which I hate!). We'll have one 4D ultrasound that will give me the peice of mind I need to have a homebirth. It would be stupid to give birth to a baby that required immediate medical attention at home.

hyz, I was adamant about gender neutral baby stuff even though we "found out." Guess what! My little olive skinned toddler looks great in pink, her favourite color, and avoids her trucks & anything "dirty" in favour of her baby dolls & anything "pretty." No matter what we dress them in they have their own ideas from the very beginning :lol

[jbmill2]

I don't think we will. We found out last time, but really this is one of life's best surprises. It's really something to look forward to when feeling huge and uncomfortable.

[CountrylivinmomtoB]

We won't be. I caved in last time and found out even though I didn't want to know!!

[radiowave]

We have decided not to find out...there are so few big surprises that are wonderful whatever the news! I have a feeling that it will be a boy, though!

[Bella Catalina]

Surprise this time!

We found out last time, too. We had out u/s in early December and asked the doc to put it in an envelope for us. DH wanted to know, I didn't, and we decided we'd wait until Christmas Eve and open it then. Well, stupid me thought the OB had given us an empty envelope, so in the car on the way home I held it up and though it was an overcast day, I could see perfectly well that he'd written it in black ink on a yellow post-it. I only saw one letter but that was enough... and it took me over a week to own up to the fact I knew.

[DoulaSarah]

I had u/s with all three for bleeding and as I have no patience, I knew they were all girls. Of course, I already knew they were all girls.


I think this one is a girl also, but we will find out next August!

[Isadora]

I'm too much of a control freak and planner (and a spaz) to not find out. I just have to know. So yes, I will have an u/s.

[Oliversmommy]

We're probably not going to find out either. I don't think we'll do an ultrasound, but that's still to be determined.

When DS was born, my husband delivered him and put him right on my chest. After about 5 minutes the midwife said, "Do you know if it's a boy or girl yet?" We had completely forgotten to check we were just so excited he was with us!

[Megan_in_Holland]

I'm still not sure, but I'm leaning towards letting it be a surprise. DH definitely doesn't want to know, and I know I couldn't keep my mouth shut if I knew the gender and he didn't. :lol

[hookahgirl]

Not finding out either! Love it, although it seems like its going to be harder this time around!
Whitney

[deliarose]

We didn't find out with our 2, but I kinda want to know in case it is a boy and not a girl like we already have. DH said no. LOL! I will have to wait. I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret!

[AKA_PI]

I'm not sure if I want to know. I think we'll find out the sex sometime in Feb and my baby daddy's birthday is in Feb so it will be a pleasant birthday present for him. If I remember correctly, when we first started talking about a child we both said we wouldn't want to know but I don't know. We'll see. I just want a healthy pregnancy.

[peacelovingmama]

We will find out. I love the surprise and for me, it's well-timed to have that surprise about 1/2-way through the pregnancy, when I am feeling big and tired and ready for some news to delight in. I also like the way it makes me feel closer to baby.

[Jeni_Houston]

No ultrasound (hopefully) and not finding out! Woo-hoo for the ultimate surprise!

[rockingmybabe]

Nope!

We've actually enjoyed keeping both of our baby's genders a surprise till birth in the past. And just about everyone has an opinion about what the baby will be (from hairdressers, relatives, to strangers in the grocery store). It's kind of fun.

Not only that it drives the Grandmothers-to-be crazy! :D

'Course if we ever need an u/s then we will find out. Hey, I don't have that much will power! And if they're looking anyways...

[BoBoBo]

we haven't ever found out and probably won't with this one either.

[Maagpie]

It was a great honor for my then 5 yr old dd to get to check and announce that she had a sister. She is looking forward to doing the same with this one.

[PrayinFor12]

Not only that it drives the Grandmothers-to-be crazy! :D


That's the best part!

Too, I figure if labor turns out to be lame, the anticipation will be great motivation.

[zonapellucida]

I am not but i think it is a girl