When will you tell

[Nillarilla]

So when is everyone planning on telling friends and family?

[elspethshimon]

I've already told my mom and a couple of very close friends.

I think we are waiting until the end of the first trimester to tell everyone else.

[jasonswife06]

we kinda spilled the beans to our families as soon as we knew. Some of our close friends know, other than that we are waiting a while to share with the world :)

[AKislandgirl]

I've told my mom and sister and a couple of close friends. I'm wanting to wait a couple of weeks to tell folks at work (unless I keep puking at work...then I may need to tell earlier!)

[rjruiz_415]

well the only people i know are online friends and then my family and hubby's family. I told my mom this morning, so that leaves my dad and his family (across the country - not sure when i will tell them) and then DH's family (again, not sure when we will tell them, but were not waiting on anything really:)

[DreamsInDigital]

I will be waiting until I am well out of the first trimester. Possibly not until 20 weeks or so.

[mamazee]

This is tricky because I was planning to watch a friend's child before and after school during the next school year, and I think she needs to know my circumstances have changed as soon as possible. I don't think I'll be able to handle her high-needs child and a brand new baby. But on the other hand I'm not comfortable letting the world know yet. My husband accidentally let it slip to a friend of his, but the friend said he'd keep his mouth shut and the two friends don't know each other. I haven't decided just what I'll do. I'll probably wait a couple more weeks but I don't think I'll wait longer than that.

[applebean]

We're telling family after my first appointment, then others after the first tri. That's the plan for now anyway! The longer I wait, the less time she has to wait to tell.

Our families don't live in town so it makes it a little easier, and I only talk to my parents about once a week.

[JenLove]

We've told close friends and family, but will wait to tell the rest of the world for a little while yet.

[midnightmommy]

I slipped up and told a wife of one of husbands co-workers. They just had a baby last Feb and hubby was in their confidence so I'm hoping that it goes the other way too. I'm just not sure when to tell other people. I'm thinking I'll wait another couple of weeks, and try to find a cute way to tell our parents. My worry is that we'll lose the baby or that a parent won't be happy for us. I lost forty pounds this year and I can just hear my dad saying something about losing all sorts of weight just to gain it back. I may have to hit him!

[northwoods1995]

I will be waiting until I am well out of the first trimester. Possibly not until 20 weeks or so.

Me too, although I may tell one friend earlier. I know if I do tell her she won't share the news with anyone else and she has been through a m/c before.

[Eliseatthebeach]

Still trying to figure that one out....

[Thursday Girl]

ehh we told most people, well friends and family anyways, and DH told his work b/c I'm not on his insurance so we needed to see about when that could happen.

[Kimmiepie]

We told everyone almost immedietly. :lol

[RunnerMommy]

We're waiting until 14 weeks or so, because I'm going to visit my parents then and I want to tell them in person. Plus I like having such a fun 'secret' :D.

[Kelly1216]

Even though I know better, I've told pretty much everybody! People at work, family, friends. I'm just too excited not to tell people!

[CityChic]

Hoping to keep it a secret from the general public until mid-July ... a few people we will tell before then include my mom and my best friend!

[triscuitsmom]

Despite having a long history of pregnancy loss, I am not waiting very long to tell people this time. Already my three closest friends know, as well as my midwives, my family doctor, and a random stranger on the bus :lol

Everyone else will know probably soon... sometime in the next couple of weeks I'm sure. I've decided that no matter how long this precious soul is sent to be with me, I don't want to live his/her existance paralyzed wih fear as I ahve been with pregnancies in the past. So this time I am sharing his or her life with his or her family and friends, the people who will support us no matter what... and hoping for the very best outcome. This time feels differen and I sure hope that I am right.

[Gillian28]

I told my mom right away and today we told DH's family. We weren't planning too (well, we were going to wait until next week so it's not that big of a deal), but they said something about us having kids and I started crying (:eyesroll), and they asked if we were already pregnant and DH said yes. They were very excited. This will be his parents 4th grandbaby, but they don't have a girl yet, so I think they'll be hoping for that. Now that they know I'm going to have to tell my dad too, cause he's the only parent that doesn't know. And I'll be telling my two close friends. Extended family will have to wait a few months.

