Hope, Healing, and Conceiving Again ***August***

[BlissfullyLoving]

This thread is for women who wish to conceive after a loss and need support, hope and healing. If you wish to be added to the thread or want to modify your info please make requests in bold. Thread owner reserves the right to move you to In Our Thoughts, from Waiting to O and Waiting to Know sections, if you have not posted to the thread in a month.

In Our Thoughts
barose :~bangel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1737b0)
Bennie45 :angel :angel
Boobs4Milk :*pangel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/18d170)
canadiannancy :angel
Carley :angel
Chic_Mama :angel
Countrybound :angel :angel
famille_huggins :angel
jaclyn7 :angel
Katica :angel
Kayda's Mom :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/20124b)
kellihope :angel :chart: (http://forums.ovusoft.com/chart.asp?id=kellihope)
labortrials :angel :angel :angel
Megan_in_Holland :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/18f781)
motherofphilosophy :angel
plaidpineapple :angel
Parker'sMommy :angel :angel
politys :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1e2ccd)
PrayinFor12 :angel :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1d3b53)
so confused! :angel
veganmama719 :angel :angel:chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1bc515)

Waiting to O
BlissfullyLoving :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/205ef9)
Chel :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1d9e92)
dani76 :angel :angel :angel
heatherh :~bangel :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/171f90)
lunarmagic :~bangel
Matilda_z :~bangel
momoftworedheads :*pangel :angel :angel :angel
Olerica :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1e0ec0)
roses25 :angel
seafox :angel
shantiani :angel
Talula Fairie :angel :angel :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/c33ac)
Quate :angel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1fac52)

Waiting to Know
Amydoula :angel :angel
apmama2myboo :angel :angel
Mama-Ana :angel
MommyinMN :angel
Prism :angel
sarahcecile :angel :angel :angel BFP!!!
ScootchsMom :~bangel :chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6a7b6)

:jumpers: BFPs :jumpers:
Due April 2009
JenMidwife :~bangel
jmo :angel :angel :angel:chart: (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/196271)
shanahan :angel
skybluepink02 :angel :angel :angel
catballou24 :angel
Due March 2009
birthangeldoula :angel :angel
Cyrusmama
faeriemom :angel :angel
mel_rak :angel :angel
PNWmama :angel :angel :angel
Due February 2009
Baby Makes 4 :angel
cagnew :~bangel
DreamsInDigital :angel
Eliseatthebeach :*pangel
Mamato2 :angel
TayTaysMama :angel
Due January 2009
DreamWeaver :~bangel
mumster :angel
OwensMa :angel
3 - 2happymammas :angel
3 - xakana :angel :angel
10-mamatowill :angel
Due December 2008
hazeleyes :angel
League_mama :angel
youthpastormama :angel
8 - moodyred01 :angel
11 - namaste_mom :angel :*pangel
16 - i0lanthe :angel
24 - Curlyfry7 :angel
26 - A Mother's Love :angel
28 - ChesapeakeBorn :angel :angel :angel
28 - Lindsey608 :angel
31 - sarah2881 :angel
Due November 2008
Kgrands :angel
punkrawkmama27 :angel
Sioko :angel :angel :angel
3 - hannybanany :angel
4 - Bella Catalina :angel
11 - fallriverfox :angel


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[Amydoula]

nothing to report just wanted to be the first to post:joy:

[apmama2myboo]

can you please move me to waiting to know? i doubt this is our month but i'm past O time now....anyone got any words of wisdom about ovulation prediction kits? is FMU the best for those? (doing homework for next month...)TIA

[jmo]

can you please move me to waiting to know? i doubt this is our month but i'm past O time now....anyone got any words of wisdom about ovulation prediction kits? is FMU the best for those? (doing homework for next month...)TIA
The best time to do opks is actually late afternon to early evening. The theory, I think, it that you're more to catch the surge then. It's also important to not pee for several hrs beforehand. I find this extremely difficult so the longrst I can hold it is usually 2 hrs with no liquids. Good luck.


hey bliss, can you add another angel next to my name on the front page. There should be 3 not 2. Thanks - and thanks for doing the thread!!

[seafox]

could I join this thread? I read the July thread for most of July (I miscarried on the 3rd - making for a pretty sucky 4th of july weekend) so got to know some of you girls a bit just lurking - didn't want to join until I was actually going to start trying. Just got my period today so we'll be trying this month. I guess I am waiting to 0

it was my first pregnancy, got pregnant on the first month trying, so its going to be hard to adjust to trying again if its not as easy anymore! Which I am assuming its not going to be - we were probably just lucky that month (or unlucky, since it didn't stick)

I am 31, going to turn 32 soon, the mr. is 33.

I still had an HCG of 29 two weeks after the D&C, but I guess it then cleared out of my system somewhat quick after that (I did pass a few clots that day) since I did get my period 30 days after the procedure. This cycle definitely looks pretty abnormal to me (short LP) so hoping that's just the after-miscarriage weirdness and not a LP defect or something.

I chart, but I might try OPK's too this month, just to see if they work. I get pretty distinctive ovulation pain as well, though this month it was either way way worse and longer or it was still miscarriage-cramping, since it wasn't like usual. So I guess I might not count on that as a sign yet.

apmama2myboo, I've also read the afternoon is better - my friend actually told me that if you can afford it, to do two a day around the time you'd most suspect - one maybe at 11am-2pm and then another in the early evening, to really make sure you catch the surge.

[skybluepink02]

Welcome seafox, though I've very sorry you have to join our club. It's very nice to have a safe place on this thread though. :hug:

[ScootchsMom]

Just got my betas back -- 11 dpo = 120 hcg
13 dpo = 325 hcg
Progesterone was 29.53.
For some reason when the nurse called I really thought she was going to have bad news. My betas have always been good right up to the day I lose the baby, though. Huh....well it does reassure me slightly.

Good numbers!

holy crow! you mamas have been busy! congrats to the additional bfp's here! wow!!!!! i guess i know what you ladies have been up to....

i'm still really busy and have a big trip tomorrow for my first group show in mpls, and they said 500 people or better for opening night so i'm excited. also going to get in touch with some old friends we haven't seen for a long, long time.

still ttc over here but very halfhearted attempts. i finally bit it and signed up for fertilityfriend and at least have my cycles there. haven't done any of the temping yet. next month, or after this weekend, i'll probably start doing that.

my dh's cousin is expecting another baby (his wife is, actually). i got the email tonight, and it was like a punch in the stomach. When is the jealousy going to go away? She's due in March. I am truly happy for them but by then my son would have been about 1 year old. it hasn't even been a year since i lost him and every time i hear someone bubbling about a new pregnancy( and those *(&#$(*&#$&&## duggar family people!) it just takes the wind out of my sails. I know i should be thrilled that my art is taking off, but damned if i wasn't pissed off when i heard the news. can you all try to send some positive vibes my way? I"m ready to go do another hour of kickboxing to get the anger out of my system :( this sucks.

meanwhile, you ladies keep going with those bfps! you that have been thru this with me, some of you hear longer than i have been, you give me hope. You are like me. You don't have that happy-go-lucky "nothing will go wrong" naivete that everyone else does who hasn't had the misfortune. Sorry to bring anyone down. I was really excited about my show and very upbeat and happy and as soon as i heard about it it just pissed me off. any words of wisdom? *sigh* i hate this.

Don't get me started on the duggers. I can't stand them. :hug

Welcome to seafox I hope your stay here is short.

Me - I just can't win. I am definitely o'ing this weekend, but we've got 2 problems. #1 my BBT is gone, can't find it anywhere :irked: #2 DP had to increase his paxil dose (He has anxiety problems) and now he can't umm, finish. Grrrrrrrrr. What the heck am I supposed to do now? If he doesn't take his meds he gets really bad, panic attacks, blows up at the littlest thing, etc. Grrrrrrrrrr. Any one have any ideas for me here?

[Amydoula]

can you please move me to waiting to know? i doubt this is our month but i'm past O time now....anyone got any words of wisdom about ovulation prediction kits? is FMU the best for those? (doing homework for next month...)TIA
:fingersx:

could I join this thread? I read the July thread for most of July (I miscarried on the 3rd - making for a pretty sucky 4th of july weekend) so got to know some of you girls a bit just lurking - didn't want to join until I was actually going to start trying. Just got my period today so we'll be trying this month. I guess I am waiting to 0

it was my first pregnancy, got pregnant on the first month trying, so its going to be hard to adjust to trying again if its not as easy anymore! Which I am assuming its not going to be - we were probably just lucky that month (or unlucky, since it didn't stick)

I am 31, going to turn 32 soon, the mr. is 33.

I still had an HCG of 29 two weeks after the D&C, but I guess it then cleared out of my system somewhat quick after that (I did pass a few clots that day) since I did get my period 30 days after the procedure. This cycle definitely looks pretty abnormal to me (short LP) so hoping that's just the after-miscarriage weirdness and not a LP defect or something.

I chart, but I might try OPK's too this month, just to see if they work. I get pretty distinctive ovulation pain as well, though this month it was either way way worse and longer or it was still miscarriage-cramping, since it wasn't like usual. So I guess I might not count on that as a sign yet.

apmama2myboo, I've also read the afternoon is better - my friend actually told me that if you can afford it, to do two a day around the time you'd most suspect - one maybe at 11am-2pm and then another in the early evening, to really make sure you catch the surge.
Welcome! So sorry about your loss. You and I and our DH's are the same ages:) I do the OPK's at 3pm, I hold pee for 3 hours before and remember they aren't like pregnancy tests, if you get a faint line on an OPK it's negative, only if the line is as dark as or darker than the control line is it positive. The pee holding is HARD but I find that easier for a few days than taking my freakin temp every morning at the same time so this is what I do. I have had a shorter lp, 10-11 days since the m/c and when I get AF next week I am going to start either Maca or Vitex, I haven't decided which one yet.

Good numbers!



Don't get me started on the duggers. I can't stand them. :hug

Welcome to seafox I hope your stay here is short.

Me - I just can't win. I am definitely o'ing this weekend, but we've got 2 problems. #1 my BBT is gone, can't find it anywhere :irked: #2 DP had to increase his paxil dose (He has anxiety problems) and now he can't umm, finish. Grrrrrrrrr. What the heck am I supposed to do now? If he doesn't take his meds he gets really bad, panic attacks, blows up at the littlest thing, etc. Grrrrrrrrrr. Any one have any ideas for me here?
DH was on antidepressents when we were in COLLEGE and we had the same problems so I feel your pain! It didn't get any better until he went off them unfortunately.

[apmama2myboo]

scootchs, :hug i have no ideas for you....that really sucks. I hope he can resolve the issue soon and his body is more cooperative for you guys. I can't imagine that frustration.

thanks so much ladies for the OPK advice. i've never done them before....never needed to. i'm 35 and the clock is ticking. hope you all have a great weekend and when i get back on sunday i want to see all kinds of bfp's up in this thread!

[MommyinMN]

Hi ladies, I would like to join as well. We lost our third baby (a boy) on June 2 at 17ish weeks. I am not 100% positive that we are going to TTC this cycle, more likely we will wait until Sept. as Dh has some reservations he is trying to work through. Mostly he terrified of another loss. I am planning on not charting, though I will still check Cm and use OPK's. Our last pregnancy we tried for 10 cycles and got pregnant the cycle we took a break so I am trying not to stress over it.

I am 27 and Dh is 29. I am a SAHM to my dd who is 4 1/2 and my ds who is 2 1/2.

Right now I am on cd23, I o'd around cd16. AF should show up around the 7th, but since this is my 1st cycle post m/c I am thinking I may not be regular yet.

[BlissfullyLoving]

seafox, welcome. :hug I am so sorry for your loss.


