Early Miscarriage....

[ann_of_loxley]

I was thinking I would wait until I got a period to try again....
But would it hurt if we tried sooner?
I mean...medically...is there a problem there?

And whats this about a possibility of twins? (not something I want, so if there is any possibility there, tell me to wait!)

[turtlewomyn]

I don't know if you are any more likely to end up with twins post miscarriage.

I had an early miscarriage and I had one midwife tell me to go right ahead, another told me to wait three cycles (to make sure body is normalizing, lining had a chance to build up, etc.). My FP also told me to wait three cycles, but another FP friend of mine said she didn't see a reason to wait.

I waited one cycle, and am mid second cycle, I just ovulated and we had sex the day before, so we aren't waiting.

[Quate]

My understanding is that there can be a higher risk of a repeat miscarriage the first cycle. However, I'm not sure that this is true of a very early miscarriage.

And--I'm sorry for your loss.

Incidentally, I miscarried naturally at 11 weeks (though baby had stopped developing at 6) and my doctor told me to wait one cycle.

[MotherMama]

I don't have any specific studies to back up what she said, but my OB had stressed not TTC the very first cycle after the last m/c. I have looked and not actually found anything to prove her words.After the last loss we waited until I had a good chart, me thinking that meant I was totally ready, and we ended up with another loss. I am really scooting over to the 'follow your heart' bench on when to try again. If you feel mentally prepared to give it go and there isn't any actual proof that waiting benefits you then why not?

[zejh]

I was thinking I would wait until I got a period to try again....
But would it hurt if we tried sooner?
I mean...medically...is there a problem there?

And whats this about a possibility of twins? (not something I want, so if there is any possibility there, tell me to wait!)

Hi--we seem to be in exactly the same boat here (I remember you from the May09 ddc)...

I was reading that the only reason to wait is that dating can be a bit tricky without a proper LMP, but I know that with my normal regular cycles, the basic LMP+40 weeks wouldn't have been accurate, anyway... I don't want to be reckless, certainly, but still, I haven't found any information that makes me think there's any real problem... And, more to the point, my doctor didn't say anything specifically about *when* I should try again, which I figure means whenever I'm ready.

(And, yeah, I suppose the possibility of twins popped in my mind, too... no idea how likely that would be... We'd deal if that happened, of course, but it's not something I'm seeking out, not for the first birth, certainly...)

[Julia'sMom]

Well, I just had a miscarriage/d&c at 12 weeks. The midwife suggested I don't try for 60 days (due to low iron level due to the loss of blood). She said it was mainly to rebuild my bodies reserves since I'm still nursing and the pregnancy/miscarriage was hard on my body. However, she said there is no medical reason to wait that long. We're going to see how we feel emotionally when the time comes. I'd suggest it is one of those things where you need to follow your heart and try to not have any regrets. :hug

[Ms. Cellaneous]

My doctor told me "the standard advice is to wait at least one cycle, but really, it's up to you. It's all about when you're emotionally ready." Man I really liked that doctor. I think that unless there's a specific medical reason (ie blood loss) there's not really a medical reason to wait.

[SarahDC]

My OB had us wait until my beta HCG levels were zero. She told me that the 2 cycles thing comes from before advanced ultrasounds, when they couldn't accurately date early pregnancies, so they needed to know when you conceived. I am just recently at zero though, and I've had what I think have been 2 periods (irregular).

[lovbeingamommy]

Hi Ann - I remember you from May DDC too!! I'm in the same position also, except just a lot older than you :lol

My OB said to wait two cycles for the purpose of the uterine lining to build back up and be able to carry again. Midwife said basically about the same thing.

For me though, I'm waiting three cycles because I'm going to give my body a chance to replenish itself and for me to be as healthy as I possibly can. I'm working with my midwife, exclusively, this time to insure that happens.

Good luck to you, Ann, and I hope to be in a DDC again with you soon. :hug

Kate

[ann_of_loxley]

Well we decided to try again right away but this cycle seems to be a no O cycle anyhow so I will just have to wait until I get a period anyhow!!!...ugh

I just want a baby!!!!!!!!!!

[threadbey]

My midwives said to wait one cycle, but they also said there was no real problem with conceiving before I get a period. They have had women do that and have normal healthy pregnancies. I'm going to ask them about the hcg levels and uterine lining after reading this thread, though. I really want to be pregnant again (and get past the 9 week mark where I was this time) as soon as possible, but I also don't want to do anything to jeopardize the next pregnancy. I think it would be much much harder for me to deal with a second loss (not to mention DH). But it also just doesn't sound like there's any evidence that waiting longer would be helpful. :( And I hate to contemplate buying and using condoms for the first time for either of us :gross (I can't think of a better temporary bc method in this situation - I had an IUD before ttc this time).

Good luck. I think follow your heart is excellent advice.

[soc]

Sorry for your loss.

I had a natural m/c at 5wks on 9th October. This is my first cycle after it happened.
DH & I decided that seeing as the m/c occurred naturally, we'd start trying once I'd completely finished bleeding.

You can check out my chart in my signature.

[Sanguine]

One of the things I've been thinking about (I'm planning on waiting through 2 cycles) is how I would feel emotionally and physically if (God forbid) I miscarried in the next pregnancy.
I have a good friend who had an early loss, got pregnant in the next cycle, and miscarried again. I'm not saying it was because she got pregnant again so soon, but it was very hard for her emotionally to deal with another loss in just another few months. I certainly hope I won't miscarry again, but I know it would be devastating for my body and heart to go through that again so soon. I'm spending these couple of months eating really well, trying to rest, grieving, and trying to build myself back up.
Good luck, whenever you decide to try again!