[Gillian28]

I've decided that no matter how long this precious soul is sent to be with me, I don't want to live his/her existance paralyzed wih fear as I ahve been with pregnancies in the past. So this time I am sharing his or her life with his or her family and friends, the people who will support us no matter what... and hoping for the very best outcome. This time feels differen and I sure hope that I am right.

I think this is such a great attitude and I'm feeling exactly the same way.

[mellydis]

I'm terrible at keeping secrets...I wish i could keep it shut longer but I've told my mom, two best friends and a neighbor. I'm actually hesitating about telling my Dad seeing that every time we mentioned having another he'd react rather dramatically by throwing his hands up in the air and shaking his head, " You don't have enough money! You'll never afford it!!" I think if I told him now, his head might launch into orbit....

[desperatemommytobe]

Triscuitsmom- That's a great attitude. Last time I told everyone and it didn't go so good.

Dh and I decided to tell our immediate family. My immediate family already knows, his will find out this Sunday. I have a really cute way of telling them since ours will be the first on their side. On my family's side it will be the second grandchild. Our extended families will have to wait till like after the first trimester or first appt.:)

[janesmommy]

Hi All--

I'm a blabbermouth. We've told our parents, our daughter and our best friends. Some people think I'm an idiot for telling dd but I disagree. I think it's the honest and respectful thing to do, and if something happens, God forbid, she's intelligent enough to handle it.

[cagnew]

Triscuitsmom: I agree with your reasoning. A life deserves to be celebrated, no matter how short or long it is.

mellydis: My MIL is just like your dad. I tend to disagree about the money-thing. We don't have much money, but we have done just fine with dd. We just don't have the "freedom" to buy every little thing that comes out. Personally, I think a human life is worth more than, say, being able to provide your kid with an iPod. Now if you can't afford to feed a kid... that's another story.

Like Triscuit, I have had a history of losses (well, two losses). We have told my parents because they live down the street, and my dh's brother. I would like to wait until my 8week u/s before we tell the rest of the world, including the rest of dh's family.

If we end up losing this baby too I will still tell people close to us about him/her. I just won't broadcast it to everyone and their brother, iykwim.

[skybluepink02]

If we hear a heartbeat at the 12 week doppler, I'll tell then. Crossing my fingers!

[rzberrymom]

I'll probably tell people when I start to get nauseous and need back-up! I can't imagine going through that alone!

[mamabens]

we told some friends, I told all my online friends...someof which I met almost 5 yrs ago when pregnatn with my 4 yr old. I told my MIL because she always is last to know these things so I thought I'd let her be one of the first. We are going to wait til about 10 weeks or so to tell my family...long story LOT"S of reasons there. When I'm ready to tell my family I'll tell our girls too. Do you know how hard it is to NOT tell a 4 & 6 yr old? lol I'm pretty sure that they'll figure it out before I'm ready to tellthem though.

[motherbirth]

We told our parents, because we figured if something bad happens, we will want to talk to them about it. We are waiting on telling anyone else, but it's so hard because I am so excited.

[milli249]

I've told a few close friends and that's it. We may tell the kids this weekend since I will be getting sick soon (if everything is healthy). And my mom and sister come into town next week so we'll tell them then.

[boscopup]

We'll probably tell by early July. Family is coming over for DS#1's birthday, so I'm sure we'll tell then. May or may not have had a dating u/s by then, but we'll see. I'll be about 8 weeks when we have the family over.

I've already told my best friend as soon as I saw the line, then another friend when I couldn't reach my best friend (left a message on bf's voice mail, and she called back while talking to friend #2). Then I told a local mom's forum while on the phone with bf. Then I told DH that night (yes, a forum knew before my DH :bag:), and then I told the whole online world, just about. :lol

We're waiting to tell friends at church until after we tell the grandparents. And we're waiting to tell DS#1 until at least close to time to tell the grandparents, so he doesn't blab! I've already told DS#2, but he doesn't talk much yet, so no worries of him spilling the beans. :wink

I couldn't possibly wait until 12 weeks... It's killing me just to wait 2-3 weeks before telling the grandparents!!!

