When are you telling people?

[ibusymomto5]

I haven't told anyone just yet, but I don't think we'll wait long. I'm thinking of telling my mom today when I talk to her, and I'll probably tell my dad within the next week(they're divorced). I know they'll both be happy for us, as we have a good relationship and they are supportive of our choices. I think at this point, no one we tell will be very surprised probably.:D I was all worried to tell people the last couple of times, but really we got all positive comments so I'm not dreading it this time around.

[Marcimama]

We have always waited until about 10 weeks to make it general knowledge. We do this for a few reasons: because we like to get use to the idea, we fear having to untell people if there is a miscarrage (however it is nice for close people to know in this event as well.)

[Baby_Cakes]

So far I've only told one co-worker who I trust, b/c we work really closely together and my job includes a bit of heavy lifting/phyical running around. Other that that, DH and I aren't going to tell anyone for awhile. DH especially wants to keep it a secret for as long as we can!

I can't wait to tell our families, though - really his. This will be my Mom's 13th grandchild, but it will be his parents' very first grandbaby. So it will be a really exciting and great surprise for them. NOBODY knew we were TTC so it's going to be the shocker of a lifetime!

[DreamsInDigital]

I'm going to wait quite a while. I have some family members who disagree with our choices regarding family size and I don't want their negativity to ruin the elation for us. We will tell when I start to show enough that I can't hide it.

[Mrshawwk]

I can't decide when to tell...I did send my best friend a pic of my pregnancy test just for the fun of it. I will have to tell my family soon simply because we're planning a family trip to Disneyland in Dec and we have some decisions to make. I didn't tell many people last time, but when I had to "untell" (as Marcimama put it so well), it was very hard and unfun. But I feel pretty good about this pregnancy so we'll see.

[nhapmom]

we are waiting. im only like 2 weeks right now. :)

[ColoradoMama]

I have no idea when I'll tell. Usually it's in my next breath! This time is different though. I'm still trying to figure out how to tell dh!!!

[NotTheOnlyOne]

we have told my family.. ok *I* told my family, but he wants to wait to tell his. I also told some close friends. His little sister is pregnant right now too, so I dont want to steal her spotlight.

[Lexi_029]

Everyone already knows. *laughs* I can't keep it a secret so everyone knows before the pee even dries on the stick! Of course, I've known for over a week now... like I could keep that a secret. *laugh*

[two_sets_of_twins]

DH wants to wait for "a while," but I'm not sure what that means. :) I would like to tell people now (I'm not quite 5 weeks), but my cousin just delivered her still baby on Friday (the day after her due date) so I'm a little hesitant to overshadow their grief with my wonderful news. I imagine we'll wait a few weeks or so. There's no way I could wait clear until 10 or 12 weeks!:nono02:

[misslibbye]

this is going to be a very emotional pregnancy for me. I'm very excited, but I want to wait. I don't want everyone asking me if I am ok every 5 min, lol. 12 or 16 weeks I think I will be ready.

[tulips117]

I always wait until 13 weeks. We've had a couple miscarriages in the past, and it was overwhelming for me to have to tell everyone that i'd lost the baby. We've since had two healthy pregnancies, but we still waited until the second trimester to tell. We're both pretty private (DH and I). We didn't even tell our mothers!

[DreamsInDigital]

I am never telling my mom. She will come over one day and magically we'll have a new baby but I refuse to tell her before then. Ugh.

[two_sets_of_twins]

Well, that didn't last long. We told my family last night. :) They are all very excited in spite of the tragedy in my extended family recently. We are going to wait until DH's parents are in town to tell them, but I have already called a couple of close friends to tell them as well.

And luckily I've been sick, so I really feel like this one is going to stick. I noticed when I had my miscarriage that I was not nauseous at all, even at 6 or 7 weeks. I am only 4 weeks and 5 days and am already pretty queasy. I started getting nauseous at 4 weeks, so that's a good sign I think. :thumb

[leurMaman]

I've told people that I would tell if anything bad happened (close family and girlfriends). That's quite a few people already. I'm not telling acquaintances, students, or playdate families until late in the first trimester.

