Have you told people about the PG yet?

[Mrs-Mama]

Just wondering if you've told people about your pregnancy yet! We've told one of my best friends, but that's it. Last time we waited until I was almost 8 weeks along (after the first ultrasound) to tell, but this time my ultrasound isn't scheduled until 9w1d, and I don't know if I can hold out that long!

[AladdinsLamp]

We have started telling family and friends.

Last time I was pregnant I waited to tell people until like 6 weeks, and then the very next day I started to m/c. So there were still people I hadn't told and then I had to tell them, hey - I was pregnant and now I'm losing the baby. It totally sucked. I decided this time we would tell right away so we all get to enjoy the happy time longer.

[Leav97]

Last time I told everyone around 5w. This time I think we are going to wait a little longer and just enjoy knowing ourselves. I'm waiting for a t-shirt that says "I'm the big sister". My dd is either going to wear it for the announcement or I'm going to take a picture of her in it and hand it around.

There are 1 or 2 people that know other than my DH and DD. But, none of our family.

[AugustineM]

Dh really doesn't like to tell people early because it takes it a while for it to "sink in" with him. I have told a good friend of mine and that's it. I am going to ask DH if he doesn't mind if I tell my mom, who I'm close to and she lives in a different state. I expect we won't tell other people until I start to show. This is our third baby too, so things are a little different. :lol

[andi-mama]

Yes, we told people right away. I'd rather have their support should something happen.

[Bella Catalina]

We finally announced it around 8 weeks last time and then we lost the baby at nearly 10 weeks, so this time DH won't let us tell anyone except our family until 13 weeks. It was hard going around "un-telling" people and I still don't think everyone knows yet.

I told my mum when she called the other day, because she asked me and said she'd had a vision of me surrounded by baby bottles and pacifiers or something. And all my online friends know, as well as my best friend who lives in Detroit - we are due 1 week apart which is awesome :)

[natalieadw]

I told someone about three seconds after I found out! LOL:thumb

[tireesix]

Yes, and so far everyone wants me to have an abortion (except DH I think). This is a very hard time for me and its going tto be a very difficult pregnancy.......... Gah........

[hannybanany]

I have told my mom, and my two best friends. I think everybody who I know in real life from MDC probably knows too, since it's in my siggy :). DH also told his best friend.

I think we'll tell everybody else pretty soon.

If something happens I need the support of those I love. I can't imagine the pain of going through another loss, especially without the support of my friends and family.

Yes, and so far everyone wants me to have an abortion (except DH I think). This is a very hard time for me and its going tto be a very difficult pregnancy.......... Gah........

Oh no! I am so sorry those around you are not supportive :( Please take care of yourself, and do the best you can to just ignore their "advice" :hug

[Mrs-Mama]

Yes, and so far everyone wants me to have an abortion (except DH I think). This is a very hard time for me and its going tto be a very difficult pregnancy.......... Gah........

:Hug I'm sorry that you are not getting the support you need. I don't know your situation, but try to ignore the negativity and focus on the miracle of life inside you.

[tatgurl]

I'm not sure when we will tell people. so far only me and DH know. we haven't told anyone else yet. I'd like to tell our boys first, but I know that when we do they will tell everyone at their schools, so we're waiting to tell them until we are ready for EVERYONE to know.

[selena_ski]

well DH knows, then my mom flat out asked, and i couldn't lie to her. then a few days later MIL and 2 SIL were up and they asked, so now they all know. a few acquaintances know because i asked for MW recommendations.

i am really not ready to tell people, and would prefer those that do know didn't. especially with the spotting i started having yesterday.

[Nautical]

My husband and I each told our best friends, but we aren't telling family until 8 weeks.

[Delaney'sMommy]

We told everyone right away! :D

Last year I had two m/c's The first one, we told everyone when we got the positive test, and it was very hard when we had to tell everyone about the loss. With the second positive test, we only told a couple close people and when we lost that one, it was very awkward. Other people didn't know what was wrong, and the people that did know didn't feel comfortable telling the ones who didn't.

This time, I refuse to let fear or doubt enter my mind or heart. Not telling everyone, for me, would be like admitting that there's a chance it could happen again. And I'm not going to admit that, I'm staying positive & full of faith.