Me - I just can't win. I am definitely o'ing this weekend, but we've got 2 problems. #1 my BBT is gone, can't find it anywhere :irked: #2 DP had to increase his paxil dose (He has anxiety problems) and now he can't umm, finish. Grrrrrrrrr. What the heck am I supposed to do now? If he doesn't take his meds he gets really bad, panic attacks, blows up at the littlest thing, etc. Grrrrrrrrrr. Any one have any ideas for me here?:hug I am sorry. I really do not know anything about it. Can your dh talk with his dr about finding another anti-anxiety medication that does not have any sexual side effects? Sending you lots of love and light.

MommyinMN, welcome. :hug I am so sorry for your loss.

[jmo]

Welcome seafox and mommyinmn!

Me - I just can't win. I am definitely o'ing this weekend, but we've got 2 problems. #1 my BBT is gone, can't find it anywhere :irked: #2 DP had to increase his paxil dose (He has anxiety problems) and now he can't umm, finish. Grrrrrrrrr. What the heck am I supposed to do now? If he doesn't take his meds he gets really bad, panic attacks, blows up at the littlest thing, etc. Grrrrrrrrrr. Any one have any ideas for me here?

Oh, liz, that sucks! Like bliss said, are there any other anti-anxiety meds w/o sexual side effects? If no, may he could take a lower dosage just when you are close to O?

[Mama-Ana]

Could you add me to waiting to know?? Thanks. :fingersx:

Hi ladies, I would like to join as well. We lost our third baby (a boy) on June 2 at 17ish weeks. I am not 100% positive that we are going to TTC this cycle, more likely we will wait until Sept. as Dh has some reservations he is trying to work through. Mostly he terrified of another loss. I am planning on not charting, though I will still check Cm and use OPK's. Our last pregnancy we tried for 10 cycles and got pregnant the cycle we took a break so I am trying not to stress over it.

I am 27 and Dh is 29. I am a SAHM to my dd who is 4 1/2 and my ds who is 2 1/2.

Right now I am on cd23, I o'd around cd16. AF should show up around the 7th, but since this is my 1st cycle post m/c I am thinking I may not be regular yet.

Welcome MommyinMN. I'm sorry for your loss. Trying not to stress over it is good, though it can be really hard to do that! Hopefully yout cycle will work itself out and be back to normal soon. :fingersx:

could I join this thread? I read the July thread for most of July (I miscarried on the 3rd - making for a pretty sucky 4th of july weekend) so got to know some of you girls a bit just lurking - didn't want to join until I was actually going to start trying. Just got my period today so we'll be trying this month. I guess I am waiting to 0

it was my first pregnancy, got pregnant on the first month trying, so its going to be hard to adjust to trying again if its not as easy anymore! Which I am assuming its not going to be - we were probably just lucky that month (or unlucky, since it didn't stick)

I am 31, going to turn 32 soon, the mr. is 33.

I still had an HCG of 29 two weeks after the D&C, but I guess it then cleared out of my system somewhat quick after that (I did pass a few clots that day) since I did get my period 30 days after the procedure. This cycle definitely looks pretty abnormal to me (short LP) so hoping that's just the after-miscarriage weirdness and not a LP defect or something.

I chart, but I might try OPK's too this month, just to see if they work. I get pretty distinctive ovulation pain as well, though this month it was either way way worse and longer or it was still miscarriage-cramping, since it wasn't like usual. So I guess I might not count on that as a sign yet.

apmama2myboo, I've also read the afternoon is better - my friend actually told me that if you can afford it, to do two a day around the time you'd most suspect - one maybe at 11am-2pm and then another in the early evening, to really make sure you catch the surge.

Seafox - welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. My situation was similar to yours, 1st preg. I lost our baby in June and my cycle came 33 days later. I had troubles with my HCG's dropping fast enough (they kept making me do blood tests, which I hate - phobic of needles) but then I got my AF and they went back to normal. I started charting and have my fingers crossed for this month.

can you please move me to waiting to know? i doubt this is our month but i'm past O time now....anyone got any words of wisdom about ovulation prediction kits? is FMU the best for those? (doing homework for next month...)TIA

Apmama2myboo - no advice on the kits (I just tried using one recently). Thanks to the others for the tips on time of day and holding the pee, I didn't do that... :eyesroll
But I wanted to say good luck with your art show and I totally understand the anger you mentioned before. Sometimes it just takes you by surprise. Kickboxing sounds like a good outlet. :)

JenMidwife - I'm glad you're feeling zen! That's a place I'm trying to get to. I started reading Spiritual Midwifery and I'm trying to channel those great birth stories and positive vibes. They were so in tune with their bodies and how their brains affected their pregnancy and deliveries... I'm trying to release my inner hippy. :D I hope it helps.

[heatherh]

Welcome, seafox! I'd go with lucky because if you can get pg, chances are good you can get one to stick. We're trying for #1, too. My first cycle after the last m/c was a super short LP. Still trying to get things stable.

ScootchsMom - Except for any dosing adjustments you might be able to make, if I were in your shoes I would pull out the heavy artillery. I think your best chance is to use a lot of foreplay. I suspect details aren't appropriate to post here :innocent PM me if you need ideas.

Hi, MommyinMN! I'm glad you found us, but sorry you're here.

Mama-Ana :fingersx:

[skybluepink02]

ScootchsMom I've had to deal with this too. The main suggestion I have for you is to abstain from BD until the best possible time for you to conceive. It builds up the "anticipation" and makes it easier. Also, like heatherh said, lots of foreplay. It's definately possible, it's just a bit more work.


Welcome, seafox! I'd go with lucky because if you can get pg, chances are good you can get one to stick. We're trying for #1, too. My first cycle after the last m/c was a super short LP. Still trying to get things stable.

ScootchsMom - Except for any dosing adjustments you might be able to make, if I were in your shoes I would pull out the heavy artillery. I think your best chance is to use a lot of foreplay. I suspect details aren't appropriate to post here :innocent PM me if you need ideas.

Hi, MommyinMN! I'm glad you found us, but sorry you're here.

Mama-Ana :fingersx:

[BlissfullyLoving]

Well, August seems to have hit me much harder then I anticipated. August is the month I was supposed to give birth, and while I was feeling amazingly calm the last few weeks now I feel miserable. Somehow looking at the word August is emotionally charged. We are quickly approaching the one year mark of trying to create a baby...how did that happen. (By the way Amy, I was mistaken when I was talking to you. We started trying the end of September, and I got pregnant in November. I do not know what I was talking about at the aquarium.) I am just feeling down and out. I am upset with dh over something that I should not be, and blah.

[dani76]

Ok, I am ready to be moved to waiting to O again. :) I am on CD1.

I am supposed to O around Aug. 12, but I'm scheduled to have some dental work under conscious sedation on the 19th. I've read that you are ok the first 17 days of conception........but you all know how shitty I'd feel if this was our month and I screwed it up with heavy drugs. I guess I just answered the question I haven't even asked yet. lol I'll reschedule the appt until after AF. :)

[Ms. Cellaneous]

Hi, I'm new here, and after lurking for forever thought I should finally *gulp, deep breath* sign up & join in. This forum and this thread are just exactly where I need to be right now, and I'm so grateful for that -- somewhere with people who get why the Duggars annoy me so!

We have been TTC for a year now. Got pregnant on my second cycle, but found out at 10 weeks that the baby had stopped developing at six weeks. Had a D&C right after Thanksgiving. We got back in the saddle, so to speak, and have been TTC since January, but it just hasn't happened for us.

One thing I've realized along my journey is that this is the first thing I've really wanted in life that I can't get through hard work. Sure, there are things I can do to increase my chances, but really, if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't. I find that sooo frustrating -- um, perhaps some control issues here? :shy

Blissfully, I completely sympathize with how awful you feel. I thought I was healing pretty well, not "over it" but had made peace with my miscarriage, and then the week of my EDD hit me in June like a ton of bricks. I felt on the verge of tears (or in actual tears) all week. My coworker had just announced her pregnancy the week before, and Jamie-Lynn Spears had her baby the week I would have been due, and all these events combined in my mind to seem like the universe was conspiring against me. I just had to give myself permission to be a wreck for a while, and it was rough, but it got better eventually.

It doesn't help that every woman of childbearing age in Toronto is pregnant now. Yes, that's quite remarkable in a city of 3.5 million but there you go. Every single one, flaunting their pregnant bellies at me ... hmm is there a green-eyed monster smiley?

Sorry for going on for so long but it's just really nice to have a community where people understand. Despite all my jealousy talk it is really great to hear about women who are successfully getting (and staying!) pregnant after miscarriage. It gives me hope. Thanks for helping me not feel so alone.

[Amydoula]

Hi ladies, I would like to join as well. We lost our third baby (a boy) on June 2 at 17ish weeks. I am not 100% positive that we are going to TTC this cycle, more likely we will wait until Sept. as Dh has some reservations he is trying to work through. Mostly he terrified of another loss. I am planning on not charting, though I will still check Cm and use OPK's. Our last pregnancy we tried for 10 cycles and got pregnant the cycle we took a break so I am trying not to stress over it.

I am 27 and Dh is 29. I am a SAHM to my dd who is 4 1/2 and my ds who is 2 1/2.

Right now I am on cd23, I o'd around cd16. AF should show up around the 7th, but since this is my 1st cycle post m/c I am thinking I may not be regular yet.
Welcome! It took me until the 3rd cycle post m/c to regulate but hopefully not that long for you

Well, August seems to have hit me much harder then I anticipated. August is the month I was supposed to give birth, and while I was feeling amazingly calm the last few weeks now I feel miserable. Somehow looking at the word August is emotionally charged. We are quickly approaching the one year mark of trying to create a baby...how did that happen. (By the way Amy, I was mistaken when I was talking to you. We started trying the end of September, and I got pregnant in November. I do not know what I was talking about at the aquarium.) I am just feeling down and out. I am upset with dh over something that I should not be, and blah.
I SO SO understand this. This is how I felt all the last of June and until my EDD past in July, BIG :Hug I was actually so relieved for August 1st b/c that meant July was over. I'm hoping that September 1st will give you that same relief.

Hi, I'm new here, and after lurking for forever thought I should finally *gulp, deep breath* sign up & join in. This forum and this thread are just exactly where I need to be right now, and I'm so grateful for that -- somewhere with people who get why the Duggars annoy me so!

We have been TTC for a year now. Got pregnant on my second cycle, but found out at 10 weeks that the baby had stopped developing at six weeks. Had a D&C right after Thanksgiving. We got back in the saddle, so to speak, and have been TTC since January, but it just hasn't happened for us.

One thing I've realized along my journey is that this is the first thing I've really wanted in life that I can't get through hard work. Sure, there are things I can do to increase my chances, but really, if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't. I find that sooo frustrating -- um, perhaps some control issues here? :shy

Blissfully, I completely sympathize with how awful you feel. I thought I was healing pretty well, not "over it" but had made peace with my miscarriage, and then the week of my EDD hit me in June like a ton of bricks. I felt on the verge of tears (or in actual tears) all week. My coworker had just announced her pregnancy the week before, and Jamie-Lynn Spears had her baby the week I would have been due, and all these events combined in my mind to seem like the universe was conspiring against me. I just had to give myself permission to be a wreck for a while, and it was rough, but it got better eventually.

It doesn't help that every woman of childbearing age in Toronto is pregnant now. Yes, that's quite remarkable in a city of 3.5 million but there you go. Every single one, flaunting their pregnant bellies at me ... hmm is there a green-eyed monster smiley?