[nighten]

We've already told our close family and friends, and will likely be telling anyone else who is interested very soon. I can't keep a secret, plus I'm already swelling up a little (and I'm small, so it shows up fast on me).

I figure if something happens, I want the support of my friends and family to help me get through it. But hopefully nothing bad will happen. :thumb

[boscopup]

Oh, and today I told the guy at the gym that makes the workouts for you. I said I needed him to redo my workout and that I was now on a weight gain plan. :lol

[luv]

I've told two on line forums (ppl I dont 'know' irl). Hubby of course knows. We'll tell my parents this Sunday on Father's day. Grandparents and the rest prolly after the first tri (or as long as we can hold out ;) )

[Jenivere]

In person? A friend I met through MDC and our insurance companies are the only ones that know so far. The rest we will tell after the first tri-mester is over.

[midnightmommy]

We're going for it this weekend! We're telling DH parents. We got a father's day card from both kids. I'm hoping to keep a straight face long enough for him to open it. As for my family...I'm still not sure. I don't expect a happy celebration, so we'll see. I almost told my mom this afternoon when I was on the phone with her, but she's such a kill joy. My dad and I just don't have that close relationship. I still blush when I think about the fact that telling my dad I'm pregnant means I had sex. LOL. Insane I know, but there it is. Outside of family we have started to tell people. At least DH has. He's well bonded with the other dads at his office. He just couldn't wait anymore.

[starling&diesel]

We told the people who knew about our embryo transfer, so my very closest friends, my mom and my partner's sister.
I also had to tell my Unit Chief (I'm a paramedic, he's my boss...) because I had to scale back my night shifts, and also just in case I have to book off suddenly.
As for everyone else ... probably not until late August. If I can help it.

[artzyval]

i got excited and told pretty right away....

[heinz28]

Boscopup (Vera): Your reply made me laugh. Thanks for being so honest.

Besides the hubby, I told my two closest girlfriends, who are going to start trying in the next month.

The family? Maybe week 7 or 8. . . play that one by ear.

[KellyKA23]

My husband told his side of the family right away.... were telling mine on fatherday..... i told a few close freinds (also pregnant right now) and another who has been with me through all my infertility and stuff but everyone else is getting told mid july.....

Agh Midnightmommy! I feel exactly the same as you do about my dad! Were not super close and We are putting the ultrasound copy in his card... but i really dont know what to expect... im worried it will be... well i hope you know what your getting youself into... or a "are you joking" ( but in a seriouse way) or a "what is this?" and then i would have to explain and it would ruin the fun surpise... agh i dont know! scary!

[brokensemaphore]

We'd planned on waiting till 12 weeks, but I spilled my guts to everyone last night, lol

[alison_in_oh]

I told my parents two days after the positive test, and my brother two days after that. I wouldn't have planned to tell so soon (we waited till 9 weeks with my first pregnancy, we're pretty private people) but I so seldom see my family that it was worth it to tell them in person. We're telling the in-laws in person too, next month. After that I think we'll go public. :) (I've shared with several pregnancy communities though, LOL.)

[KellyKA23]

I just wanted to update! I told my family today (fathers day) and everything went great! Everyone cried!:love What a great day!

[boscopup]

I told my 4 year old son yesterday. It didn't seem to have sunk in yet though. He was kind of tired, so I might have to tell him again. :lol

[SuperB]

We told pretty much everyone already, I am just terrible at keeping secrets! :p

[LionTigerBear]

Oh my goodness, allison in oh, we both had babies on the same day! My second son was born 10/23/06!! How funny! Shall we give birth on the same day again? What do you think? :wink

[mamamelia]

I will be waiting until I am well out of the first trimester. Possibly not until 20 weeks or so.

yeah to that! at least till the babe starts to kick around (which for me happens around the 15-16th week).

the only person that knows is dh and i'd like to keep it that way until i feel safe in letting everyone know there will be a bubba early next year.

oh, some mamas on mdc know i am pregnant too. that's it other than dh though... :)

[LionTigerBear]

We're going to wait as long as possible to tell people in real life. It's kind of fun. :P I think we can get to like 4 months or so at least.