I guess this was a long winded way of saying that I'd rather have everyone's prayers & support either way. And sharing the joy makes me feel like everything will be fine.:love

[Patchfire]

I have told quickly - with my son - and not until 13 weeks or later - with my daughter. We'll probably go somewhere in between in terms of most RL people, family, and so on. Many people were happy for us with my second, but some people are not so keen on us having a third. So I'd like to keep my private joy for a little while. :)

[starkyld]

We were going to wait to tell people, but we're going on a 5 day vacation with my in-laws (included some extended family), leaving next Friday (9 days from now). I'm already feeling queasy and they'll definitely notice that I'm not drinking alcohol, so I'm not sure that we have a choice in the matter.

I'm angsty about this. My husband would rather keep it to ourselves for a little bit, and even I would like to wait a little bit longer so that we can have this incredibly exciting little secret between us and so that things have more time to feel *real*. I've only known less than 24 hours. But I'm not otherwise sure how I can manage to have a Puerto Rican vacation with my in-laws (and to make certain choices about food/drinks/activities) without telling.

We haven't told anybody yet.

[GreenFlower]

I started telling people right after I told DH...but my family and close friends know we've been struggling with infertility, as well, so maybe that's a different issue...?

I feel like most of my family and friends are so close to me that I would tell them if I had a mc, so why not tell them the good news of being pg...finally :)

[Carolann S]

We told immediate family right away. We've been telling friends little by little. I just can't keep something this awesome to myself! :)

[starkyld]

I just now got busted at work, so I guess I just officially told the first person.

[birthangeldoula]

I can't keep a secret to save my life. I told my immediate family, and some close friends. :) We're due November 5th

[kitkat5505]

We told everyone the day we found out. Partly because we live with my parents right now so they would have found out anyway, and partly cuz I have no self-control :D But my mom said she already knew and was waiting to say something until I knew lol, she's very intuitive. Everyone's very excited for us.

[TazzyBear]

DH told everyone the day we found out. He can't help himself.

[Patchfire]

I feel like I just told a lot of people - I told everyone that reads my blog. :lol Still haven't told any family members, though I'm seeing my mom this weekend and knowing her, she will guess.

[sarahcecile]

I've told a lot of people - in large part because if I do miscarry I would want the support from friends and family. I've told my closest friends, my Mom, and we are telling DH's Mom and Dad this weekend. My Mom knows already because we had been seeing a Naturopath for fertility issues, and she knew that, so she was aware that it was a possibility and flat-out asked if I was. I couldn't lie to that! It was sort of unceremonial though, she lives in NY and it was over the phone.

Oh well, at least the first time we told her (with DD) there was some ceremony to it!) :wink

I'll tell my siblings around the end of my first trimester, they don't have kids and don't really "get it" and I won't tell my grandparents either, so as not to worry them.

_ Sarah

[knittinmama]

It was hard for to hold this in, especially with all the anixety over DS and growing baby being 17 months apart. So we are telling people!:o

[thankfulmommy]

We found out last night and haven't told anyone yet. I have a hard time not telling, so I'm sure we'll tell in the next few days. Dh thought the test was too light, so he wants me to wait until we get a darker line, lol!

[Booflies]

I've told a lot of ppl.... but for some reason I just couldn't tell my brother and his fiance. I don't know why. Maybe I think they will only be "fake happy" and I don't want to see that reaction.

[LaurenAnanas]

We found out last Wednesday and kept it to ourselves for a few days. We have since told all of our immediate family members.

Side note: my mom said "Congratulations, that's great! How do you feel?" My MIL said, "Congratulations, I hope it's a girl, but I'm okay with a boy! We were shopping the other day and decided someone needs to have a girl so we can buy cute dresses. I don't want to step on any toes, but can we throw you a shower? I know you're sensitive about that kind of thing!"

I wonder why I'm sensitive about "that kind of thing!" :)

Anyway, we're waiting to tell extended family and friends. We'll probably wait to tell friends until after an engagement party at the end of the month. The engaged couple still disagrees about having children (she wants one desperately, he wants one never...and that's among the least of their problems), so telling them is going to be akward no matter when we do it.

[~Jenna~]

I told everyone pretty much right away cause I can't keep anything to myself. There are only two people we haven't told. One is dh's brother, just because I don't think he cares that much one way or another. The other is a friend that would take it very hard. I probably won't tell that friend until I start showing and can't say it's just weight gain.