Sorry for going on for so long but it's just really nice to have a community where people understand. Despite all my jealousy talk it is really great to hear about women who are successfully getting (and staying!) pregnant after miscarriage. It gives me hope. Thanks for helping me not feel so alone.

Welcome! It is a long road for me to get each of my children as well. :hug

[jmo]

:Hug, bliss. Sorry you're feeling so down. Due date months are so hard. I was such a mess for the entire month of May. We've past the one year mark of trying to have a (live) baby too and that is just a hard pill to swallow. :Hug


One thing I've realized along my journey is that this is the first thing I've really wanted in life that I can't get through hard work. Sure, there are things I can do to increase my chances, but really, if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't. I find that sooo frustrating -- um, perhaps some control issues here? :shy
So true! And I hate it more than anything...definitely some control issues for me too:o. Anyway, welcome and sorry for your loss.

[BlissfullyLoving]

dani76, can you find out exactly what you will be getting to keep you sedated because there are drugs that are deemed safe during pregnancy. I know that my best friend had an unavoidable root canal done while she was pregnant. I think it would put your heart ease if you can make sure you are using the most gentle drugs.

Ms. Cellaneous, Welcome. :hug I am so sorry for your loss!

I already am so happy you joined us (although horribly sad about the circumstances that brought us here), so much of what you said in your post were things I have said, myself, word for word. I definitely get the feeling that the universe is conspiring against me too. :eyesroll

Amydoula, jmo, and Ms. Cellaneous, thank you so much. :love I was feeling really alone in my pain.

I have been thinking a lot lately about how happy that I am to be a part of this thread. I love all of you. I am so happy I have these friendships, and all of you to turn to when I am feeling up or down. We mourn together and rejoice together, and I love being a part of either side and all that is in between. After meeting Amydoula in real life I am certain that each one of you is just as you present yourself on the board... loving, kind, sweet, accepting and generous. Thanks everyone for adding to my life. :love

[heatherh]

BlissfullyLoving - I have been dreading Aug. The 15th is the EDD for our first pg. I'm hoping it won't be as bad as last year...

dani76 - :hug

One thing I've realized along my journey is that this is the first thing I've really wanted in life that I can't get through hard work. Sure, there are things I can do to increase my chances, but really, if it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't. I find that sooo frustrating -- um, perhaps some control issues here? :shy
Hi, I'm Heather. <hi Heather> I have control issues, too. One of the most frustrating parts of TTC is that it doesn't follow The Schedule. sigh.

[Amydoula]

dani76, can you find out exactly what you will be getting to keep you sedated because there are drugs that are deemed safe during pregnancy. I know that my best friend had an unavoidable root canal done while she was pregnant. I think it would put your heart ease if you can make sure you are using the most gentle drugs.

Ms. Cellaneous, Welcome. :hug I am so sorry for your loss!

I already am so happy you joined us (although horribly sad about the circumstances that brought us here), so much of what you said in your post were things I have said, myself, word for word. I definitely get the feeling that the universe is conspiring against me too. :eyesroll

Amydoula, jmo, and Ms. Cellaneous, thank you so much. :love I was feeling really alone in my pain.

I have been thinking a lot lately about how happy that I am to be a part of this thread. I love all of you. I am so happy I have these friendships, and all of you to turn to when I am feeling up or down. We mourn together and rejoice together, and I love being a part of either side and all that is in between. After meeting Amydoula in real life I am certain that each one of you is just as you present yourself on the board... loving, kind, sweet, accepting and generous. Thanks everyone for adding to my life. :love
awww shucks:shy I really really am glad to be a part of this great group of people as well and am so glad I got to meet you in person as well.

BlissfullyLoving - I have been dreading Aug. The 15th is the EDD for our first pg. I'm hoping it won't be as bad as last year...

dani76 - :hug


Hi, I'm Heather. <hi Heather> I have control issues, too. One of the most frustrating parts of TTC is that it doesn't follow The Schedule. sigh.
:hug for your August as well.

Me: Still nothing to report. Having a rainy weekend here so trying to catch up around the house.

[ScootchsMom]

Ms. Cellaneous, Welcome! I'm sorry you are here, but it really is a great bunch of women here.



I have been thinking a lot lately about how happy that I am to be a part of this thread. I love all of you. I am so happy I have these friendships, and all of you to turn to when I am feeling up or down. We mourn together and rejoice together, and I love being a part of either side and all that is in between. After meeting Amydoula in real life I am certain that each one of you is just as you present yourself on the board... loving, kind, sweet, accepting and generous. Thanks everyone for adding to my life. :love

You just brought tears to my eyes with this. I think the women here are special, I can't see any of them being "fake" either. I guess we all feel bonded because of loss, which sucks, but at least we all understand it. I definitely don't have any one in real life that "gets it" like you ladies do.


Well, we didn't get to BD last night:( but I'm jumping him tonight whether he likes it or not. I'm pretty sure we missed O, as my CM is starting to change, But I had EWCM when I woke up this am so maybe we can catch it. I doubt it though and I'm pretty upset about it. I just can not believe that we FINALLY have a cycle where everything lines up perfectly and we start having the problem I mentioned before. Its not freaking fair. I didn't get to temp yesterday AM, but I got a new thermometer and took it this AM. But it tells me nothing without yesterday's temp, since that could have been my temp drop, KWIM? I just want to scream right now.

They also started construction today on our addition, so its been a zoo here all day. I am now the proud owner of a giant hole next to my house.

[labortrials]

I don't think AF is due until WEDNESDAY and I'm already starting to bleed. I HATE MY UTERUS!

And I was starting to feel good about TTC and being pregnant again. My damned body.

[skybluepink02]

I'm pretty much freaking out at this point. I had 3 days of numbness, where I just functioned without really thinking about it. Today I'm convinced that I'm going to miscarry. I don't really have a reason why, except that I'm not very symptomatic. My boobs are just starting to get sore, mostly when I poke them. ("then stop poking them", my husband says) I just have to keep telling myself that I'm only 4 weeks 2 days and it's normal, but I dont' really believe that. I go to the bathroom just so I can wipe and see if there's blood. So far I'm lucky. I can't help but wonder if it will last.

[JenMidwife]

Wow, I can't believe it's only 8/2 & there are already 23+ posts on this thread!

Welcome new mamas :grouphug: These women have been invaluable to me- truly my therapy. I hope you find this group to be a place where you feel loved & supported. :heartbeat

Bliss- I'm so very sorry that you're hurting so much. :Hug Like Amy, July (my dd) was surprisingly excruciating for me & it's such a relief to be on the other side of it. I feel like I worked through some major stuff last month. From the bottom of my heart, I hope the month of August is transformative for you too :Hug

Liz- I'm so sorry just when you're in a good place physically, things aren't um, working out for your dh. Good luck mama :Hug

Amy- I'm holding my breath for you! I wanna be ddc buddies again :love

[JenMidwife]

See, this is how fast this thread moves! I missed 2 posts while I was writing!!! :lol

Kimberly- I'm sorry about your bleeding :(

skybluepink02- no symptoms here yet either (my edb is 4/9/09 what's yours?) Do you typically get syptoms this early? I really don't get them 'till around 6 weeks. I think part of me isn't truly going to "believe" in the the pregnancy until I get symptoms. Hang in there mama :Hug

also skybluepink02- I obsessively check the tp after I wipe :o

[labortrials]

could I join this thread? I read the July thread for most of July (I miscarried on the 3rd - making for a pretty sucky 4th of july weekend) so got to know some of you girls a bit just lurking - didn't want to join until I was actually going to start trying. Just got my period today so we'll be trying this month. I guess I am waiting to 0

it was my first pregnancy, got pregnant on the first month trying, so its going to be hard to adjust to trying again if its not as easy anymore! Which I am assuming its not going to be - we were probably just lucky that month (or unlucky, since it didn't stick)


I hope your time here will be helpful and short (not cuz we don't want you around).

Me - I just can't win. I am definitely o'ing this weekend, but we've got 2 problems. #1 my BBT is gone, can't find it anywhere :irked: #2 DP had to increase his paxil dose (He has anxiety problems) and now he can't umm, finish. Grrrrrrrrr. What the heck am I supposed to do now? If he doesn't take his meds he gets really bad, panic attacks, blows up at the littlest thing, etc. Grrrrrrrrrr. Any one have any ideas for me here?
Can he switch to a different AD? What about cymbalta? I've heard that it works well for men in particular.

Hi ladies, I would like to join as well. We lost our third baby (a boy) on June 2 at 17ish weeks.
Oh man, a second term loss. It's just so unfair. Welcome to our motley crew!

Well, August seems to have hit me much harder then I anticipated. August is the month I was supposed to give birth, and while I was feeling amazingly calm the last few weeks now I feel miserable. Somehow looking at the word August is emotionally charged. We are quickly approaching the one year mark of trying to create a baby...how did that happen. (By the way Amy, I was mistaken when I was talking to you. We started trying the end of September, and I got pregnant in November. I do not know what I was talking about at the aquarium.) I am just feeling down and out. I am upset with dh over something that I should not be, and blah.
I hear ya, Blissful . . .

Hi, I'm new here, and after lurking for forever thought I should finally *gulp, deep breath* sign up & join in. This forum and this thread are just exactly where I need to be right now, and I'm so grateful for that -- somewhere with people who get why the Duggars annoy me so!
My most recent miscarriage was similar - a teeny tiny bit of blood sent me in for an u/s at 10w. Dead baby. :( :Hugs to you.

I'm pretty much freaking out at this point. I had 3 days of numbness, where I just functioned without really thinking about it. Today I'm convinced that I'm going to miscarry. I don't really have a reason why, except that I'm not very symptomatic. My boobs are just starting to get sore, mostly when I poke them. ("then stop poking them", my husband says) I just have to keep telling myself that I'm only 4 weeks 2 days and it's normal, but I dont' really believe that. I go to the bathroom just so I can wipe and see if there's blood. So far I'm lucky. I can't help but wonder if it will last.
It's so important to try and stay positive and reduce your stress levels. I strongly recommend doing affirmations regularly. I did them when I was pregnant with DD and it really helped me get through the scary first trimester.

Of course you'll need to talk me out of the trees when I get pregnant again.

Me: I was very productive today, yay me. I started feeling better about getting this procedure done and being pregnant again. Then AF started on CD24. I'm so pissed.

[dani76]

That's interesting, because I got AF yesterday at CD24. I never have a 24 day cycle, maybe 28-31 days. I was hoping it was a really strong new moon?

[ScootchsMom]

I don't think AF is due until WEDNESDAY and I'm already starting to bleed. I HATE MY UTERUS!

And I was starting to feel good about TTC and being pregnant again. My damned body.

:hug

I'm pretty much freaking out at this point. I had 3 days of numbness, where I just functioned without really thinking about it. Today I'm convinced that I'm going to miscarry. I don't really have a reason why, except that I'm not very symptomatic. My boobs are just starting to get sore, mostly when I poke them. ("then stop poking them", my husband says) I just have to keep telling myself that I'm only 4 weeks 2 days and it's normal, but I dont' really believe that. I go to the bathroom just so I can wipe and see if there's blood. So far I'm lucky. I can't help but wonder if it will last.

The numbness is totally understandable. Just take it one day at a time.

Can he switch to a different AD? What about cymbalta? I've heard that it works well for men in particular.

Me: I was very productive today, yay me. I started feeling better about getting this procedure done and being pregnant again. Then AF started on CD24. I'm so pissed.

Boo to AF showing early. DP talked to his doctor a while ago about cymbalta, but the doc dint think it was a good fit for him. The higher dosage is new, which is why there is suddenly problem. But we fixed it last night, lol.

Can anyway take a look at my chart and tell me if it tells you anything? I know there are temps missing, so its all I have to work with right now, lol.

