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Baby_Cakes
02-06-2008, 01:15 PM
I just need to vent. I feel miserable. It's not just the not being able to eat, it's that I'm so hungry and I want to eat, but everything I put in my mouth either tastes like wax or is so repulsive I have to spit it out. My fuse is so sort, I feel like I'm snapping at people b/c I feel so crappy. The littlest things, like my co-worker saying, "Are you sick today?" was enough to make me snap and be like, "I'm sick every @#$%^ day!" and then I immediately felt bad. I'm annoyed, I'm irritable, I'm cranky. At times I just feel lightheaded and dizzy, because I KNOW I need to eat.

I'm trying, I really am, but I'm just TIRED. I feel like I can't even get work done at work. Chris says I should go home sick if I feel this bad, but what, am I supposed to go home sick every day for the next few weeks?

I feel bad b/c this is something I wanted so badly, to finally be pregnant, and I'm not making this look cute. I never thought I would feel like this.

I think I just need a hug and a shoulder to cry on. Any advice from all you seasoned mamas will be so greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening...




Fly Girl
02-06-2008, 01:59 PM
I'm not a seasoned mama so I can't give any earth shattering advice. It's the first for me too. All I can say is that it will get better and it won't be like this forever. I'm sorry you're feeling so blue.

:Hug to you

birthdancedoula
02-06-2008, 02:08 PM
Oh mama, :Hug You are so not alone. There are mamas here who know exactly what you're going through (myself included). The emotions, the tummy yuckies, the fatigue...its all completely normal. It actually means everything is working like it should. Can you sneak away for a nap during the day? Eating a handful of things like almonds or trailmix throughout the day can help keep your blood sugar on an even keel. Breaking your food intake up into smaller portions is almost like a requirement during pregnancy. As for those wacky hormones...like everything else in pregnancy it will pass. I snapped at my dh earlier for making me brown rice for lunch after I asked for it. We didn't have any black beans and I was pissed at him for it. :eyesroll. Anyway, point is I can completely relate. Having done this 4 times already I can speak to how fleeting it all is. Hang in there...it does get better!:hug

NotTheOnlyOne
02-06-2008, 02:10 PM
It will get better. It will get better. It will get better.

:hug

JeDeeLenae
02-06-2008, 02:17 PM
You'll be alright!! It does get better. Just remind yourself that this too shall pass. Let people know that you're not feeling yourself because of the physical changes in your body and apologize, if you feel that would make you feel better. Sometimes, saying sorry to someone you've snapped at can make you feel a lot better. :hug

Kerrie
02-06-2008, 02:19 PM
I'm not in your DDC but your post reminded me of my first PG. I remember sitting on my couch telling my DH "this is not how I was supposed to be'. I felt soooo sick and tired and right when I was saying that to him I drooled all over myself (it's been 7 years and I still remember that! :)) I was producing so much saliva. Know that it will get better and that it's okay to feel sorry for yourself every once and a while. :hugs

dany
02-06-2008, 02:31 PM
:Hug

DawnLasp
02-06-2008, 02:50 PM
It's ok, everything will work out fine, and this all sounds normal. Whenever I snap at someone, I apologize right away if I feel that I was projecting stuff that they have nothing to do with. Take it easy, your body comes first. Do what you can and try not to put pressure on yourself. And try to eat what your tummy can take for now. I'm sending some good vibes your way :goodvibes: Hang in there.

Baby_Cakes
02-06-2008, 03:37 PM
Thank you all SO MUCH for your love. It would be so difficult to get through the day without you guys, I don't know what I would do without ALL of you!

I've been having a bit of relief for the past 20 minutes or so and I was able to eat some saltines! It felt like a gourmet meal!

I'm going to try to be more positive going forward! Thank you all so much for your support. Your posts made me feel SO much better!!!

Thank you!!!

Changed
02-06-2008, 03:57 PM
It will get better. You'll be the epitome of cute pregnant-ness. Try those preggie drops. I've heard they really do help. :hug

birthdancedoula
02-06-2008, 05:32 PM
Try those preggie drops. I've heard they really do help. :hug

I must have gone through a case of those buggers with one of my last pregnancies.:D In the beginning those things were the only way I got calories!:wink

ColoradoMama
02-06-2008, 07:53 PM
It will get better. It will get better. It will get better.

:yeah: Try graham crackers. With my first, they were wonderful. With #3, my friend brought me a Coke slurpee. It worked believe it or not. I NEVER drink sodas much less caffeinated ones, but I was desperate. Something about it calmed the m/s. With #4, my midwife had me take milk thistle. Good luck and :hug

lizajane30
02-06-2008, 11:36 PM
When I was about 16 I had a mysterious illness that had me feeling yucky and unable to eat. My doctor prescribed sipping a shot glass of coca cola syrup over crushed ice...like a coke but without the carbonated water. Worked great.

Also try Sea Bands (usually used for motion sickness). They worked during my first pregnancy.

If you can stomach ginger, try candied ginger. Really settles the stomach.

I'm not there yet with this one, but I'm not looking forward to it much. Good luck.

Faerieshadow
02-07-2008, 08:33 AM
Oh, I remember this! I ended up telling my boss at work, who gave me some leeway. Because of the morning sickness keeping me in the bathroom every day, I would typically arrive at work a half hour late no matter how early I tried to get up to make it on time. She let me take several little breaks to sit in the kitchen with ice pops or whatever helped me at that moment. And if I couldn't make it through the whole day she let me slide out early. It all settled down a bit after the first trimester and I was able to concentrate a little more fully on work - that is when I wasn't planning what baby stuff to buy or feeling the baby move lol....

if you have an understanding boss it might make life a little easier to tell him/her.

You WILL start feeling better, but lots of hugs to you in the meantime.

Baby_Cakes
02-07-2008, 10:05 AM
I am planning on getting the preggie pops or drops. I have sour candies but they're loaded with HFCS and I don't think that the preggie pops are. I don't know about ginger. I've been thinking about it and I'm just not sure it'll "work" for me, with the smell and everything. I've taken to smelling everything before it even gets near my mouth, and it helps b/c I'm able to rule out what I'll be able to swallow. My kitchen is totally off limits to me b/c whenever I open the fridge, the smell of "everything" (especially some garlic that's sitting in there) makes me gag.

I could tell my boss but I'm just not comfortable with that. Not yet. My boss is a guy, and yeah, he's got 2 kids, but I don't know. He's not around me much and if I really do need a break I just take one, so that's not the biggest deal. I can sit in the bathroom or in the cafeteria, or honestly, just space out at my desk for a few minutes if I need to.

That cola slurpee seems like a REALLY good idea.

Cyneburh
02-07-2008, 11:32 AM
I'm feeling nausea on and off and it's no fun! I'm remembering some foods that seem to help... applesauce helps right now. Worchestershire sauce helps me for some reason too. I don't know why. I just go through bottles and bottles of it when I'm in the first half of my pregnancy each time! I'm told B vitamins can help too but the problem there is actually swallowing them without gagging.