[Changed]

I've told people that I would tell if anything bad happened (close family and girlfriends). That's quite a few people already.

Yep. Strangely, my friends know but my mom doesn't.

[nhapmom]

we are waiting until M's family gets together over Easter (march 23 this year) to tell them. i will be 2.5 months then. :)

[weddell]

We probably won't tell anyone until the second trimester. I will probably tell some of my close friends around 8 weeks or 10 depending on ultrasound schedules or hearing the heartbeat. My playgroup members tend to tell early. A few people in our group have had miscarriages after telling and everyone was very supportive so I would want to tell them if something bad happened anyway.

[zoebugsmom]

I've already told my mom and DP has told his mom. I'm waiting to tell my friends for a month or so unless asked about it.

[zoebugsmom]

I've already told my mom and DP has told his mom. I'm waiting to tell my friends for a month or so unless asked about it.

[lasciate]

DH already told one of our friends - he's so excited and he's terrible at keeping secrets so he was about to burst if he didn't tell *someone*.

[lee1203]

Part of me wants to wait for a bit, like until after I've had an appointment and heard the heartbeat and stuff. The other part of me knows that I just about burst at the seams when I had to put off telling friends about our engagement until after we'd gotten a chance to tell my parents, so I seriously doubt I can make it that long. :D

I asked the husbandperson when he wanted to tell, and he said he never saw the point of waiting. I told him "untelling" was why, but that we'd probably want the support anyway, so :shrug We'll probably tell pretty soon.

[celtic_angel]

we've already told pretty much everyone we know~~ I think that contributed to the paranoia I started having in the last 48 hrs...like I may have "jinxed" something. The only one who doesn't know that I can really think of is my 8 yr old son. He has aspergers and is kind of in his own little world where he is not noticing mommy falling asleep on the couch all the time and turning green at the sight of most food :p
I just figure October is a looooong way away for him and i'll tell him when it comes up or when he noticies my belly is getting huge :D

[twospecialpumpkins]

We're going to try to hold out for Easter and do something creative. We told both sets of grandparents on Easter for our daughter (also an October baby).

[DawnLasp]

My husband and I just bought a house a few months ago. We told a few people due to certain circumstances, such as why I cannot help out moving heavy furniture into the house, etc.

My friends & co-workers I will tell at the house warming party in late March, which I will be 12 weeks by then. :)

My Boss, I will tell the day before the house warming party :o

My family, I will tell them after my first prenatal visit, which will be at 8 weeks.:D

I told my neighbor. She loves to do gardening around her place, and was giving me all sorts of time consuming and back breaking ideas for my lawn. I just told her that my priorities are different, and I'm looking to plant some low maintenance plants because I'm preggo and I don't want them to die. :treehugger:

[octobermom]

oneline "family" umm right away :D other than that DH knows and I've told MY mother everyone else I'll wait till the baby arrives or till I can't hide it.. :D :innocent

[Baby_Cakes]

Part of me wants to wait for a bit, like until after I've had an appointment and heard the heartbeat and stuff. The other part of me knows that I just about burst at the seams when I had to put off telling friends about our engagement until after we'd gotten a chance to tell my parents, so I seriously doubt I can make it that long. :D


This is exactly how I feel! I could have written it myself! I know we should wait until that ultrasound so we know everything is okay, but that is 3 looooong weeks away and I'm DYING to tell my MIL!!! I don't think I'll hold out another week, but we'll see. Chris is set on waiting till after that ultrasound.

[Faerieshadow]

I told the people I'd want support from if something happened. My best friend, my mother,... uh, that about covers it lol. I'm not sure when we'll tell DP's parents or the rest of my family, we haven't really decided on that yet.

[nhapmom]

i decided that i am going to dress ds3 up in his Easter clothes but im going to put a Tshirt underneath that says "I am going to be a big brother". I can't wait to see how long it takes for anyone to notice! lol!

