So, my husband ran into people we know at the grocery store yesterday, and he tells me about them. Then, one mother in particular, he tells me to try not to associate with her anymore, and warns me to not let on my business to her.

He says that it was this one mother (S) and another family friend (C) together, and so, they walk up to my husband and asks him how he is. Then C asks him how me and ds are, and he says we are doing good.

Then all of a sudden, completely out of thin air, S says
"Hmph. She need to pop that thang outta his mouth and let him grow up..."

My husband drops his grin and looks at her..
C is like ".......:bigeyes :irked:....wha--?"

And S is like, "She need to pop that thang outta his mouth and let him grow up already..."

And C is like, "Why on the world would you say something like that??" And continues to question S's stupidity, and while she is doing this, my husband is like.."Ok, I gotta go. See yall later."

Ok. First of all) I never could understand what that phrase meant, especially when it comes to a toddler. How do you "let a toddler grow up"? I always thought toddlers were supposed to act......well..........like toddlers, for crying out loud.

Second of all) S is a friend of my x best friend, and me and my exbf had a huge fight recently. My xbf is the one who has a problem with my parenting, with my extended bfing, gentle discipline, etc etc etc. S has RARELY seen me parenting my child, other than passing through. I don't think she has ever seen me nursing him, and if she did, it was a long time ago (how does she know I haven't weaned him yet?) I never talk to s, never see her except back when I was still cool with my xbf. She don't know a dang thang about my parenting, except for what my xbf OBVIOUSLY must have been going back to her saying about me behind my back after (or maybe before) our big fight. I like how S has formulated a habit of dipping into business that she don't know crap about, and taking sides against me (like I care) when all she know is what xbf has told her and nothing of what I do.

THIRDLY, and MOST IMPORTANTLY!: Back when I was still cool with my xbf, s came over, and confided in us that she was having some issues with CPS, and that some one keeps calling them on her, and she's trying to figure out who. She is not known for being the most gentle parent in the world. I know this is going to sound harsh, but I have half a mind to convey to her, SHOULD SHE CONTINUE with this badmouthing, that whilst I appreciate her opinion, I'll take her advice with a grain of salt the next time I have CPS checking up on me every other week. (I won't say that, I just want to...just venting.)


Thank you for taking the time to read this rant.
That is all....Been waiting all day to get that off of my chest.

I think your husband has the right idea - just don't associate with people like that.

Big mouths talking nonsense tick me off.

I have found that the most effective way to get at someone like that is to smile and say nothing. Nothing. Vent here if you need to vent, but do not take the bait. Why does she care if you're nursing your baby??? She doesn't. She cares about stirring up trouble with you. Don't bite!

I think your husband has the right idea - just don't associate with people like that.
:nod

When my hubby told me what she said, I could practially envision xbf's arm stretching across the country from MI where she lives to VA, inserting up S's butt, and puppetting all the talking. If it wasn't already anticipated, it's obvious xbf is out to harm me and spread gossip about me behind my back and stir up trouble, and that S is a closeminded jerkoff with the sheep mentality to blindly eat up whatever an individual at least 1 1/2 decades younger than her feeds her. Hmmm...Maybe she can't find any friends her own age.