So, do you actually have to have sex to get pregnant?!

[Chic_Mama]

'Cause if you do- I AM NOT GETTING PREGNANT ANY TIME SOON!!! Okay- pardon me while I compose myself!

It seems like every month there is some reason why we don't do it when we need to- we are either arguing or my DH is sick (my current situation) and it is driving me crazy!! I wanted to be pregnant by June soooooo badly -that is when I was due with Micah and I thought that being pregnant again by then would help to ease some of that pain. I really thought I would be pregnant by June 19 (his due date), but here we are in May and I am going to ovulate any minute and I can't get any!! It feels hopeless and frustrating and I am just so darn sick of it!!

The other day I was talking to my mom and telling her how disheartening it was for me that as of this month we have been trying for a year. Her reply was, "Well, you haven't been trying for a year- you were pregnant."
To which I said, "Yeah, but I don't have a baby MOM!"
She said, "Well, don't say it like that!"
"Well, that's the truth mom! That is where I am at! Trying and trying and loss- but no baby!"

I am at my wits end! All of my friends who were pregnant when I was are starting to have their babies now and I just want to cry every day! I want to do nothing but stay in bed, watch chick flicks and eat ice cream! Can someone give me just one day to do this?! Sorry for the vent and thanks for your sympathy!

[BlissfullyLoving]

:Hug

[Amydoula]

I am in the SAME boat as you. My DH is suffering from severe GERD that makes babydacing very painful. I was due in July and desperately would like to be pregnant before my due date but I don't have high hopes of that happening. :Hug to you.

[Red_Lil_Mamma]

The other day I was talking to my mom and telling her how disheartening it was for me that as of this month we have been trying for a year. Her reply was, "Well, you haven't been trying for a year- you were pregnant."
To which I said, "Yeah, but I don't have a baby MOM!"
She said, "Well, don't say it like that!"
"Well, that's the truth mom! That is where I am at! Trying and trying and loss- but no baby!"


Wow! Are we sisters? That sounds just like my mom!

She also kept saying "At least your not infertile."

I had to explain to her that reoccuring m/c's are considered a fertility problem. In fact, I think I'd rather take longer to conceive than have the heartbreak (not to mention hormonal rollercoaster) of getting pregnant and losing it.

It's so hard. People want to say encouraging things to cheer us up, but it really turns out the wrong way. I guess it's best to gently educate them (or change the conversation) while remembering that their hearts are in the right place.

[TayTaysMama]

:hug

I have had those months when I just couldn't get DH to DTD when I needed him to do it. It is very frustrating. I think that they just don't realize how much effort we put into ttc and how much analizing of symptoms and signs we do every month. It is hard.

And I am sorry your mom doesn't seem to understand.

[Chic_Mama]

Don't get me wrong- for the most part my mom has been wonderful! She was the only one with me when I had the m/c and has been very supportive. It was just this one obscure comment that I was a little knocked back by! Mothers!

[chel]

yep, in the same boat. I have really long and irregular cycles so Dh is "on-call" for like 2-3weeks.
I had a missed miscarriage, so just that one pregnancy was 8 months from the start of my cycle till my first AF post-m/c.
Honestly, what your mom said it what keeps me going. Though I think I've realized on this board that those little tid bits are better felt by the person going through the m/c than said by another. Each m/c is so personal, that no one has the same perspective.

I just started using the CBEFM so hopefully I can narrow down O to just needing a week of DTD marathon.

[erin_brycesmom]

So, do you actually have to have sex to get pregnant?!
'Cause if you do- I AM NOT GETTING PREGNANT ANY TIME SOON!!! Okay- pardon me while I compose myself!


Me neither! The doc that did my d&e said no sex for 6 weeks and dh is totally sticking to that because he is scared out of his mind of loosing another baby. Only 2 more weeks to go....

[zech13_9_goforgold]

It's good to read that you all have the same issues we do. It seems like something always comes up, like rashes for me and headaches for him. I'm also not totally convenced that I am o-ing.