[mamamelia]

liontigerbear, we did that with dd#2 - it *was* fun! everyone was SHOCKED that i was five months along already. prior to telling everyone, when we were out and about, we'd make little cracks here and there about pregnancy/babies and chuckle to ourselves because nobody would get it but us. :D

[mollee19]

We told our almost 5 year old son last night. He is SOOO excited! I also decided that I am going to celebrate this little life and not let my fears keep me down. I am going to live in the dreams of who this little person will be and how amazing it will be to add to our family. We've waited for so long for this, I'm going to enjoy it!

[alison_in_oh]

Oh my goodness, allison in oh, we both had babies on the same day! My second son was born 10/23/06!! How funny! Shall we give birth on the same day again? What do you think? :wink

LOL, it's a deal. ;) Yay October and February babies! :D

EDIT: OMG, I didn't realize we're even due on the same day in Feb! Too funny!

[kssinca]

IRL, I told my cousin because I was worried about the bleeding I had the same day as I had the BFP. I'm waiting for my dad's bday in July to tell my parents.

I've shared it with online friends who don't know me IRL.

I'm anxiously waiting to hear from my doctor since I had blood tests done on Friday and yesterday. Although my tests from yesterday still are not showing up on my file online so I have a bit of a worry that maybe they lost my vial!!

[Citykid]

I will tell my mom and sister after my 8-week "pregnancy confirmation" with the midwife, but we'll wait to tell everyone else until 12 weeks have passed. We told everyone immediately the first time I got pregnant, and after I lost that pregnancy my father in law told dh to "wait until 12 weeks next time." :eyesroll Although I can respect that. He's in his 70s and doesn't need to ride that rollercoaster.

[justKate]

We're having a lot of trouble keeping it quiet, as much as I want to. So far I've told: My parents, grandparents, my brother/SIL, best friend, two co-workers, dentist, and a cashier at CVS.

DH has told his boss, a friend at Habitat4Humanity, and his parents (yes, in that order). Problem is, DH's father was very negative--"I thought you guys were going to wait until you move next year" then changing the subject to the problems DH's sister is having with her teenage sons. Maybe its normal for parents to be less exicted when they already have grandchildren/great-grandchildren through their other kids? :irked: Anyway, it sort of clouded up his day, which was sad to see. Any thoughts on dealing with this?

[clovermom]

Problem is, DH's father was very negative--"I thought you guys were going to wait until you move next year" then changing the subject to the problems DH's sister is having with her teenage sons. Maybe its normal for parents to be less exicted when they already have grandchildren/great-grandchildren through their other kids? :irked: Anyway, it sort of clouded up his day, which was sad to see. Any thoughts on dealing with this?

We told both of our families this past weekend and my mom's reaction was less than thrilled. I think she thinks we are in over our heads and worries about the stress, work, money, etc. But it still really hurt my feelings, she actually rolled her eyes when I told her. I think she also harbors some resentment because I converted to Catholicism when I married DH (not my mother's religion nor one she particularly agrees with) and we don't use artificial birth control so she thinks I'm just going to pop out a million kids I guess.....? I don't know, I try not to get too upset about it. My dad was excited which was cute--asking me how I'm feeling and everything and my DH's family was thrilled.

[RabbitDancer]

Both my husband and I have told a small handful of people, but no one too close. We haven't told the kids yet (ages 10, 5, and 12 months) because once they know, they would spill the beans right away! I wish we had family who would be happy for sure, but last time both our families didn't react so positively and thought we were nuts for having a third. And now here's a fourth (quite unexpected!!) so soon afterward!