[JayJay]

I'm doing the same - in terms of healing. Taking lots of vitamins, iron, e, c, fish oil, zinc and stuff...I want to be on my best form the nest time I get pregnant. I was in good shape last time too but I have to build up again now - Josie's little brother or sister is going to get the best "me" possible, same as Josie.

Good luck Ann - you will get your little one :)

[shantiani]

I've heard all of the different suggestions too.... wait 1 cycle, wait 3 cycles, just wait until you're ready... I've also heard that it depends how far along you were.
I just went to see a specialist last week because of previous m/c's and she told me that there's no statistical correlation between how long you wait and subsequent chance of m/c.
I'm a big believer in statistics, but also a big believer in trusting what your body is telling you. If you're not feeling in prime condition, wait and get yourself there. If you're feeling great and raring to go, go for it!
(But I guess O'ing would help too, Ann ;))

[Stevi]

I've heard all of the different suggestions too.... wait 1 cycle, wait 3 cycles, just wait until you're ready... I've also heard that it depends how far along you were.
I just went to see a specialist last week because of previous m/c's and she told me that there's no statistical correlation between how long you wait and subsequent chance of m/c.
I'm a big believer in statistics, but also a big believer in trusting what your body is telling you. If you're not feeling in prime condition, wait and get yourself there. If you're feeling great and raring to go, go for it!
(But I guess O'ing would help too, Ann ;))

I agree with going with your gut! :)

(Though my ER doc told me it was okay to try right away)

[threadbey]

At my final checkup a different midwife told me wait 3 months (I don't know if that was 3 cycles or just 3 calendar months from the mc). I asked why and all she said was to get my cycle established to be able to date the pg. And I'm like :scratch what year is this again? And what country am I living in? I even asked about the theory of rebuilding the uterine lining and she said no, there was no evidence for that.

How could it be that on THIS issue everyone has strong opinions and no facts or statistics to back them up? Very frustrating.

[lisa_nc]

My OB said that dating is the only reason some doctors will tell you to wait and that we could go ahead if we wanted to, she would just do an early ultrasound.

[Stevi]

So, us women who are going through emotional he**, are supposed to put off our dreams to make the THEIR lives easier? Thhhppppppptttt!!!!

[kel32brown]

Sorry for your loss.

I had a natural m/c at 5wks on 9th October. This is my first cycle after it happened.
DH & I decided that seeing as the m/c occurred naturally, we'd start trying once I'd completely finished bleeding.

You can check out my chart in my signature.
I'm with you! I miscarried end of October. There's no carryover in building up the lining of the uterus, right? It sheds each month, or am I mistaken? So a five week mc is physically like a heavier period (or not if one has longer cycles anyway).

We're trying again right away, watching for ovulation signs. And if I was brighter, I'd figure out how to link to my FF chart in my siggy, but I need *help*.

[slowtime]

I've been wondering about this. I'm still in the process of losing my baby (I'm almost 11 weeks, but either the baby died some time ago or it's a blighted ovum - we won't know until my ultrasound on Tuesday) and in between the pain, grief, and numbness I've kept thinking that we have to try again. As soon as possible. The doctors at OB Triage said to wait two or three cycles, but they also wouldn't let me see the ultrasound and dodged all of my questions, so I'm reluctant to take much advice from them.

It took us 15 cycles to get pregnant the first time. By the time I got my BFP, I was feeling really crazy. I don't want to wait two or three cycles, and then another 15 on top of that. I'm built to mother. I don't want to wait just because it's more convenient for some doctor who doesn't really know or care about me, anyway.

I'm okay with waiting until after I get my period. I know I need the time to grieve. Obviously I have some anger. But I can't wait any longer than that.

[Stevi]

I had a natural miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks. I'm guessing my baby died at around 5-6 weeks, judging by what the fetus looked like.

The ER doctor said that there was no reason not to try again right away. He says miscarriages before 12 weeks are considered 'early' and your body hadn't really changed much yet. So, you don't need as much time to heal, at least not physically. The doctor also said that women seem to be more fertile for the first 3 cycles after a miscarriage.

I tried for over 2 years for that pregnancy, it was my first. So, while I'm not you, I'm sure we are having sme similar emotions about our losses.

I did not even wait for a period to try again. I don't have much chance, as I only had the opportunity to try once. (I didn't expect to ovulate so soon, it sorta snuck up on me) But, I could not 'not' try!

Go with your feelings, do what 'you' feel is right.

[shantiani]

Sorry you have to go through this slowtime :Hug

And ditto what Stevi said. My doc also said there is no evidence that waiting effects the success of future pg. You're the only one who's going to know when you're ready.

[CaliMommie]

I had an early m/c this past weekend, and want to try again ASAP. We weren't technically trying (I wasn't charting or temping), but we weren't avoiding either. DH was not sure if he wanting to TTC, but now I think we are both anxious to TTC. I don't think we are going to wait, but I am drinking teas & following "The Childbearing Years" ideas for increasing fertility.

[JacksMommy07]

dh and I are wanting to TTC soon. I just had a m/c this week. We'd heard everything too....wait 1 cycle, 3 cycles....etc. our Dr. said it was up to us. But, I don't want to TTC if my uterus lining needs to heal!?!