[BookishVonLiberal]

We agreed not to tell anyone until we heard the heartbeat. We've had a previous m/c and we have a super-sensitive 6yo who would be devastated at being told her potential sibling died. Last time, we told everyone and I m/c the next day.
Then, three hours after dh and I discussed this, he told her. I wanted to kill him.
We're visiting my family for two weeks starting this week and while I WANT to tell them, I also want to wait and if dd knows, she'll tell them.
However, she seems to think her father is insane and a little slow and has decided I am just tired, not having a baby. She hasn't mentioned it again and I'm hoping that continues until next month when we got for our first prenantal.


I have, however, told my friends on a small, private board and announced it on my blog because I was so annoyed with dh.

[Kleine Hexe]

I just found out today and I've already told my friend (Hi Laura!), my sister, and of course DH. Oh, and MDC. ;)

I do plan on waiting before telling more people especially family (other than my sister of course). I hope to wait until I start showing. This being my 3rd...that may not be long.

[Synchro246]

I just found out today and I've already told my friend (Hi Laura!),

:wave

[starkyld]

I'm calling my baby sister tonight to tell her because it's her 17th birthday. Our parents don't know yet.

Last year, I called her on her birthday to tell her that we had eloped that afternoon and that I got her a brother-in-law for her birthday. This year I'll call her on her birthday to tell her that I'm growing her a niece or nephew. There's no way I'm going to be able to top this next year. My husband suggested that next year I could call her on her birthday and say something along these lines:
"Hi kid. Happy birthday. We got a fern for the living room. We named it {your name}."

Heh.

[AugustineM]

MIL said, "Congratulations, I hope it's a girl, but I'm okay with a boy! We were shopping the other day and decided someone needs to have a girl so we can buy cute dresses. I don't want to step on any toes, but can we throw you a shower? I know you're sensitive about that kind of thing!"

I wonder why I'm sensitive about "that kind of thing!" :)


Ahh, the mysteries of the kooky MIL comments. I get that kind of thing all the time. Leaves me going, "Whaaaa?" :lol

We have told a weird smattering of people... my mom, my sister, my close friends. We have not told my dad, DH's parents or sister, or any of our extended family. I also haven't told my best friend from forever. It's funny, with our first and second, I wanted to tell everyone right away. Now with our third and last, I feel more reserved. Partially because I wonder what kind of comments we'll get from some people, who "assumed we were done", yk?

[Erlaine]

I've told my sister and a few people here, but I want to wait a month to tell the whole community, with the idea that my risk of miscarriage will be significantly lower after that.

"The whole community" is 80-something people, and they definitely don't all need to know yet. I like keeping this secret.

[GreenFlower]

speaking of whacked out MIL comments...here's the one from mine (I was listening as DH told her...this is her first natural born grandchild, mind you, and she pestered her son for years to find someone and get married so she could have grandbabies...guess she just didn't want them coming out of me...o.k., off that rant...long story, lol)

DH: Well?! I just wanted to call and let you know that DW is going to be having a baby!

MIL: Oh, really...

DH:...yup!

MIL: Well I guess DW is happy...I knwo SHE'S been trying for a while...but DS, how do YOU feel about all this??

DH: ecstatic! (trying to ignore his mother's rude reaction)

MIL: well that's good. I guess. So anyway, yesterday dd did this thing.......

:eyesroll

At least my mom was ecstatic and crying and overjoyed :love

[starkyld]

Aie, GreenFlower and LaurenAnanas, your mothers-in-law sound like pieces of work. My mother-in-law is going to be weird about things too (and will buy us LOTS of plastic crap that we're trying to avoid), but I feel secure that she'll be overwhelmed and crying and ecstatic at first. I guess I'll know after I tell her this weekend. And she thinks she's surprising us with a cake for our anniversary!

[LaurenAnanas]

Aie, GreenFlower and LaurenAnanas, your mothers-in-law sound like pieces of work. My mother-in-law is going to be weird about things too (and will buy us LOTS of plastic crap that we're trying to avoid), but I feel secure that she'll be overwhelmed and crying and ecstatic at first. I guess I'll know after I tell her this weekend. And she thinks she's surprising us with a cake for our anniversary!

"Piece of work" is right! She wasn't just giddy or flaky about the girl thing, she meant it! Sigh. The least of my problems. I almost retorted, "good thing it's not your baby, then," (there are boundary issues), but decided to save my energy for when I have to tell her to step off once the baby's actually here.

