Spoke with midwife yesterday, she thinks I have ppd

[Chic_Mama]

So, I spoke with my midwife yesterday and through the course of our conversation she began to think that I have postpartum depression from the miscarriage. September will mark the one year mark from when I got pregnant with Micah (I lost him in November) and she says that I shouldn't be feeling this way a year later. Has anyone else dealt with this after their m/c? What did you do to correct it? I really don't want to go on medication (and I can't afford it anyway!). Any advice? Stories to relate to?

[turtlewomyn]

My PPD/PTSD was after a full term birth of a healthy baby, but hopefully I can add some insight. I spoke to a counselor for a year and a half to work through my problems. I did not want to be medicated (But that is really an individual choice). You may also be having issues because you are approaching the one year anniversary of the conception and the loss (I had an unwanted c-section and my daughters first birthday was really hard on me). You may be able to find a counselor that will work with you on a payment plan.


I just had a miscarriage two weeks ago. Within a week I called up my former counselor to get some help, and I hope that being proactive has kept this as grief, and not depression. Time will tell though.

[Amydoula]

So sorry you are going through this. :hug I had severe PPD, postpartum anxiety to be exact, after the birth of my DS, because of this I was watched very very closely by the OB that did the D&C, my midwife and my regular family doctor for PPD. They all said it is very very common for women to get it after a miscarriage, stillbirth as well as a live birth. I didn't get it with my miscarriage but wanted to share this info so you know you are normal! When I had it with my son I did a combo of lexapro (SSRI) and therapy. I personally needed both the drugs in combo with the therapy to get better but everyone is different. I hope you can get some relief soon!

[Kayda's Mom]

I am going for acupuncture and it has helped with my mood. The primary reason I am going is to help give my fertility a boost. However I think the doctor treats me more for stress than anything.

Like another poster said...there is grief and there is depression.

My regular doctor explained depression to me as life is full of ups and downs and it is the inability to bounce back up that could be clinical...and even then it may be situational depression.

The solution? That's an individual choice. DH talked to me about medication a few months ago but because we are TTC that is not an option. I am not sure what counselling can do for me as it is something I need to work through on my own??? It's taken 5.5 months for me to feel significantly better after the m/c I had in March. I still cry and have anxiety attacks but they aren't all the time. I also lost my best friend to an aneurysm a year ago Aug 29 and I still feel lost from that. I think these things just take time and nobody can schedule your healing but yourself.

What are your symptoms? Are you functioning? i.e. getting up in the morning and going to work etc.??? Are you eating and taking care of yourself?

I think the first year of any type of loss is the hardest. You are faced with all the firsts.

[railyuh]

While I do think it is totally possibly to have PPD after a m/c, it kind of bothers me that your midwife said you shouldn't be feeling this way. Who is she to say that? You lost a baby, of course you are going to be grieving for that baby a year later, maybe forever. My mom still grieves for the two babies she lost to miscarriage almost 30 years ago.

I guess the difficulty comes in figuring out if you are grieving and sad or if you are depressed. And obviously I can't answer that for you.

:hug: mama, it is a hard road and it is okay to still be feeling grief and loss and sadness.