[BlissfullyLoving]

BlissfullyLoving - I have been dreading Aug. The 15th is the EDD for our first pg. I'm hoping it won't be as bad as last year...:hug


Me: Still nothing to report. Having a rainy weekend here so trying to catch up around the house.Hope you had fun and got everything you wanted accomplished. We are having nice weather today. How about you?


Well, we didn't get to BD last night:( but I'm jumping him tonight whether he likes it or not. I'm pretty sure we missed O, as my CM is starting to change, But I had EWCM when I woke up this am so maybe we can catch it. I doubt it though and I'm pretty upset about it. I just can not believe that we FINALLY have a cycle where everything lines up perfectly and we start having the problem I mentioned before. Its not freaking fair. I didn't get to temp yesterday AM, but I got a new thermometer and took it this AM. But it tells me nothing without yesterday's temp, since that could have been my temp drop, KWIM? I just want to scream right now.

They also started construction today on our addition, so its been a zoo here all day. I am now the proud owner of a giant hole next to my house.:hug I feel so bad for you and dh. I am so sorry that the medication is causing so many complications to ttc.

I hope your construction goes quickly.

I don't think AF is due until WEDNESDAY and I'm already starting to bleed. I HATE MY UTERUS!

And I was starting to feel good about TTC and being pregnant again. My damned body.
Me: I was very productive today, yay me. I started feeling better about getting this procedure done and being pregnant again. Then AF started on CD24. I'm so pissed.:hug

I'm pretty much freaking out at this point. I had 3 days of numbness, where I just functioned without really thinking about it. Today I'm convinced that I'm going to miscarry. I don't really have a reason why, except that I'm not very symptomatic. My boobs are just starting to get sore, mostly when I poke them. ("then stop poking them", my husband says) I just have to keep telling myself that I'm only 4 weeks 2 days and it's normal, but I dont' really believe that. I go to the bathroom just so I can wipe and see if there's blood. So far I'm lucky. I can't help but wonder if it will last.:Hug I can completely understand your fears. I am hoping and praying that you will hold this baby in your arms. :Hug


Can anyway take a look at my chart and tell me if it tells you anything? I know there are temps missing, so its all I have to work with right now, lol. I think it looks like you Oed on maybe cd 11 or 12.

[ScootchsMom]

I think it looks like you Oed on maybe cd 11 or 12.

Thats what I thought too. Hopefully it was cd12, yesterday, since that still gives me a chance at catching it.

[BlissfullyLoving]

Thats what I thought too. Hopefully it was cd12, yesterday, since that still gives me a chance at catching it.
If I had to guess, I would say it was probably yesterday. :fingersx: for you!

[seafox]

That's interesting, because I got AF yesterday at CD24. I never have a 24 day cycle, maybe 28-31 days. I was hoping it was a really strong new moon?

I was thinking the same thing - I know the first cycle post-m/c can be wonky, so a whole 9 instead of 15 days for a luteal phase might not be so weird, but I did think it happening on the new moon was nice.

I don't know if I'd stay that aligned, since my cycles used to be 27 or 28 days (though I was only off BC for a few months) so I guess I'd get out of lunar sync easily if that stayed the same.

the folks who take vitex, does anyone just use tea? or are pills/tinctures more effective? I'm thinking it might help my LP get back to normal faster, possibly.

skybluepink and JenMidwife:

I looked for blood for the first few months when I was pregnant too, and no previous miscarriages or anything to warrant that. I just didn't quite believe it would stick (I guess that gut feeling was right) at 12 weeks I had *just* started to relax, and then the sad u/s showing that my gut had been right. I had no idea that you could not miscarry for that long (a month) so I was pretty shocked.

so even next time, (and Ill start using when, not if I think) not bleeding for 12 weeks won't even worry me less. I am guessing Ill be a wreck for a while, or completely detached from the whole thing, which makes me sad. I grieved the miscarriage in a large part grieving really the loss of the 'easy pregnancy', or the naiveness I had, I'm not sure.

I think feeling numb is a pretty normal response. I didn't get symptoms until 6 weeks as well.

Ms. Cellaneous: I also conceived really quickly, and am worried that it will be a struggle post-m/c. I am also a bit of a control freak so I know just what you mean, it sucks. I was so hoping it was going to be 'that easy' - especially knowing friends who it really was that easy for. My mother has been warning me for years of my declining fertility and I so wanted to tell her that it only took one month! I don't know why I felt almost too young to start this process 6 months ago and now this has aged me and I feel like I should have tried earlier (though at the time I thought I had good reasons to put it off until now!)

[BlissfullyLoving]

the folks who take vitex, does anyone just use tea? or are pills/tinctures more effective? I'm thinking it might help my LP get back to normal faster, possibly.
I use the pills, but all of the research I have seen says that the tincture is the most effective. I have not heard anything about tea. I have seen wonderful results with the pills.

[skybluepink02]

skybluepink02- no symptoms here yet either (my edb is 4/9/09 what's yours?) Do you typically get syptoms this early? I really don't get them 'till around 6 weeks. I think part of me isn't truly going to "believe" in the the pregnancy until I get symptoms. Hang in there mama :Hug

also skybluepink02- I obsessively check the tp after I wipe :o

I'm due on 4/10/09 so we're right about the same spot. I usually start feeling sick to my tummy at 5 weeks or so and full on M/S at 6 weeks. I know it's too early to feel anything, but I'm anxious to feel something. I've never made it past 6.5 weeks, so that will be a big turning point for me. Hopefully Progesterone will do the trick and baby will stick.



It's so important to try and stay positive and reduce your stress levels. I strongly recommend doing affirmations regularly. I did them when I was pregnant with DD and it really helped me get through the scary first trimester.

Of course you'll need to talk me out of the trees when I get pregnant again.



I know I need to stay calm. I thought I was doing pretty good, until now. I'm going to meditate a while and try to calm myself down. Maybe walk in the national park.

But you're so right. Stress is not going to make this baby stick. Probably the opposite. So I'll try to calm down. What will happen, will happen and nothing I can do or think will change it either way.

[Amydoula]

I don't think AF is due until WEDNESDAY and I'm already starting to bleed. I HATE MY UTERUS!

And I was starting to feel good about TTC and being pregnant again. My damned body.
ugghh early AF sucks!

I'm pretty much freaking out at this point. I had 3 days of numbness, where I just functioned without really thinking about it. Today I'm convinced that I'm going to miscarry. I don't really have a reason why, except that I'm not very symptomatic. My boobs are just starting to get sore, mostly when I poke them. ("then stop poking them", my husband says) I just have to keep telling myself that I'm only 4 weeks 2 days and it's normal, but I dont' really believe that. I go to the bathroom just so I can wipe and see if there's blood. So far I'm lucky. I can't help but wonder if it will last.
:hug the first tri is so hard.

Wow, I can't believe it's only 8/2 & there are already 23+ posts on this thread!

Welcome new mamas :grouphug: These women have been invaluable to me- truly my therapy. I hope you find this group to be a place where you feel loved & supported. :heartbeat

Bliss- I'm so very sorry that you're hurting so much. :Hug Like Amy, July (my dd) was surprisingly excruciating for me & it's such a relief to be on the other side of it. I feel like I worked through some major stuff last month. From the bottom of my heart, I hope the month of August is transformative for you too :Hug

Liz- I'm so sorry just when you're in a good place physically, things aren't um, working out for your dh. Good luck mama :Hug

Amy- I'm holding my breath for you! I wanna be ddc buddies again :love
Thanks, I've got some cramps today so not too hopeful, but I'm ok. We'll know tomorrow.

[BlissfullyLoving]

Thanks, I've got some cramps today so not too hopeful, but I'm ok. We'll know tomorrow.
:fingersx: :1praying: :fingersx:

[Olerica]

Afternoon all! I arrived home last night late, and have been ill this morning, and am not feeling all that well this afternoon. After the roller coaster last month, DH and I "hit" the dates for my lunar conception (I had a link on last month's thread) so we'll see if that goes anywhere fun.

Looks like there have been quite a few BFPs while I was away. :joy: :joy: :joy: Congratulations to JenMidwife and SkyBluePink :fingersx: and :sticky: :dust to both of you.

Also looks like we've had a few additions: MsCellaneous, SkyFox, and MommyinMN welcome to the group. (MommyinMN, I'm in MN too.)

Bliss: Hope that you are able to find peace this month.

Hugs and hellos to the rest of you!

[Amydoula]

I was thinking the same thing - I know the first cycle post-m/c can be wonky, so a whole 9 instead of 15 days for a luteal phase might not be so weird, but I did think it happening on the new moon was nice.

I don't know if I'd stay that aligned, since my cycles used to be 27 or 28 days (though I was only off BC for a few months) so I guess I'd get out of lunar sync easily if that stayed the same.

the folks who take vitex, does anyone just use tea? or are pills/tinctures more effective? I'm thinking it might help my LP get back to normal faster, possibly.

skybluepink and JenMidwife:

I looked for blood for the first few months when I was pregnant too, and no previous miscarriages or anything to warrant that. I just didn't quite believe it would stick (I guess that gut feeling was right) at 12 weeks I had *just* started to relax, and then the sad u/s showing that my gut had been right. I had no idea that you could not miscarry for that long (a month) so I was pretty shocked.

so even next time, (and Ill start using when, not if I think) not bleeding for 12 weeks won't even worry me less. I am guessing Ill be a wreck for a while, or completely detached from the whole thing, which makes me sad. I grieved the miscarriage in a large part grieving really the loss of the 'easy pregnancy', or the naiveness I had, I'm not sure.

I think feeling numb is a pretty normal response. I didn't get symptoms until 6 weeks as well.

Ms. Cellaneous: I also conceived really quickly, and am worried that it will be a struggle post-m/c. I am also a bit of a control freak so I know just what you mean, it sucks. I was so hoping it was going to be 'that easy' - especially knowing friends who it really was that easy for. My mother has been warning me for years of my declining fertility and I so wanted to tell her that it only took one month! I don't know why I felt almost too young to start this process 6 months ago and now this has aged me and I feel like I should have tried earlier (though at the time I thought I had good reasons to put it off until now!)
This was my last miscarriage. I was one day shy of 12 weeks, started spotting, ultrasound found a baby who had died at 9 weeks, then I waited another week and finally couldn't mentally deal knowing that I had had a dead baby inside me for 4 weeks and had the D&C. :hug

Afternoon all! I arrived home last night late, and have been ill this morning, and am not feeling all that well this afternoon. After the roller coaster last month, DH and I "hit" the dates for my lunar conception (I had a link on last month's thread) so we'll see if that goes anywhere fun.

Looks like there have been quite a few BFPs while I was away. :joy: :joy: :joy: Congratulations to JenMidwife and SkyBluePink :fingersx: and :sticky: :dust to both of you.

Also looks like we've had a few additions: MsCellaneous, SkyFox, and MommyinMN welcome to the group. (MommyinMN, I'm in MN too.)

Bliss: Hope that you are able to find peace this month.

Hugs and hellos to the rest of you!
Sorry you don't feel well, glad to have you back.

BLISS: Weather is very hit and miss here today too, we did get a couple of geocaches in between the drip drops.

ME: I'm about 99 percent sure she's going to show up tomorrow, I just have that feeling. (which would mean a short lp this month, as I had a pos. OPK at CD17) I'm really fine with it, as April is the month DH is going to be away for most of and it would be nice if we could birth together. I'm gearing up for the next month already. I've decided I'm going to do the vitex and he's going to do the maca and we'll see how that goes.

