How do we keep doing this?

[WeasleyMum]

After four miscarriages, I can't even pretend to think that getting pregnant would = having a baby. Yes, we're seeing an RE... yes,we have the go-ahead to try, try again. Yes, I'm on progesterone, baby aspirin, vitamins, and fish oil. Mentally, I just can't think that (should we get pregnant this cycle or soon) it will ever be any different than what's already gone down. And yet, I can't stop trying, I just can't. I need to try again, and DH does too. Getting pregnant has been really easy for us so far: twice on the first try, once on the second, once on the third. So dealing with another pregnancy (loss) is highly probable... I just don't know how to keep doing this. We're in the wait-and-see stage now, and it's quite possible that we're pregnant again (I know I O'd (tested), we DTD at the right time) and I just don't know how to deal.

How important is it to believe that a pregnancy is viable? Does thinking thoughts of doom increase the doomish odds? For the last two pregnancies, I promised myself I wouldn't think ahead, wouldn't get too attached or excited, but it didn't work. I would get excited and start thinking ahead, and the pregnancy would fail. For some reason I always start thinking that "this one is the one!", even at 5 weeks. I want to protect myself from that somehow, but I don't know how.

Any help?

[veganmama719]

Mara, I don't have any real advice since I've "only" been through 2 m/c this year. I told myself I wouldn't get excited the second time. But of course I did, especially when I got beyond my first m/c date.

I think the fact that you are getting PG so easily is a great sign. You have to GET PG to SATY PG, KWIM?

But I don't know what to say to you about the possoble pain of going through it again.

We are TTC again too and I jsut don't know how I am going to handle it if we get PG again.

So, sorry I am not much help but big HUGS to you.

[WeasleyMum]

Thanks veganmama. I don't think there's such a thing as "only" when it comes to miscarriages... two is a lot, too.

[turtlewomyn]

I don't have advice, but wanted to offer you :hug and good luck.

[Finding Serenity]

I don't have any advice but can relate to you. :hug My DH and I just talked about this today, if we feel we can go thru another loss after our latest one. We just decided that we aren't going to do anything to prevent pg down the road and I am more than OK with that, even weighing out the risks of another mc.