My mother-in-law reacted the most negatively to our last pregnancy announcement. My husband plans to casually mention it to his dad sometime when it's just the two of them at lunch (they work at the same company), and then just let him break the news to my MIL. I've told him that I don't want to be around when she finds out, and he respects that. When we announced to my in-laws that we were expecting #3, my MIL loudly exclaimed, "Are you out of your mind??" and looked like she was trying hard not to cry (and not in a happy way!), then she refused to speak to us or make eye contact. We didn't think she would flip cartwheels or anything, but this wasn't exactly the reaction we were expecting. :( We promptly got up and went home. And I have no idea where this reaction even comes from, anyway; we're responsible adults, we'd been in a happy marriage for nine years at the time, we certainly had a handle on our two older kids, we're definitely not rich but we're financially stable, it's not as if we ever come to my in-laws for hand-outs or anything, we're both in good health, and clearly both my husband and I were happy about the news, so wha'?? It wasn't exactly a scandalous pregnancy! :irked: And more puzzling is the fact that my in-laws had/have three children themselves!

So yeah, I really look forward to breaking the news to her this time! :lol We'll be on vacation with my in-laws for two weeks in August, and we're not going to even think about telling anyone in the family until that's over. I'll be 13 1/2 weeks by then and I've got plenty of leftover padding in the tummy area from #3 that I don't think showing will be a problem. :wink I just worry that my oldest son is going to pick up on little chatterings and hints before then and figure out what's going on! Oh well -- if he does, he does. He's probably mature enough to understand our reasons for wanting to wait to tell everyone, and to respect that.

[Past_VNE]

We tell anyone and everyone as soon as we know. :) I'm like triscuitsmom, and additionally, I am glad to have the love and support all along the way, whether it goes well or not. I was grateful to have so much support with my miscarriage. If I hadn't told anyone, I would have been very alone. Conversely, I feel like crap until about 12 or 16 weeks, then feel wonderful/energized and full of "go". When I need help in pregnancy is early on, when I feel so run down and useless. If nobody knows and I'm not showing, nobody can give that little extra help that makes life so much more pleasant.


Wow, all that sounds really selfish. :o

My grandmother reacts pretty negatively to my announcements. Each one has been interesting. With DS, I said, "Guess what? We're going to have a baby!" She replied, "The cats have been running crazily around the living room today." Then, a moment later, she asked how far along I was. When I told her I had just found out, she said, "Geez, when you tell people so soon, they have to wait a long time."

When I told her about my last pregnancy (m/c) she said, "Hmmm, that's not very good timing." Yeah, so we were busy. Who cared? We were thrilled.

This time, when I told her, she said, "Was it planned?" I told her that we were trying, yes. She said, "Well, that's good. If you weren't, you'd never know when it would happen again."

Lovely, eh? :eyesroll:

[WeasleyMum]

Various people at various times, depending on the relationship and how much they know about our experience so far.

I made a MASSIVE mistake telling one former coworker that I trusted... she and I had struggled with miscarriages and TTC together, and she was due any day with her first baby and not working with us anymore, so I really thought it would be OK, and that she wouldn't tell anyone. (When she told me she was pregnant last September, I didn't tell a soul! I expected the same from her!) Instead, she completely betrayed my trust by telling another coworker that I don't trust at all, (nobody does! Because she's not trustworthy! WHY, why, why...) who immediately--of course--spread the news to another cw of ours. That girl happened to be a friend of mine who already knew, and she reported back to me that my pregnancy was making the gossip rounds. :irked::hopmad:cuss

So I HAD to tell our manager right away, before she heard it second-hand; she's got this thing about being "in the loop", about being trusted, and being told things first. It's all very personal with her. She never forgave my cw that just had the baby, for not telling her about the pregnancy until she found out from other people.

So basically that all got really screwed up because I couldn't keep my mouth shut, and thought that a sisterhood existed somewhere it didn't. Not that I'm bitter or anything. Just that after 3 m/cs in a year, I have REASONS for not spreading it around, you know? It's so hard to deal with well-intentioned but stupid comments if it goes badly.

My family I told last weekend-- usually I tell them right away (pee-still-drying-on-the-stick) but they were coming to town to visit us and I thought just once it would be nice to deliver the news in person instead of over the phone, so I waited a few weeks.

NOBODY else is finding out from ME unless we make it past this trimester. It sucks to lose a friend over something like this.

(I mean except the people who read my blog. I'm going to start posting there again after my ultrasound today.)