[octobermom]

When we informed my MIL I was pregnant with my 2nd and 3rd she asked is that a smart thing.. :irked: When we told her we lost them she said .. SO what did YOU do to cause this.. :irked:
We are ging to his brothers wedding in July she will be there I'm just going to show up 6.5 months pregnant at let her figure it out...

[Changed]

What a horrible thing to say!!!!!! A-hole! I would love to see the look on her face though. :lol

Eh, by now pretty much everyone we know knows. I don't care. I feel great and my blood work confirms a healthy pregnancy.:)

[nhapmom]

omg octobermom, thats horrible. i dont blame you for not telling her.

[JeDeeLenae]

I've already told all my online friends. (Hi Lasciate)

And I told my mom yesterday... but that's it so far. I'm really trying to hold out until Vday to surprise DH. We've never done the surprise like that before, so we shall see.

[lasciate]

I'm telling everyone now.. I feel so lousy that if I tell people I'm pregnant they'll stop nagging me about looking sick ;)

[Faerieshadow]

When we informed my MIL I was pregnant with my 2nd and 3rd she asked is that a smart thing.. :irked: When we told her we lost them she said .. SO what did YOU do to cause this.. :irked:
We are ging to his brothers wedding in July she will be there I'm just going to show up 6.5 months pregnant at let her figure it out...

OMG. :irked: How insensitive!

[MommaSomeday]

We barely found out last night. I tried to call and tell my best friend, but she didn't answer her phone! We decided we are going to egt a few things done around home before telling (finishing some construction and cleaning stuff on our house). That way, when we tell my parents, they won't give us the line about how we're not prepared and can't do it. This will be the second grandbaby for my parents (only by about a month and a half, though!) and first for my DHs side of the family (he's an only child and only grandchild). I am excited and want to tell everyone RIGHT NOW, but we will tell my parents next week, my in laws also next week, and my sister (I am having some issues with that because of her IVF, but you can read about that in my thread in I'm Pregnant forum). After that, we'll wait just a little bit to tell our friends, but we're close to them all, so I don't mind them knowing soon.

Well, I'm off to work (where I work with my father) and hope like hell I can avoid glowing... or throwing up... :)

[Fly Girl]

We are going to tell my dad tonight! And then in-laws this weekend! No one knows right now so I think it will really sink in (for us) once we start telling people. I am so excited right now I think I'm going to bust :jumpers:

[Baby_Cakes]

We are going to tell my dad tonight! And then in-laws this weekend! No one knows right now so I think it will really sink in (for us) once we start telling people. I am so excited right now I think I'm going to bust :jumpers:

How exciting! Let us know how it goes, and how you tell them!!! Yay!

[Cyneburh]

I'm glad you're not dreading it!

I told my family last Sunday and I'm going to dh's psychologist appointment next week to tell him there. He doesn't know yet and I'm not sure how he'll react when he finds out. Sooner is better then later though because he's already looking for any reason he can to claim that I'm alienating him. I'm not expecting that appointment to be any fun at all.

[momz3]

I havent told anyone cept DH and 1 close friend...we are waiting until a u/s to confirm everything is ok to announce!

[TaraRae82]

We're telling our parents, siblings, and our 2 best friends (one is my Doula). A couple of my other really good friends have figured it out though because they stalk my chart. LOL It's ok. :) Other than that, we're waiting until the 2nd tri.

[mkmb129]

I am trying to hold of as long as I can, partly to assure everything is okay with the baby, but also for the sport of it :wink I can't keep a secret to save my life, and I think this will be fun to see how long I can hold out! If I can't hold out very long, and I'm getting anxious, when we visit DH's family in March or April I will get a "I'm the big brother" shirt for DS to wear when we arrive :D

That said, a good portion of my online-life already know, lol. I had to tell SOMEONE (or 20.. )!!! And my one good friend IRL knows. It's not such great news to her, because she just m/c'd :( We would've been two weeks apart.