[Amydoula]

Ok so I've got tons of questions about this and I've been googling it to death and finding such conflicting answers! My bottle says take 2-3 capsules (each capsule is 400mg) per day for 8-12 weeks, then take 1 capsule daily for as long as needed. Is this what you guys did/do? I'm going to only take 2 capsules per day to start, as my cycle isn't horribly messed up, I just need a longer LP and if it takes away my PMS completely all the better. Also do you take it your whole cycle or only until you O? I ask b/c in bold letters on the bottle it says DO NOT TAKE WHILE PREGNANT. If you take it the whole month do you cold turkey it when you get a BFP? or wean off it, and if so how do you wean off it and when? Sorry so many questions! I just want to get this right. I'll give this a couple of months (unless I get a nasty reaction like the RRL) and then try the Macca if I'm not preggers before. I want to trial them separately. Also I was just thinking I think I'd really like to get pregnant this month or next I think if I got pregnant in October and had a July EDD again that would REALLY freak me out!

[heatherh]

ScootchsMom - I think CD12 is quite likely as long as you get another high temp tomorrow.

Hi, guys!

[BlissfullyLoving]

Afternoon all! I arrived home last night late, and have been ill this morning, and am not feeling all that well this afternoon. After the roller coaster last month, DH and I "hit" the dates for my lunar conception (I had a link on last month's thread) so we'll see if that goes anywhere fun. Welcome home! I missed you!


ME: I'm about 99 percent sure she's going to show up tomorrow, I just have that feeling. (which would mean a short lp this month, as I had a pos. OPK at CD17) I'm really fine with it, as April is the month DH is going to be away for most of and it would be nice if we could birth together. I'm gearing up for the next month already. I've decided I'm going to do the vitex and he's going to do the maca and we'll see how that goes.Sounds good...I still am holding out hope for you for this month.

Ok so I've got tons of questions about this and I've been googling it to death and finding such conflicting answers! My bottle says take 2-3 capsules (each capsule is 400mg) per day for 8-12 weeks, then take 1 capsule daily for as long as needed. Is this what you guys did/do? I'm going to only take 2 capsules per day to start, as my cycle isn't horribly messed up, I just need a longer LP and if it takes away my PMS completely all the better. Also do you take it your whole cycle or only until you O? I ask b/c in bold letters on the bottle it says DO NOT TAKE WHILE PREGNANT. If you take it the whole month do you cold turkey it when you get a BFP? or wean off it, and if so how do you wean off it and when? Sorry so many questions! I just want to get this right. I'll give this a couple of months (unless I get a nasty reaction like the RRL) and then try the Macca if I'm not preggers before. I want to trial them separately. Also I was just thinking I think I'd really like to get pregnant this month or next I think if I got pregnant in October and had a July EDD again that would REALLY freak me out!I take 2 750mg capsules a day, but my pituitary gland was really malfunctioning. I was not Oing at all until I was on it for about a month both times. I think that 2 capsules of 400mg should be sufficient for you, but can you have your dh muscle test with you to be sure? That is how I found the dosage. I also then do some muscle testing every once in a while to be sure the dosage is still right.

I, also, read through tons of research to try to find out why vitex was considered unsafe during pregnancy, and I only found one study on lab mice. They did show that there was a deformity in the mice with continued high doses of vitex. According to Susan Weed it is safe through pregnancy (even lowers the risk of miscarriage), but should be discontinued during the final trimester. Because it is most effective if you continue to take it I plan on taking until I have a bfp and then weaning off of it from there. I will probably go down to one pill a day for a week, then one pill every other day for a week, then one pill every few days, and then discontinue.

[Amydoula]

Welcome home! I missed you!

Sounds good...I still am holding out hope for you for this month.

I take 2 750mg capsules a day, but my pituitary gland was really malfunctioning. I was not Oing at all until I was on it for about a month both times. I think that 2 capsules of 400mg should be sufficient for you, but can you have your dh muscle test with you to be sure? That is how I found the dosage. I also then do some muscle testing every once in a while to be sure the dosage is still right.

I, also, read through tons of research to try to find out why vitex was considered unsafe during pregnancy, and I only found one study on lab mice. They did show that there was a deformity in the mice with continued high doses of vitex. According to Susan Weed it is safe through pregnancy (even lowers the risk of miscarriage), but should be discontinued during the final trimester. Because it is most effective if you continue to take it I plan on taking until I have a bfp and then weaning off of it from there. I will probably go down to one pill a day for a week, then one pill every other day for a week, then one pill every few days, and then discontinue.
Good plan! I'm adopting it for myself. Thank you so much! I'll let you know if I get any side effects from this. I'm not starting it until AF arrives, which if like the last 2 months will be tomorrow late afternoon/early evening.

Me: I forgot to mention my next 4 days are NUTS with it being world BF week so I will not be on as much as normal.

[Olerica]

Welcome home! I missed you!

grin: I missed you too!
I take 2 750mg capsules a day, but my pituitary gland was really malfunctioning. I was not Oing at all until I was on it for about a month both times. I think that 2 capsules of 400mg should be sufficient for you, but can you have your dh muscle test with you to be sure? That is how I found the dosage. I also then do some muscle testing every once in a while to be sure the dosage is still right.

I, also, read through tons of research to try to find out why vitex was considered unsafe during pregnancy, and I only found one study on lab mice. They did show that there was a deformity in the mice with continued high doses of vitex. According to Susan Weed it is safe through pregnancy (even lowers the risk of miscarriage), but should be discontinued during the final trimester. Because it is most effective if you continue to take it I plan on taking until I have a bfp and then weaning off of it from there. I will probably go down to one pill a day for a week, then one pill every other day for a week, then one pill every few days, and then discontinue.

Ok so I've got tons of questions about this and I've been googling it to death and finding such conflicting answers! My bottle says take 2-3 capsules (each capsule is 400mg) per day for 8-12 weeks, then take 1 capsule daily for as long as needed. Is this what you guys did/do? I'm going to only take 2 capsules per day to start, as my cycle isn't horribly messed up, I just need a longer LP and if it takes away my PMS completely all the better. Also do you take it your whole cycle or only until you O? I ask b/c in bold letters on the bottle it says DO NOT TAKE WHILE PREGNANT. If you take it the whole month do you cold turkey it when you get a BFP? or wean off it, and if so how do you wean off it and when? Sorry so many questions! I just want to get this right. I'll give this a couple of months (unless I get a nasty reaction like the RRL) and then try the Macca if I'm not preggers before. I want to trial them separately. Also I was just thinking I think I'd really like to get pregnant this month or next I think if I got pregnant in October and had a July EDD again that would REALLY freak me out!
I take 1 400 mg capsule a day too. I've been taking it since January, but I forgot it on my trip, so I've decided to see how this cycle goes without it. If my LP is over 10 days, I may discontinue, but I've not decided yet.

[jmo]

I'm pretty much freaking out at this point. I had 3 days of numbness, where I just functioned without really thinking about it. Today I'm convinced that I'm going to miscarry. I don't really have a reason why, except that I'm not very symptomatic. My boobs are just starting to get sore, mostly when I poke them. ("then stop poking them", my husband says) I just have to keep telling myself that I'm only 4 weeks 2 days and it's normal, but I dont' really believe that. I go to the bathroom just so I can wipe and see if there's blood. So far I'm lucky. I can't help but wonder if it will last.
:Hug, sky. I am right there with....running to the bathroom every five mins to check for blood. All my m/c's have been much later than this too so it makes no sense! Ahhh....it's enough to drive you crazy, though, huh? If it makes you feel any better I'm only 4w3d and I don't have any symptoms either.


skybluepink02- no symptoms here yet either (my edb is 4/9/09 what's yours?)
hey! we have the same due date --4/9/09 too!!:joy:

I Me: I was very productive today, yay me. I started feeling better about getting this procedure done and being pregnant again. Then AF started on CD24. I'm so pissed.
kimberly, sorry about the short cycle. What's up w/ that? Have they been short since the last m/c?

The higher dosage is new, which is why there is suddenly problem. But we fixed it last night, lol.

Can anyway take a look at my chart and tell me if it tells you anything? I know there are temps missing, so its all I have to work with right now, lol.
Yay for "fixing" it!!!!:thumb I agree w/ e/o else that you may have O'd yesterday - make sure to get a temp tomorrow so we can confirm!


Feeling terrified and paranoid over here. I was feeling rather positive a few days ago but now I'm back to sick w/ worry. What the hell will I do if this one doesn't work out? 4 m/c's?....I guess I'll have to quit. Oy, the positivity abounds.:eyesroll

[Mama-Ana]

Wow :bigeyes I spent the weekend helping dh build a fence and look at what I missed! Hello to everyone and as a few of you mentioned, thanks for being such great listeners. It's so nice to talk to so many understanding and supportive women. :Hug


I looked for blood for the first few months when I was pregnant too, and no previous miscarriages or anything to warrant that. I just didn't quite believe it would stick (I guess that gut feeling was right) at 12 weeks I had *just* started to relax, and then the sad u/s showing that my gut had been right. I had no idea that you could not miscarry for that long (a month) so I was pretty shocked.


This was my last miscarriage. I was one day shy of 12 weeks, started spotting, ultrasound found a baby who had died at 9 weeks, then I waited another week and finally couldn't mentally deal knowing that I had had a dead baby inside me for 4 weeks and had the D&C. :hug

Seafox and Amy: This was my situation also. All was fine, a little spotting but only after sex so I never worried. Then at 12 weeks, no hb and had died just after my first ultrasound at 8 weeks. I was amazed that it had been in there so long as well. It's odd that we had such similar experiences but I guess that just goes to show you how common it is. Though that doesn't really make me feel better. I'll be extra worried around 8 weeks next time, that seems to be a very important time. But before I had no idea anything was wrong... man, it's depressing and scary. :(

I'm due on 4/10/09 so we're right about the same spot. I usually start feeling sick to my tummy at 5 weeks or so and full on M/S at 6 weeks. I know it's too early to feel anything, but I'm anxious to feel something. I've never made it past 6.5 weeks, so that will be a big turning point for me. Hopefully Progesterone will do the trick and baby will stick.

I know I need to stay calm. I thought I was doing pretty good, until now. I'm going to meditate a while and try to calm myself down. Maybe walk in the national park.

But you're so right. Stress is not going to make this baby stick. Probably the opposite. So I'll try to calm down. What will happen, will happen and nothing I can do or think will change it either way.


hey! we have the same due date --4/9/09 too!!:joy:

skybluepink , jmo & JenMidwife: congrats and :twothumbs 3 of you with practically the same due date! There is hope for all of us! Skybluepink - try to stay calm and think good thoughts. Going for walks helps me relax and get out of my head for a while, I hope it helps you too (that's usually when I talk to my belly, it helps me though I might look a bit silly).


I don't think AF is due until WEDNESDAY and I'm already starting to bleed. I HATE MY UTERUS!
And I was starting to feel good about TTC and being pregnant again. My damned body.

Labortrials - I'm sorry! Our bodies are amazing "machines" but sometimes it's so frustrating that we have so little control over them. I hope next month is better for you... :)

Me - well... I'm tired from building the fence and staying up to late last night! :yawning: I o'ed on the 28th or 29th (I'm still figuring this charting thing out - my temp went up slowly: 97.5, 97.7, 97.9, so which day was the real ov??) and I should know if it worked out on the 12th or 13th. So, I'm just waiting and trying not to think about it too much...
Sending everyone :goodvibes: good vibes!

[BlissfullyLoving]

Me: I forgot to mention my next 4 days are NUTS with it being world BF week so I will not be on as much as normal. Have fun! I will be thinking of you!