[two bricks shy]

I've told our midwife, a friend online, and we'll probably tell a good irl friend this weekend, but other than that... probably no one else until 12-15 weeks or I start to show.

I'm sure I'll have some lovely MIL stories to share as well. When we told her we were expecting our 1st....she asked if we "had been trying or if this child was unplanned." FTR she was a very wanted child who came earlier than we expected. MIL also got bent out because she never felt the baby move, she wasn't allowed at the birth, nor to move in after the birth to hold the baby. On second thought...do I have to tell her? :raz

[Kleine Hexe]

Do I have to tell my mom?

[AugustineM]

Do I have to tell my mom?

:lol :hug

I'm sure she'll figure it out at some point!

[buckysprplmonkey]

When I read this thread, it reminds me how lucky I am. I think I've determined that if I hadn't known my MIL my entire life, we wouldn't get along at all. But I've known her my whole life so I know how to handle what she says and how she gets involved. (She can be a little overbearing, but she's never critical or anything like that.) It also helps that she and my mom have been friends for 25 years, so I can always vent to my mom! I hope your MILs all chill out and just start enjoying being a grandma. They really are hurting themselves and the babies more than you all.

[PookieMom]

We found out last night and haven't told anyone yet. I have a hard time not telling, so I'm sure we'll tell in the next few days. Dh thought the test was too light, so he wants me to wait until we get a darker line, lol!

Same here! I've told my three best gal pals but that's it. DH thought the test was too light too. He wouldn't believe it till I went to the health department today. For some reason their light lines are okay:eyesroll

We think Mother's Day would be amazing to tell our mothers and then the rest of the family but I don't know If I'll be able to make it that long. I know DH will, he's great with secrets. I'll be 12 weeks May 11, Mother's Day. I'm not sure how excited they'll be though. I'm kinda nervous.

[MommaGreenBean]

My DH isn't a believer in the light lines either. It's not even super light, just lighter than the control... so I didn't show him :lol

I started telling people the day I tested.

[mirandahope]

Just told my step mom and DH's parents because whatever happens, we will want their support.

When friends ask (they know we're thinking about having another one sometime) we say "its up to God now"--not really saying yes or no...

[Birdie B.]

[B]I finally told!![B]
My parents were visiting this weekend, so we spilled the beans to them! It was so great - they were so excited and happy! It was cool to hear them talk about my mom's pregnancy with me - my dad went on and on about how she was determined to have natural childbirth and how she was so strong. :love And my mom told me that she considered homebirth, but because she was 40 at the time, not to mention they lived way back in the hills almost an hour from a hospital, she decided against it. I thought that was so cool, and she understands my preference! :D
Then we started telling some close friends, and tonight we'll call my inlaws to let them know.
I'm 6 weeks, and I feel it's a little early, but it's so hard to keep it a secret!!!

[Elowyn]

I told my best friend on Saturday right after I found out. I asked her if she knew what she was doing for Thanksgiving and she looked at me like I was on crack, and then I showed her the stick. Much squealing & hugging ensued.

I'm planning to tell my parents and a very close aunt this coming weekend, and one work friend when I see her tonight, then nobody until I see the heartbeat.

[colaga]

I haven't told anyone except my husband!

With my three previous pregnancies I always told my mother straight away (in e-mail) but she either reprimanded me for getting excited too soon or didn't say anything at all about the subject until after the first ultrasound.
I guess I won't mention anything to anybody at all as long as possible this time.

[tsume]

Well, my sil is expecting in the next month, so I thought I'd let the il's know the day of her induction. lol

Dh knows, my running partner and a good friend knows. Some moms in our mom group knows (I was looking for slings for a newborn). The 2 people who read my blog and anyone who reads this.

As for everyone else we'll tell after the first trimester.

[PookieMom]

I started telling today. I told my mom. I know it sounds silly but I think I'm basically showing. Last night I dug out my awesome St. Patty's Day green jeans and was so excited because they fit. Put them on today and they wouldn't button or zip! What!?! I know it's all bloat but SERIOUSLY, this is ridiculous. Overnight?!? So I dug out the belly band and wore my green jeans unzipped and unbuttoned with a long shirt to work. Yes, I now have a bump. A bloat bump, but a bump nonetheless. So I am telling or it's going to tell for me:p

[Kleine Hexe]

I'm dieing to tell my boys but I'm afraid they are too young to keep it a secret. Maybe my 7yr old could keep it secret?

