How did you tell family (2nd child)?

[riaketty]

I'm nervous. It's our second child on the way, and we just found out. We're not telling anyone yet, but i've got this fear that everyone will think we're rushing things or not being responsible because we're young and have only been married a year. With the first, it was exciting, but with this one i'm afraid it'll just be like "Oh, another one, well okay."

So how did you tell parents and family when you were preg with your 2nd? How did they react?

[donnamr3211]

You could get them a card. I think you and your husband need to be excited about it when you tell people. Don't act ashamed or embarrassed about it. Hold your head up high and be proud and others will hopefully feed off of your excitement. Good luck!

[KatyLinda]

My mom figured out that we were trying because I asked for her school calender for next year to see when her vacations were. :wink She also called while I was getting my bloodwork done, so I said, "I'm at the doctors, I'll call you back in a few minutes." So she figured it all out on her own. She wanted me to be the one to tell my dad, so I called him and just said, "we have some exciting news for you! It looks like DD will be a big sister in January! We had some blood work done and all numbers look good, so as long as they are still good next week, we'll be quite confidant that things are going the right direction." His response was much more excited than when we told them we were pregnant with DD. When we announced that pregnancy we had only been married for 7 months, and my parents were not thrilled that we got pregnant so quickly. This time my mom is excited for us (esp since she knows this one was planned) and my Dad said, "Well, you sound excited, so I'm sure this is good news and we're excited for you as well!" My dad is also a VERY even keeled guy, so he rarely gets worked up about anything, and it's usually when someone is an absolute moron and he gets angry...lol. I've never seen him really "excited." So, I think our delivery and the excitement in our voice makes a difference. We haven't told MIL or SIL/BIL yet. I think DH wants to wait until we get next week's results back. We're still really early and we have a history of early losses, but this is the furthest along I've been in a long time....so I'm already excited :D Anyway, I'm babbling....just be happy and excited when you tell them. If they hear that you are really excited and not at all apologetic it will make them more inclined to be the same way!

[Luv2Skydive]

Our families definitely took their cues from us! I could literally see them searching our faces for how we felt about being PG again, then reacted accordingly. So if you are happy and excited when you announce the new addition, chances are they will be too.

[pantufla]

We put a t-shirt on DS#1 that said "I'm the big brother!" And waited for everyone to notice. :p It was pretty obvious that we were excited. Now with this one... being unplanned and all... not so sure what we're going to do!

[donnamr3211]

We did the shirt thing and my in-laws did NOT get it, lol. My MIL read it more then once too, lol. Maybe she was in denial, hehehehehehe.

[SamsMuffin]

For parents and grandparents, we called and told them. For other relatives and friends, we sent out an email with four pictures of dd#1 (parents and grandparents also received it, but already knew the news). In each picture she is holding a sign, and you had to scroll down to read them one at a time. The first sign said "I'm", the second "going", the third "to be", and the fourth "a big sister!"

Everyone was just as excited as when we announced our first pregnancy. They weren't as surprised though, because they figured it was coming soon. Dd will be 2 in August, and most of them knew we would be having another in the near future.

[Lexi_029]

We called and told my parents... my mom laughed at me and my dad was like, "That's a shock!" But they are both excited to have another grandbaby. Granted, my DD was 2 months old when I told them. :lol

My in-laws were just in shock but they at least pretended to be excited once they learned that we were happy about it.

[Logan's mommy]

I took a picture of my postive test and took it over to my mom and dad's house. I thought it would be fun if they saw a pic and guessed what it was..... but they had no idea what it was.

To tell dh, I bought a card that was in the shape of a diaper. On the outside is says " A new baby will change everything" you open it up and it says " Except it's own diaper." I put the + test inside, he didn't get it either. He asked me who it was from.

I was really dissapointed in my would be suprizes. They were really good ideas though...

[andi-mama]

We told them with this:
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g181/romanpatrick/February%202008/Picture051.jpg

IME, my family was *more* excited for the second one.

As for not being married long- don't let that hold you back. It shouldn't make any difference! We told our families the day after our wedding and it just added to that weekend's excitement!

[mchalehm]

I did the shirt thing to tell my husband--we had been TTC so he knew we were in the 2 week wait. But he didn't notice! Finally I couldn't stand it anymore and just hissed, "Read the shirt! Read her shirt!"