Feeling terrified and paranoid over here. I was feeling rather positive a few days ago but now I'm back to sick w/ worry. What the hell will I do if this one doesn't work out? 4 m/c's?....I guess I'll have to quit. Oy, the positivity abounds.:eyesroll :hug


Me - well... I'm tired from building the fence and staying up to late last night! :yawning: I o'ed on the 28th or 29th (I'm still figuring this charting thing out - my temp went up slowly: 97.5, 97.7, 97.9, so which day was the real ov??) and I should know if it worked out on the 12th or 13th. So, I'm just waiting and trying not to think about it too much...
Sending everyone :goodvibes: good vibes! Do you have a chart to link to? I am very visual, and I am having a hard time visualizing it.

[ScootchsMom]

Amy - I'm taking Vitex too I only take 1 400 mg capsule a day which has been enough to regulate me. Once I get a BFP I think I'm going to skip to 1 every other day for a week to slowly wean off of it. Someone mentioned Susan Weed's stance on it, which is that you can continue it safely through the first and second trimester, but I try not to take anything when pg and won't feel right taking it that long. I didn't have progesterone issues before the miscarriage and I had a blighted ovum, so I don't think my body is incapable of sustaining a pregnancy without it. The progesterone problems didn't start until after the miscarriage and it seems to be pretty regulated now, with only 2-3 months of the Vitex.

I feel miserable today, I think I'm getting a cold :( It got pretty chilly here last night and we slept with the window open, so now I have a sore throat and I'm sneezing like crazy. My builders are late too, which is irking me beyond all belief!

It looks to me like I o'd on the 12th, so now I can do my happy dance, lol.

[BlissfullyLoving]

I feel miserable today, I think I'm getting a cold :( It got pretty chilly here last night and we slept with the window open, so now I have a sore throat and I'm sneezing like crazy. My builders are late too, which is irking me beyond all belief!

It looks to me like I o'd on the 12th, so now I can do my happy dance, lol.:hug Sorry you are feeling bad. Could it be allergies?

Yay for definite O! I will do a happy dance with you- :joy: :banana: :carrot: :broc: :jumpers: :jumpers: :banana: :carrot: :broc: :joy:

[Mama-Ana]

Do you have a chart to link to? I am very visual, and I am having a hard time visualizing it.

Bliss: I scanned my chart for this month (I thought I could attach an image here, oops. I was able to upload it to some webspace I have from a college class... he he he)http://web.pdx.edu/~tomblina/AnaChartJulyAug08.jpg
I started late so there isn't a lot to go on. I also have some outlier temps because I take it at different times each day... Hopefully you can see what I think is the trend... I think I ov. day 14/15. I'd love your help with this! Thanks. :love



I feel miserable today, I think I'm getting a cold :( It got pretty chilly here last night and we slept with the window open, so now I have a sore throat and I'm sneezing like crazy. My builders are late too, which is irking me beyond all belief!

It looks to me like I o'd on the 12th, so now I can do my happy dance, lol.

ScootchsMom: I'm sorry you're feeling sick... the weather has been terrible here too. We refuse to close our bedroom window because it's August! Even though we need more blankets and walk around our house in slippers and wearing fleeces. I hope the builders come soon. Having contractors do work on your house can be pretty frustrating sometimes, they don't seem to understand schedules and being on time.
Yippee you o'd! :joy:

[MommyinMN]

I feel miserable today, I think I'm getting a cold :( It got pretty chilly here last night and we slept with the window open, so now I have a sore throat and I'm sneezing like crazy. My builders are late too, which is irking me beyond all belief!

It looks to me like I o'd on the 12th, so now I can do my happy dance, lol.

I am so sorry you aren't feeling well. I hope you feel better soon.

I

Me: I was very productive today, yay me. I started feeling better about getting this procedure done and being pregnant again. Then AF started on CD24. I'm so pissed.


That sucks. I am sorry AF came early. It seems like whenever I get comfortable with my cycle I get thrown a curveball too.



Also looks like we've had a few additions: MsCellaneous, SkyFox, and MommyinMN welcome to the group. (MommyinMN, I'm in MN too.)


I have been in MN for almost 3 years now. Completely different from where I grew up, but it is starting to feel like home.



It is a little hard for me to jump into this thread. It almost feels like I am listening in on a group of old friends. I am thinking about all of you and your struggles though and look forward to celebrating happy times with you all.

As for us... Last night Dh and I decided to go ahead and try next cycle. We are both scared but ready. So now I am just waiting for AF (should be 3 or 4 days) to come so the next cycle can begin.

[BlissfullyLoving]

Bliss: I scanned my chart for this month (I thought I could attach an image here, oops. I was able to upload it to some webspace I have from a college class... he he he)http://web.pdx.edu/~tomblina/AnaChartJulyAug08.jpg
I started late so there isn't a lot to go on. I also have some outlier temps because I take it at different times each day... Hopefully you can see what I think is the trend... I think I ov. day 14/15. I'd love your help with this! Thanks. :love Hmmm, I am thinking cd 12 or 13. Let's see what the expert chart reviewers think.

Sorry to cause you to do extra work...it definitely helped to see it though.


It is a little hard for me to jump into this thread. It almost feels like I am listening in on a group of old friends. I am thinking about all of you and your struggles though and look forward to celebrating happy times with you all.

As for us... Last night Dh and I decided to go ahead and try next cycle. We are both scared but ready. So now I am just waiting for AF (should be 3 or 4 days) to come so the next cycle can begin. :dust for this cycle.

Where were you from before MN?

Please jump in. You will be a part of the "old group of friends" in no time. I remember feeling the exact same way when I first came in here. Slowly I became more active and realized that I was no longer a spectator to the group, but actually part of the group. (It took me a while because of my own insecurities.) I wholeheartedly believe that the biggest gift that came from my loss was this group of women...I am thankful my baby gave me that. We welcome you here, and invite you to submerge yourself to your comfort level. I am happy you are here to join us. :love

me: Dh and I are going to NYC today to see a show. I am a bit nervous because it is a part of the city that I have never been to before. I always feel intimidated doing the unfamiliar. I know we will have a great time. It is also dh and my 11 year anniversary since our first date. Hopefully I will O soon too! I am feeling better, and I welcoming the good feelings.

[ScootchsMom]

I am so sorry you aren't feeling well. I hope you feel better soon.



It is a little hard for me to jump into this thread. It almost feels like I am listening in on a group of old friends. I am thinking about all of you and your struggles though and look forward to celebrating happy times with you all.

As for us... Last night Dh and I decided to go ahead and try next cycle. We are both scared but ready. So now I am just waiting for AF (should be 3 or 4 days) to come so the next cycle can begin.

Thanks :) Don't feel weird, just jump right in, lol. (I felt the same way when I first started coming here back in February.)

I'm glad you and your DH made a decision. I hope AF shows for you soon and you can get on with the BD'ing!

mama-ana yeah its freezing here, lol. I had to put the heat on this morning in the bathroom, the floor was like stepping on an ice cube! Supposed to go up again tomorrow, but I'm actually enjoying this weather. I LOVE the fall, its my favorite time of year, so this is like a nice preview of it for me.

Bliss I don't think its my allergies flaring up. I have that wonky in the head feeling and my stomach is doing flip flops. I'm going to take some vitamin c, that usually helps me kick a cold before it gets a good hold on me.

[BlissfullyLoving]

Bliss I don't think its my allergies flaring up. I have that wonky in the head feeling and my stomach is doing flip flops. I'm going to take some vitamin c, that usually helps me kick a cold before it gets a good hold on me.
:hug Oh that stinks. In my experience, vit C will definitely help clear it up before anymore symptoms arise.

[heatherh]

Mama-Ana - I'm thinking 12 or 13, too. Pretty sure by CD13 at least.

me: Dh and I are going to NYC today to see a show.I :love NYC! Happy anniversary!

[BlissfullyLoving]

Mama-Ana - I'm thinking 12 or 13, too. Pretty sure by CD13 at least.

I :love NYC! Happy anniversary!
Thanks...yeah me too. I am looking forward to visiting a part of the city I have never been to before.

[Olerica]

I have been in MN for almost 3 years now. Completely different from where I grew up, but it is starting to feel like home.
I'm a native, but I've lived elsewhere and can understand. MN is weird, most aren't too open to people that they've not known for YEARS. Glad that it's feeling like home for you now. Are you close to the Twin Cities? I'm just south of the MOA.



It is a little hard for me to jump into this thread. It almost feels like I am listening in on a group of old friends. I am thinking about all of you and your struggles though and look forward to celebrating happy times with you all.

As for us... Last night Dh and I decided to go ahead and try next cycle. We are both scared but ready. So now I am just waiting for AF (should be 3 or 4 days) to come so the next cycle can begin.
:dust: for the next cycle. I felt the same way about jumping in here. Most of the ladies who were here when I started in December are gone (yea!) but soon you will feel like "one of us". Feel free to comment on anything.

me: Dh and I are going to NYC today to see a show. I am a bit nervous because it is a part of the city that I have never been to before. I always feel intimidated doing the unfamiliar. I know we will have a great time. It is also dh and my 11 year anniversary since our first date. Hopefully I will O soon too! I am feeling better, and I welcoming the good feelings.
I'm so glad that you are feeling better, my dear. Have a WONDERFUL time tonight, and congratulations on 11 years! :joy: Are you going anywere cool for dinner??

Me: Just hanging out, waiting to O.

[Mama-Ana]

It is a little hard for me to jump into this thread. It almost feels like I am listening in on a group of old friends. I am thinking about all of you and your struggles though and look forward to celebrating happy times with you all.

As for us... Last night Dh and I decided to go ahead and try next cycle. We are both scared but ready. So now I am just waiting for AF (should be 3 or 4 days) to come so the next cycle can begin.

MommyinMN - I just joined the group last month and feel the same way. I'm slowly posting more. It helps to have other new people join also. :) Asking these knowledgeable women questions has helped me "get into" the group. Everyone is really supportive and helpful. Good luck next cycle! :thumb

Hmmm, I am thinking cd 12 or 13. Let's see what the expert chart reviewers think.

Sorry to cause you to do extra work...it definitely helped to see it though.

me: Dh and I are going to NYC today to see a show. I am a bit nervous because it is a part of the city that I have never been to before. I always feel intimidated doing the unfamiliar. I know we will have a great time. It is also dh and my 11 year anniversary since our first date. Hopefully I will O soon too! I am feeling better, and I welcoming the good feelings.

Bliss - Happy Anniversary! (I celebrated my 10 year a week ago). I'm glad you are feeling good. :love
Thanks for checking out my chart (it was no problem to put it up). It helps to have another opinion.

Mama-Ana - I'm thinking 12 or 13, too. Pretty sure by CD13 at least.


Heather - thanks! I guess I was looking at the days the temp jumped instead of the time just before the jump. Dh and I were "busy" :wink both those days, somehow that worked out. Now I've just got to wait. I won't be surprised if it doesn't work though, it seems like it would take a little longer for my body to get back to normal but I'm still hopeful. :D

[Amydoula]

grin: I missed you too!



I take 1 400 mg capsule a day too. I've been taking it since January, but I forgot it on my trip, so I've decided to see how this cycle goes without it. If my LP is over 10 days, I may discontinue, but I've not decided yet.
I'm thinking I'll try just the one capsule too, based on what you and Scoots have said, and then increase as needed.

:Hug, sky. I am right there with....running to the bathroom every five mins to check for blood. All my m/c's have been much later than this too so it makes no sense! Ahhh....it's enough to drive you crazy, though, huh? If it makes you feel any better I'm only 4w3d and I don't have any symptoms either.


hey! we have the same due date --4/9/09 too!!:joy:


kimberly, sorry about the short cycle. What's up w/ that? Have they been short since the last m/c?


Yay for "fixing" it!!!!:thumb I agree w/ e/o else that you may have O'd yesterday - make sure to get a temp tomorrow so we can confirm!