[maliceinwonderland]

I've already told everyone..lol

It's funny, I can keep other people's secrets with no problem, if someone says "This is just between you and I" you will never, ever get it out of me..but when it's my own news? Pfft..I think I was telling people the same day I got the positive test.

[Citykid]

Yikes, some stories!

My DH told our 2 year old. He wanted to explain to him why mommy isn't feeling well these days and tired so much. DS that night said to me, "Baby in belly? Open, I want to see!" Of course he would have told everyone, including both our parents, with whom he gets a lot of alone time. So I immediately quashed it by saying that it was only a maybe-baby - maybe yes, maybe no, and I'd tell him when I knew for sure there was a baby. He understood and it seemed to satisfy him. I haven't heard anything from him about it since.

At a family 4th of July party, my mom's cousin asked my mom if I was pregnant. I guess because my belly is so big. My mom told me about it later, and I think I gave myself away because I didn't give the reaction I would have had if I wasn't pregnant, which would have been to be mortified that my belly is so big that someone thought I was pregnant. But she's patiently waiting and hasn't said anything to me. I have a wonderful mommy. :love

[kssinca]

I've told my parents, my father in law and my grandparents. I gave my dad a card on his birthday that had a picture of a stork and when you open it, it plays a lullaby. On the right side, it says congratulations and on the left side I pasted a copy of my ultrasound and had a little bubble from the baby saying Hi Grandpa!

So I never get my parents anything for their birthday and my dad was so busy looking for money or a gift card in the envelope or stuck to the card that he didn't even notice what it was for a few minutes! WHen he finally read the card, he was confused and was all, I'm not pregnant! Then he looked closer and was all, Is this true?!?!?! :) hehehehehehe

We've told a few friends. Other than my family and a few other close friends, I don't want to tell people. They will figure it out when they see me.

[maliceinwonderland]

My grandmother reacts pretty negatively to my announcements. Each one has been interesting. With DS, I said, "Guess what? We're going to have a baby!" She replied, "The cats have been running crazily around the living room today." Then, a moment later, she asked how far along I was. When I told her I had just found out, she said, "Geez, when you tell people so soon, they have to wait a long time."

When I told her about my last pregnancy (m/c) she said, "Hmmm, that's not very good timing." Yeah, so we were busy. Who cared? We were thrilled.

This time, when I told her, she said, "Was it planned?" I told her that we were trying, yes. She said, "Well, that's good. If you weren't, you'd never know when it would happen again."

Lovely, eh? :eyesroll:

That's exactly the way my family is! I'm sure I've moaned about this before on MDC, but I've NEVER got a congrats from anyone in my family, for any pregnancy. When I told my mom about this one she said "You shouldn't tell people so early". My nieces and nephews who I'm close in age with and are my favorite people in the world said something along the lines of "Is that a joke? You don't need another one". I've never asked any of them to babysit or anything, so it's not like I'm the relative that has a bunch of kids and passes them off to other people all the time.

The only one I can count on to be excited is my mil, god love her. This is her second grandchild (ds was her first) and my SO phoned her at work to tell her. The first thing he said when she picked up the phone was "So, do you want a boy or a girl this time?" It took her a second to catch on but when she did I could hear her shrieking with delight from across the room. By the end of her shift she had told pretty much everyone she worked with. Have I mentioned I have one of the few awesome mils in the world? :love

[Past_VNE]

Awww, that's awesome your MIL is so cool. My MIL could be counted on as a loving, awesome grandma and treated DS like gold. We lost her in April to cancer, and I'm soooo sad for DS and this new little one. :( Words can't express what a loss it to our children that they won't know her. We miss her terribly.

[Enudely]

I've totally blabbed it to the whole world already. I've just got a strong feeling that it's going to pull through, and also If I do lose it (knocking on wood), I will want to talk about it and be upfront anyway. That's just how I am

[elspethshimon]

In two weeks we're telling my dad and the in-laws (my mum already knows). Crazy.

[tulipmama]

We're telling everyone after the 12 week ultrasound in one week. For now only my dh, mom and dad, and two close friends know. Still haven't told the kids or in-laws or all my other friends.

