how can I get excited about TTC again??

[Abylite]

Hello. We had 2 losses in the past year and it's been 3 months since my D and C. We are settled into our new location now (moved cross country) and both of us are employed. A baby at the end of Nov would have been perfect! I must admit I still wonder why things happen the way they do.

Anyway...we want to try again. We had no problems getting pregnant...just keeping the baby! Medical test did reveal a "minor" blood clotting problem...so I'll be taking a daily baby aspirin which is no big deal. All other immune/chromosome testing came back ok.

I am so SCARED to go through this again! How can I release this fear? Or do I have to "feel the fear and do it anyway"?? How can I spiritually and mentally prepare for getting pregnant again. I'm afraid it'll happen again but I know we won't have a baby unless we try again.

Has anyone been in this predicament?? I'll take any helpful thoughts and prayers!!! We want to TTC end of Sept/ beg of Oct (maybe after an Oct wedding so I don't have to worry about having a little wine...). Thanks for any input. I'm happy to see some "success" stories on this board. I haven't been around in a while...but I plan to be more active now!!!

[Shakti]

Hi Abylite! I saw your post on my other thread, too. No, we did not choose to be in this situation, but here we are! :) I, too, am scared to do it all over again. I was with my Mom's group this morning, and they all know that I miscarried several months ago. Three of them are now pregnant. One just had her first OB appointment this morning, and I overheard her tell someone that she is only 7 weeks along, but they did an US this morning and she could see the heartbeat. It was all I could do to not turn away and start crying, as that is how I found out about my impending miscarriage - by a routine US at 7 weeks, and there was no heartbeat. But I did not want to put a damper on the joy, so I held it together. And in truth, I am really happy for them! But being happy for them does not make my loss any easier. KWIM?

I did not mean to hijack your thread! All this was to say, you are not alone. Hugs to you...

Patti

[mommyof2kids]

I know this will sound kinda bad, but the time I/We planned for a baby I lost it, my kids arent "planned" I just sat back and what happened, happened... In 2000 I lost a baby, took time off, relaxed, and took care of myself.. PJ is one of those "Sept.11th" babies, after the attack we went to Disney World and had a bunch of fun, 9 months later I has PJ, if you arent ready yet, take more time, If you can go away together and just have fun, and who knows, maybe it will happen for you... I wish you alot of luck....

[Abylite]

Thank you caring replies. For the first time since my losses, I'm feeling better. DH and I spent a weekend by the beach and it "hit" me that I want to try again and that it'll be ok. It was that special "time of the month" so we decided to go for it and if it happens this month- we'll be thrilled. If not...then we know we want to keep on trying now and move forward. It helps to hear all of your stories and to know I'm not alone out there!!! I'll keep you posted!!!

[Grantsmommy]

Abylite,
I know exactly how you feel! We are TTC now (3rd cycle) and I oscilate daily between feeling ready and being scared sh**less, KWIM? I'm trying to just let go and let it happen when it's right, but I find that I'm very uptight about it. I can't seem to relax about it, which is probably why we haven't gotten pg yet. The last two times, I got pg the first month! What's up with that?
Anyway, let me know if you figure it all out! :D At least you know you're not alone...I'm with ya, girlfriend! Good luck to you!
Dawn