Feeling terrified and paranoid over here. I was feeling rather positive a few days ago but now I'm back to sick w/ worry. What the hell will I do if this one doesn't work out? 4 m/c's?....I guess I'll have to quit. Oy, the positivity abounds.:eyesroll
:hug

Wow :bigeyes I spent the weekend helping dh build a fence and look at what I missed! Hello to everyone and as a few of you mentioned, thanks for being such great listeners. It's so nice to talk to so many understanding and supportive women. :Hug





Seafox and Amy: This was my situation also. All was fine, a little spotting but only after sex so I never worried. Then at 12 weeks, no hb and had died just after my first ultrasound at 8 weeks. I was amazed that it had been in there so long as well. It's odd that we had such similar experiences but I guess that just goes to show you how common it is. Though that doesn't really make me feel better. I'll be extra worried around 8 weeks next time, that seems to be a very important time. But before I had no idea anything was wrong... man, it's depressing and scary. :(





skybluepink , jmo & JenMidwife: congrats and :twothumbs 3 of you with practically the same due date! There is hope for all of us! Skybluepink - try to stay calm and think good thoughts. Going for walks helps me relax and get out of my head for a while, I hope it helps you too (that's usually when I talk to my belly, it helps me though I might look a bit silly).




Labortrials - I'm sorry! Our bodies are amazing "machines" but sometimes it's so frustrating that we have so little control over them. I hope next month is better for you... :)

Me - well... I'm tired from building the fence and staying up to late last night! :yawning: I o'ed on the 28th or 29th (I'm still figuring this charting thing out - my temp went up slowly: 97.5, 97.7, 97.9, so which day was the real ov??) and I should know if it worked out on the 12th or 13th. So, I'm just waiting and trying not to think about it too much...
Sending everyone :goodvibes: good vibes!
Temping can be tricky that's why I OPK

Amy - I'm taking Vitex too I only take 1 400 mg capsule a day which has been enough to regulate me. Once I get a BFP I think I'm going to skip to 1 every other day for a week to slowly wean off of it. Someone mentioned Susan Weed's stance on it, which is that you can continue it safely through the first and second trimester, but I try not to take anything when pg and won't feel right taking it that long. I didn't have progesterone issues before the miscarriage and I had a blighted ovum, so I don't think my body is incapable of sustaining a pregnancy without it. The progesterone problems didn't start until after the miscarriage and it seems to be pretty regulated now, with only 2-3 months of the Vitex.

I feel miserable today, I think I'm getting a cold :( It got pretty chilly here last night and we slept with the window open, so now I have a sore throat and I'm sneezing like crazy. My builders are late too, which is irking me beyond all belief!

It looks to me like I o'd on the 12th, so now I can do my happy dance, lol.
Feel better! I'm going to start with the 1 capsule too based on what you and Olerica have said. My cycles are not crazy messed up I just would like a longer than 11 day LP

I am so sorry you aren't feeling well. I hope you feel better soon.




That sucks. I am sorry AF came early. It seems like whenever I get comfortable with my cycle I get thrown a curveball too.




I have been in MN for almost 3 years now. Completely different from where I grew up, but it is starting to feel like home.



It is a little hard for me to jump into this thread. It almost feels like I am listening in on a group of old friends. I am thinking about all of you and your struggles though and look forward to celebrating happy times with you all.

As for us... Last night Dh and I decided to go ahead and try next cycle. We are both scared but ready. So now I am just waiting for AF (should be 3 or 4 days) to come so the next cycle can begin.
Good luck!

Hmmm, I am thinking cd 12 or 13. Let's see what the expert chart reviewers think.

Sorry to cause you to do extra work...it definitely helped to see it though.

:dust for this cycle.

Where were you from before MN?

Please jump in. You will be a part of the "old group of friends" in no time. I remember feeling the exact same way when I first came in here. Slowly I became more active and realized that I was no longer a spectator to the group, but actually part of the group. (It took me a while because of my own insecurities.) I wholeheartedly believe that the biggest gift that came from my loss was this group of women...I am thankful my baby gave me that. We welcome you here, and invite you to submerge yourself to your comfort level. I am happy you are here to join us. :love

me: Dh and I are going to NYC today to see a show. I am a bit nervous because it is a part of the city that I have never been to before. I always feel intimidated doing the unfamiliar. I know we will have a great time. It is also dh and my 11 year anniversary since our first date. Hopefully I will O soon too! I am feeling better, and I welcoming the good feelings.
Happy Anniversary! Have fun! We have our 11th wedding anniversary this December.

Me: no AF but a BFN. I'm relieved that she should show up tomorrow so its my regular 11 day LP and not some crazy really short LP (I O'ed a bit late). I started the one vitex pill today too after the BFN. Off to yoga!

[Mama-Ana]

:scratch Since I'm a newbie I need a little help with the acronyms. Some I can sort of figure out based on context but I still don't know what they really stand for. Can anyone give me a breakdown or list??
DH = dear or darling husband
DS - DD = dear son and dear daughter
AF = ? (your period)
BFN = ?
LP = ?
OPK = ovulation prediction kit

Any others that are used a lot?

Thanks for filling me in! :D

[Amydoula]

:scratch Since I'm a newbie I need a little help with the acronyms. Some I can sort of figure out based on context but I still don't know what they really stand for. Can anyone give me a breakdown or list??
DH = dear or darling husband
DS - DD = dear son and dear daughter
AF = ? (your period)
BFN = ?
LP = ?
OPK = ovulation prediction kit

Any others that are used a lot?

Thanks for filling me in! :D
BFN equals big fat negative, meaning you aren't pregnant. LP equals luteal phase, all the others you've got correct:)

[momoftworedheads]

Wow, this thread is hopping for only being the 4th of August!

jmo, skybluepink and JenMidwife - CONGRATS!!!!!
A very H&H 9 months with big beautiful babies to love on!
This is the start of an exciting time!!!!!

Kimberly - sorry that AF came early! ARRGH!

Amydoula - Hope everything is going well for you today!

Welcome to all who are new! Lots of love and hugs to each of you!!!!!

Well, I saw the RE today, I have three "good" follicles on the right ovary and one on the left ovary. My LH, progestone and estrogen all look good. I'll take Ovadrel tomorrow evening and then BD for the next 3 days. Then I get to go and get prog. supplements to take for a while. The RE and his staff all said this is "the month". My RE was actually funny today, he said "we are going to get pg this month, ok." Like he has control over it - seriously!


Love and hugs to all!

Jen

[Prism]

Hello gals.

I haven't posted since I left the January due date club. I've felt so lost on these boards, sometimes lurking on above ddc to see how my old buddies were doing, or looking for somewhere to connect. It's been so hard, I cry too hard when I read anyones m/c stories in general, especially if they are "worse" than mine.

Here's me: I am 39 w two healthy beautiful kids, ages 3 and 5. We had an "OOPs" pg in april that I went from, "oh-my-gosh-this-is-the-worst-thing- ever" to "oh-my-gosh-this-is-the-best-thing-ever" within two months. I m/c'd on the day I hit 13 wks after spotting most of the 12th wk. I hemmoraged and "went towards the light' so to speak for a while there.

Anyway, AF came one the one month anniversary of my m/c, and last night we "did the deed" so I guess I'm in the waiting to know category.

Because of my age and the age of my kids I've rushed into this. I know I am following alot of the "replacement baby" aspects of healing that I've read about.
I know if it doesn't happen this month I will probably count my blessings and close up shop so to speak.
I am so scared both ways. Times are bad over here. DH will be losing his job soon, I will have to go back to work full time, etc. A baby will be so much work and so much money, but so much fun and love.
I feel like I'm going crazy with all the facets of the situation, and I know nothing about LP's and CD's or any of the things some of you are talking about. It blows my mind. Hugs to all of you for working so hard.
Love Prism

[ScootchsMom]

Well, I saw the RE today, I have three "good" follicles on the right ovary and one on the left ovary. My LH, progestone and estrogen all look good. I'll take Ovadrel tomorrow evening and then BD for the next 3 days. Then I get to go and get prog. supplements to take for a while. The RE and his staff all said this is "the month". My RE was actually funny today, he said "we are going to get pg this month, ok." Like he has control over it - seriously!

That is funny, lol. Good luck this month!

Hello gals.

Welcome. I'm very sorry for your loss. :hug It is a great group here.

Me - If any one wants a laugh, look at my chart. I woke up with a fever this am, 99.9, and it makes my chart look pretty weird, though it did give me cross hairs, lol. I think I'm delirious.

[apmama2myboo]

just popping in to say a quick Welcome to all the newbies. I'm sorry you're joining us but you will not find a nicer group of women out there. The support here is amazing!

i have a busy week going on but wanted to give :hugs to skyblue, and kimberly, and anyone else that is having a hard time. I am on cd21 and waiting. not expecting anything this month because we were not very serious in our efforts, but next month I have an OPK to try out so we'll give it a good try again. I have 3 of my paintings in the gallery up in Mpls and am hoping one of them sells, as we have a pact that if one sells we can get a puppy and dd is 4yo and begging all the time, and I want one too :) dh is lukewarm but he's not the one who has to train it, so he'll tolerate it. I think he'll even get attached to it despite himself lol. I also thought, the perfect time to get a puppy is before I get pg and have lots of time for it, and that maybe if i get one, i'll get pg because that would be the most "inconvenient" time for it to happen (not that there is such a thing as inconvenient timing when it comes to getting pg anymore!)

my dh's cousin is expecting in march now so i'm jealous about that but managing. I know it sounds petty and mean, but she's already got her almost 2yo in daycare and this one will end up there and it makes me mad that here i am, SAHM who would devote her life to another baby, not put them in daycare, and i'm having such a hard time :( to make matters more irritating, I know I am healthier and in better shape and everything than this lady and I work out 5-6 days a week and eat well, and here i am, no baby. *sigh* that's my pity party for the day. sorry to bum anyone out :(

hope you all have a good day and get lots done and catch those eggs! Let's see more bfp's, i need some fresh hope, mamas! I'll be back later this afternoon to check back in. Hope you're all doing well!

[Olerica]

Well, I saw the RE today, I have three "good" follicles on the right ovary and one on the left ovary. My LH, progestone and estrogen all look good. I'll take Ovadrel tomorrow evening and then BD for the next 3 days. Then I get to go and get prog. supplements to take for a while. The RE and his staff all said this is "the month". My RE was actually funny today, he said "we are going to get pg this month, ok." Like he has control over it - seriously!

Hey RedJen, I LOVED that your RE has so much confidence! How refreshing!
Hello gals.

I haven't posted since I left the January due date club. I've felt so lost on these boards, sometimes lurking on above ddc to see how my old buddies were doing, or looking for somewhere to connect. It's been so hard, I cry too hard when I read anyones m/c stories in general, especially if they are "worse" than mine.

Here's me: I am 39 w two healthy beautiful kids, ages 3 and 5. We had an "OOPs" pg in april that I went from, "oh-my-gosh-this-is-the-worst-thing- ever" to "oh-my-gosh-this-is-the-best-thing-ever" within two months. I m/c'd on the day I hit 13 wks after spotting most of the 12th wk. I hemmoraged and "went towards the light' so to speak for a while there.

Anyway, AF came one the one month anniversary of my m/c, and last night we "did the deed" so I guess I'm in the waiting to know category.