[Ghislaine]

We were on vacation in France with my parents and brother when I took the test. I had my husband confirm that he saw a line so he was the first to know. Then we went downstairs and let my parents and brother know. My dad then spilled the beans to at least one B&B owner because I couldn't have any of the wine she was serving. (They have cute little symbols on their bottles of alcohol over there to indicate that pregnant women shouldn't drink).

When we arrived in the States my husband's parents picked us up at the airport so we told them then. I was sure that my MIL was going to want to blab to the world right away but one of my husband's cousins had been tryig for over a year so MIL decided not to say anything.

We've since learned that the cousin is about 2 weeks behind us, but MIL is still being quiet because we've decided to keep quiet a while longer. I started spotting the day we got back from Europe otherwise I'd have told my extended family at the 4th of July reunion!

At this point I've told a few close friends and some online forums. A more general announcement will wait until mid-August at this point.

[Devaskyla]

I think everyone I know except my family. I'll leave that as long as possible.

[Red_Lil_Mamma]

If our plans work out, we will be announcing it to parents after we hit the 16th week over Labor Day weekend. We plan to have a BBQ and have all the folks over. After dinner, we'll bring out a "special cake" that'll be iced with a picture of a baby or fetus with a little speech bubble that says "Hiya, Grandparents!" It'll be a blast to see everyone get excited at once. :)

I normally have very loose lips and can be terrible with keeping secrets or fibbing to protect them, but I have no problem keeping this quiet. Partially, bc it's nice to just have it between DH and I so we can make plans without others "advice," and partially bc the last time I was pregnant my mom told my grandmother after I explicitly asked her to wait to tell any extended family (I lost a pregnancy before). Well, I lost the pregnancy shortly afterwards. Grandmother (who has a history of having loose lips and was was understandably excited and concerned) told other people in our family who had no business of knowing, and it came back to me in very negative ways. I felt pretty violated when it was over with.

Things are going very well this pregnancy. It's further along than any I've had before and I have a really good feeling about it, but I feel *very* protective right now. If I could get away with it, I'd keep it quiet up to 24 weeks or even until after the baby was born.

Still, we have told our close friends (who don't really know our parents), and I've told my sister. She lives in England and knows how to keep a secret, and this has actually brought us closer together. It's important to have a good support unit during a pregnancy from early on. It also helps us keep our lips tight til we are ready to tell other people. :)

[justKate]

Its just so hard for me to keep quiet! On one hand, I want everyone (including co-workers) to know, so that they understand why I'm not going for happy hour on Fridays, joining the new softball team, etc. On the other, I'm dreading the inevitable, "But you're young! Your career is just getting started!" :rolleyes Really, huz and I will be 27 and 29 before baby is born--so we're not that young, and before I got married I decided that his career would come first, otherwise I wouldn't have married someone in the military. I just don't know what to expect!

[mamamillet]

So the news is out at work--which is good. I swear I could feel people looking at the bump lately. Most of my wardrobe is form fitting tops so it is now kinda obvious. I work with all woman--about 25 of us in a small office so it spread quickly. I was a bit nervous or hesitant cause I know there are three other women trying as well, but everyone was really sweet!

[itsrtimedownhere]

i told my mom, my 9 yo brother and my aunt. it's still supposed to be a secret but my aunt has a big mouth and i forgot to tell her not to tell anyone. so everyone probably knows.

[sunriseiz]

So the news is out at work--which is good. I swear I could feel people looking at the bump lately. Most of my wardrobe is form fitting tops so it is now kinda obvious.
:yeah:

Kind of a relief, too. The gals acknowleged noticing 'something' last week, but I think they noticed a long time ago IYKWIM! I've been wearing shirts 1-2 sizes to big to try and de-emphasize my belly, but it's no use. Sigh. Now at least I can break out the maternity clothes and be comfy!

[hiro]

We have told everyone! I am too excited to keep it to myself!

[Jenivere]

We told our kids a few days ago then I e-mailed most of my family. I still need to call a few of them. My husband called his mom and four of his six siblings last night.