Just humor me...what are the odds of having a healthy, successful pregnancy after a loss?

[vanessa36]

Lost baby at 12 weeks. Heart stopped day of or day before ultrasound exactly at 12 weeks. I am really anxious to have another go at it, but also very scared of another miscarriage. I am just wondering what the stats are. I know I probably shouldn't be thinking this way, but I can't help but wonder. I'm really, really terrified of another loss. So scared, I'm as reluctant to ttc as I am anxious.

Vanessa

[Amydoula]

Lost baby at 12 weeks. Heart stopped day of or day before ultrasound exactly at 12 weeks. I am really anxious to have another go at it, but also very scared of another miscarriage. I am just wondering what the stats are. I know I probably shouldn't be thinking this way, but I can't help but wonder. I'm really, really terrified of another loss. So scared, I'm as reluctant to ttc as I am anxious.

Vanessa
I'm so sorry for your loss. If you have only had one m/c your risks of a second are no more than for any other pregnancy. The rate goes up once you have had 2 consecutive losses. So your chances of successful pregnancy are pretty good!

[WeasleyMum]

:Hug

Your odds are really, really good after one loss. They're essentially the same as if that loss hadn't happened. Even after 2-3 the odds don't suck too bad, and even after 4, they're supposedly still better than 50-50... although I'm not feeling that way personally. I know how hard it is to believe, but your next pregnancy has every chance of succeeding, even though your last one didn't.

[labortrials]

Well, assuming that there isn't anything wrong with you or your partner, your odds are great. Every woman evidently should expect a loss during their reproductive lives. :(

I'm so sorry you lost your baby at 12 weeks. :Hug
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[Kayda's Mom]

Your odds are very good. Any doctor/midwife will tell you the same thing.
There are many many success stories out there. When I lost our baby I had friends and family tell me that they too had had a loss many years ago before they had their living children. I had no idea. People just don't talk about it.

*hugs*

[mrsfatty]

I had a loss...then a full term baby...then two losses (second of these losses was a second trimester loss)...then a full term baby...then an unconfirmed loss (never got a pregnancy test--but knew I was pregnant and loss that)...

So four losses, two full term babies...

Your odds are good...I don't have any weird disorders or anything--but even if you did, there is still hope...

I'm sorry for your loss.

[jennifer_lc1]

i had a lossat ten wks, had my bb boy 11 months later.

**edit sorry i hit post before i was done lol**

but i will also say that i spent the whole 9 months in fear that something would happen. everytime i went to the bathroom i would swear i would see blood, i never did of course.. but the fear never went away.

i didn't have an uncomplicated pregnancy either, everything was fine until i was 36 weeks. my fluid got high and blood pressure went nuts.

baby was taken out at 39 weeks.. hes perfect though.

its hard to get past the feelings of a mc. good luck to you hon.. and i am sure you will go on to have a healthy full term baby

[east carolina]

Totally good odds! Go for it when you feel up to it. I, too had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, and physically and mentally it took a while for me to pull myself together again, it really threw me for a loop. But I don't for a minute believe that it's diminished my chances of ever getting pregnant.

Big hugs!

[threadbey]

Well, assuming that there isn't anything wrong with you or your partner, your odds are great. Every woman evidently should expect a loss during their reproductive lives. :(



Thank you for putting it this way. I know that it is fairly "normal" especially in the 1st trimester. And I am also starting to learn of more people I know irl who have experienced this and had veritable gaggles of healthy children. But it doesn't help that none of them are in my family. My mother (says the right thing, always :lol) actually looked at me shortly after bringing flowers and giving me a hug and said she was sorry but she didn't really have any experience with this because "We don't do miscarriages in this family." :eyesroll I love her dearly and she's a great mom, but, seriously, says the right thing ALWAYS.