Because of my age and the age of my kids I've rushed into this. I know I am following alot of the "replacement baby" aspects of healing that I've read about.
I know if it doesn't happen this month I will probably count my blessings and close up shop so to speak.
I am so scared both ways. Times are bad over here. DH will be losing his job soon, I will have to go back to work full time, etc. A baby will be so much work and so much money, but so much fun and love.
I feel like I'm going crazy with all the facets of the situation, and I know nothing about LP's and CD's or any of the things some of you are talking about. It blows my mind. Hugs to all of you for working so hard.
Love Prism
:Hug Prism :Hug I'm so sorry that you are having a rough time. I can understand where you are coming from. I'm 38, but I'm still working on my first. I just wanted to send you a welcome and another :Hug
Me - If any one wants a laugh, look at my chart. I woke up with a fever this am, 99.9, and it makes my chart look pretty weird, though it did give me cross hairs, lol. I think I'm delirious.
Your chart is a bit wacadoo! But, I have to admit that I would give you cross hairs too. Do you normally O right around this date? Sorry for the illness and fever. Hope you feel better soon!
I am on cd21 and waiting. not expecting anything this month because we were not very serious in our efforts, but next month I have an OPK to try out so we'll give it a good try again. I have 3 of my paintings in the gallery up in Mpls and am hoping one of them sells, as we have a pact that if one sells we can get a puppy and dd is 4yo and begging all the time, and I want one too :) dh is lukewarm but he's not the one who has to train it, so he'll tolerate it. I think he'll even get attached to it despite himself lol. I also thought, the perfect time to get a puppy is before I get pg and have lots of time for it, and that maybe if i get one, i'll get pg because that would be the most "inconvenient" time for it to happen (not that there is such a thing as inconvenient timing when it comes to getting pg anymore!)

my dh's cousin is expecting in march now so i'm jealous about that but managing. I know it sounds petty and mean, but she's already got her almost 2yo in daycare and this one will end up there and it makes me mad that here i am, SAHM who would devote her life to another baby, not put them in daycare, and i'm having such a hard time :( to make matters more irritating, I know I am healthier and in better shape and everything than this lady and I work out 5-6 days a week and eat well, and here i am, no baby. *sigh* that's my pity party for the day. sorry to bum anyone out :(

hope you all have a good day and get lots done and catch those eggs! Let's see more bfp's, i need some fresh hope, mamas! I'll be back later this afternoon to check back in. Hope you're all doing well!
You have to let me know which gallery you are in (and your name so I can spot your work). I'd love to see it! PM me!

My sister-in-law just had another loss. I didn't even know that she was pregnant (why don't people tell??) Another sister-in-law is pregnant and is due the week before I would have been with my recent roller-coaster. I loved that she was so excited about it (her second pregnancy) and that she didn't feel impeded to share. I was thrilled to be able to be excited for her.

Still waiting to O.

[skybluepink02]

My boobs hurt! I'm so excited! I know it's not much, but it's comforting to have at least one symptom.

[JenMidwife]

Prizm Welcome, I'm so sorry you lost your last baby :Hug So sorry your dh is losing his job :( I sure understand feeling conflicted about a pregnancy. I hope everything works out. :Hug

Well, I saw the RE today, I have three "good" follicles on the right ovary and one on the left ovary. My LH, progestone and estrogen all look good. I'll take Ovadrel tomorrow evening and then BD for the next 3 days. Then I get to go and get prog. supplements to take for a while. The RE and his staff all said this is "the month". My RE was actually funny today, he said "we are going to get pg this month, ok." Like he has control over it - seriously!

Great news! I hope this is the month for you too! :fingersx:

Me Not having many pg symptoms yet (I'll only be 5 weeks on Thurs) but starting to get that "too bloated to eat, but my tummy's rumbling & I'm starving" feeling a lot. So glad to be feeling something! :thumb I'm not going to have serial betas done (since I don't have a history of early loss). Haven't decided about u/s yet... I'm just waiting for more symptoms & trying to chill, 9 months is going to be a looooong time! :wink

One of my best friends had her baby yesterday (my dd was 2 weeks ago today). We had so much fun w/ our twin bellies & fantasizing about our babies growing up together until I lost Owen. She didn't know if she was having a boy or a girl... secretly I hoped she'd have a girl so I wouldn't think about Owen as much when I looked @ her son. But she had a boy. When she called me to tell me (@ my request), I just burst into tears after I hung up the phone. I think it's going to be okay, but man I wish things were different :gloomy:

[Amydoula]

:hug to those having a rough time.
Still no AF....so looks like this will be a nice LP. I guess it is just longer b/c I O'ed a bit later than the last couple of months.

[JenMidwife]

:hug to those having a rough time.
Still no AF....so looks like this will be a nice LP. I guess it is just longer b/c I O'ed a bit later than the last couple of months.

Oh Amy :Hug I'm still holding my breath for you! :fingersx:

[dani76]

Can I be moved to waiting to o please? I've got a week before O, so we'll start dtd every other day. Hoping this is our month, as next month is my due date month for my last loss. Ugh.

[heatherh]

Good to see you, momoftwo! I totally hope your RE is right - at least he's optimistic!

Welcome, Prism. I hope we can be supportive for you!

ScootchsMom - Hope you feel better soon.

Olerica - :hug for your SIL. :(

My boobs hurt! I'm so excited! I know it's not much, but it's comforting to have at least one symptom.Woohooooo!


Me Not having many pg symptoms yet (I'll only be 5 weeks on Thurs) but starting to get that "too bloated to eat, but my tummy's rumbling & I'm starving" feeling a lot. So glad to be feeling something! :thumbYeahhh! And :hug about the friend's baby. That's got to be tough.

Amydoula :fingersx:

dani76 :hug

Trucking along over here. It seems like my body is thinking about Oing so it should be more or less along the "normal" schedule from before the last m/c. I should update FF - I've been totally slacking and how're you guys supposed to stalk if I don't update! he he

[Amydoula]

Wow, this thread is hopping for only being the 4th of August!

jmo, skybluepink and JenMidwife - CONGRATS!!!!!
A very H&H 9 months with big beautiful babies to love on!
This is the start of an exciting time!!!!!

Kimberly - sorry that AF came early! ARRGH!

Amydoula - Hope everything is going well for you today!

Welcome to all who are new! Lots of love and hugs to each of you!!!!!

Well, I saw the RE today, I have three "good" follicles on the right ovary and one on the left ovary. My LH, progestone and estrogen all look good. I'll take Ovadrel tomorrow evening and then BD for the next 3 days. Then I get to go and get prog. supplements to take for a while. The RE and his staff all said this is "the month". My RE was actually funny today, he said "we are going to get pg this month, ok." Like he has control over it - seriously!


Love and hugs to all!

Jen
:fingersx: so hope this is your month too!

[momoftworedheads]

My boobs hurt! I'm so excited! I know it's not much, but it's comforting to have at least one symptom.


So exciting!!!!! I hope you have a lot more symptoms soon!


To heather - I hope this is the month for you too!

Amydoula - still hoping for a BFP for you! :love!

To Kimberly - :hugs and :hugs

JenMidwife - I wish that things were different for you too! :hugs. I had a similar thing happen when I lost Avery. It is still hard to see my friend's little girl and not cry but I am happy for her.
I hope you get more pregnancy symptoms too!!!! This is a take home baby for you mama!

take care all. :hugs to anyone who needs one.

Jen

[momoftworedheads]

Can I please be moved to waiting to O?????

Thanks so much and have a great night!!!

Jen

[Mama-Ana]

So much good news and waiting to O or waiting to find out... I'm feeling some :goodvibes: I hope this is a good month for us all!

momoftworedheads - good luck! :thumb

Prism - I hope things work out for you. :Hug

ScootchsMom - I hope you feel better and your fever goes down. It was fun to see your chart and the huge jump.

apmama2myboo - I feel your pain. My best friend's sister-in-law is pregnant and I know she's not taking care of herself and doing drugs! It makes me so mad that she can be pregnant with no issues and have a baby and I cannot. I should say, not yet. It will happen for us. :)

Olerica - That's too bad that one sister-in-law lost a baby and the other just had one. It must be tough for them but I'm glad you were able to be happy and excited together.

skybluepink02 - Yea! It's a little funny that we get so excited when our boobs hurt! But it's so nice to have a symptom and begin to feel that it's real. :D

JenMidwife - I'm sorry... :Hug I'm sure your friend would understand how the birth brings up a lot of emotions for you... I'm glad you're doing well with this pregnancy so far. Keep us posted. Sending you :goodvibes:

Amydoula - :1praying:

heatherh - :fingersx:

dani76 - good luck this week, hopefully everything will go well

me - still waiting for AF (next week), no news is good news, right. :Hug to everyone.

[BlissfullyLoving]

I'm so glad that you are feeling better, my dear. Have a WONDERFUL time tonight, and congratulations on 11 years! :joy: Are you going anywere cool for dinner??

Me: Just hanging out, waiting to O.No, we did not have time to go out to dinner. We could not find anything we wanted, and we, also, were not willing to get too far away from the theater because we did not have a lot of time. It was a wonderful evening anyway.

:dust for you!


Bliss - Happy Anniversary! (I celebrated my 10 year a week ago). I'm glad you are feeling good. :love
Thanks for checking out my chart (it was no problem to put it up). It helps to have another opinion. Thanks!

Happy Anniversary! Have fun! We have our 11th wedding anniversary this December.

Me: no AF but a BFN. I'm relieved that she should show up tomorrow so its my regular 11 day LP and not some crazy really short LP (I O'ed a bit late). I started the one vitex pill today too after the BFN. Off to yoga!
Still no AF....so looks like this will be a nice LP. I guess it is just longer b/c I O'ed a bit later than the last couple of months.:hug for your bfn, but it is still early. I am still hopeful for you. How is breastfeeding week going?


Well, I saw the RE today, I have three "good" follicles on the right ovary and one on the left ovary. My LH, progestone and estrogen all look good. I'll take Ovadrel tomorrow evening and then BD for the next 3 days. Then I get to go and get prog. supplements to take for a while. The RE and his staff all said this is "the month". My RE was actually funny today, he said "we are going to get pg this month, ok." Like he has control over it - seriously! :fingersx: for this month. Sounds good! :joy:


Here's me: I am 39 w two healthy beautiful kids, ages 3 and 5. We had an "OOPs" pg in april that I went from, "oh-my-gosh-this-is-the-worst-thing- ever" to "oh-my-gosh-this-is-the-best-thing-ever" within two months. I m/c'd on the day I hit 13 wks after spotting most of the 12th wk. I hemmoraged and "went towards the light' so to speak for a while there. Welcome. :hug I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you are entering a huge transitory time in your family with so many possibilities and changes. Sending you many wishes that a baby is part of this new chapter. :dust


Me - If any one wants a laugh, look at my chart. I woke up with a fever this am, 99.9, and it makes my chart look pretty weird, though it did give me cross hairs, lol. I think I'm delirious.:lol I am sorry you are so sick. I hope you are feeling better today.


i have a busy week going on but wanted to give :hugs to skyblue, and kimberly, and anyone else that is having a hard time. I am on cd21 and waiting. not expecting anything this month because we were not very serious in our efforts, but next month I have an OPK to try out so we'll give it a good try again. I have 3 of my paintings in the gallery up in Mpls and am hoping one of them sells, as we have a pact that if one sells we can get a puppy and dd is 4yo and begging all the time, and I want one too :) dh is lukewarm but he's not the one who has to train it, so he'll tolerate it. I think he'll even get attached to it despite himself lol. I also thought, the perfect time to get a puppy is before I get pg and have lots of time for it, and that maybe if i get one, i'll get pg because that would be the most "inconvenient" time for it to happen (not that there is such a thing as inconvenient timing when it comes to getting pg anymore!)

my dh's cousin is expecting in march now so i'm jealous about that but managing. I know it sounds petty and mean, but she's already got her almost 2yo in daycare and this one will end up there and it makes me mad that here i am, SAHM wh