I just don't want to slip by mentioning something about it in front of him and he figures it out on his own. He would be upset if he found out and I didn't tell him.

[BundleFishMama]

I think I told everyone I've ever met in my life within about 20 minutes of finding out myself. LOL.

Yeah, I can't keep a secret, so I don't even try :p

[railyuh]

We started telling people right away. After two m/c, we just really wanted to try and hope for the best and celebrate this baby from the very beginning as much as we can, and for us that includes sharing our news with family and friends. I guess part of it is that my last m/c was at almost 12 weeks, which is when everyone says it is "safe" to tell, so now I don't really feel like there is a "safe" time for me, so I might as well just tell people right away.

[tatgurl]

So, I told my 7 year old this morning. We were planning on tell both boys this weekend, but I've been feeling so crappy, and my 7 year old keeps saying "I hope you feel better mommy" I guess I just want him to not worry and realize why I'm feeling so bad. He was over the moon!!! big hugs for me and belly and jumping up and down and everything! I've asked him not to say anything to his brother, or friends at school yet, and that we can start telling people after we tell the family this weekend.
He has all kinds of questions already. He even asked (as he was putting his shoes on for school) "will you have the baby at the hospital?" I told him that we would probably have the baby at home and he got so excited and said that he wanted to be there.:thumb
So excited for him!! and us!!

[Patchfire]

I told my parents over the weekend... so that's it until 12 weeks or so. Everyone else has to wait. heh.

[Erlaine]

Tatgurl - Your post was so sweet! I'm so glad your son is so excited. btw, I notice your sig says he's 6, but you mentioned he's 7...has he had a birthday since you last updated?

[mochimama]

Well, I told too many damn people! I couldn't help it I was so excited. But already unsolicited advice from the masses. One friend, who has no kids, has all kinds of midwife advice...another friend is way too excited and gloating all over me... BACK OFF!!! Ugh. next time :wink I'm keeping it a secret for as long as I can...

[goodheartedmama]

nope, just a good friend. I'm still making sure it's real!

[PookieMom]

Well, I started telling today. Telling DH's family tomorrow. I'm scared to death. I think I think we're going to have our 3 year old DD do it. She would really enjoy it and it will get me out of it!:p

[my2elliots]

We are due.. well Dr. says Nov. 3rd but I know when we conceived and Fertility Friend says Nov. 14th.. so I am going with the latter!

We haven't told anyone yet but only bc I am looking for a T-shirt that reads I'M GOING TO BE A BIG BROTHER to put on my DS (17mos) and I am going to shoot an awesome pic of him wearing it and then send it out to all our family friends... Hopefully they will get it.. And that's how I am planning to tell everyone. That way I know I will start receiving the Congratulation calls.. SO EXCITED!!!

[clavicula]

not yet. we'll wait until week 12.

[starkyld]

We told my husband's parents plus one of his aunts & her husband while we were on vacation with them this weekend. His mother (who is a bit batty at best) has now been flung into manic overdrive. I'm glad she's happy for us, but I'm really sick already of all of the inane questions and assumptions. No, having a midwife doesn't restrict me to having the baby at home, I'm choosing to have the baby at home because that's healthiest for me and the kidlet. And I'm already quite aware that "it didn't get there from a watermelon seed." Aie. I was ready to get home.

His father seemed a little ambivalent at first but seemed really happy/excited by the end of the trip, which is good. And the aunt was full of unsolicited advice, but I know she means well. Still not sure when we're telling the masses...

[catballou24]

we haven't told anyone yet except my sister and my online community..;) we just found out yesterday so we are going to wait a few more weeks as we had a m/c in november and now i'm being very superstitious..

[tatgurl]

Tatgurl - Your post was so sweet! I'm so glad your son is so excited. btw, I notice your sig says he's 6, but you mentioned he's 7...has he had a birthday since you last updated?

Erlaine- yea, he's 7 now... i'll update that right now.
He's still so excited. every time I see him he pats my belly and says "baby" with a huge smile on his face!

my2elliots- Cafepress has tons of big brother shirts to choose from. A lot of cute ones. My 4 year old loves monkeys and I found one that says "I'm going to be a big brother" with two monkeys on it. I'll have him wear it this weekend, when we see my family for easter.

[nina_yyc]

I told some friends, my DH, and my parents - only people I'm close to that I would tell if anything went wrong.

I'm probably going to tell my boss soon since I'm going to have to whine to get off early for appointments.