dealing with an overly emotional child w/ regard to bumps and bruises - Page 2

snoopy5386 · 11-02-2009, 07:57 PM

I requested the book from the library. Like others have said it is just her. I have never overreacted to her falling/getting hurt. I always wait to see what her reaction is first. I never do the whole "your fine, your fine" thing when she gets hurt - that drives me nuts. Great to hear that others have kids like mine. I don't know another one IRL.

buttercup784ever · 11-03-2009, 12:40 AM

Someone up above hit the nail on the head. Some kids do need that extra comfort or they feel rejected. Especially at that age of 3 or 4 and ESPECIALLY if they were doing an activity with mom that hurt them. I think they are just putting together the fact that YOU can hurt them even if it's an accident.

Have you tried putting on your "doctor's hat" after she gets hurt? Depending on her mood it could be a game, or it could be very serious. If she'll allow you to examine the "wound", look at it carefully and tell her if it's red, or a little swollen. Explain what happens when we fall down and bruise. If it's on her lip or face, maybe give her a mirror and have her show you with her finger exactly where it hurts. My kids get so interested in what their body is doing to help them heal, they don't even care about the pain.

Just a suggestion. Good luck!

bits and bobs · 11-03-2009, 06:59 AM

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It's very easy to say "Oh, I just dust them off and move one" if one has a child who allows him/herself to be dusted off and moved on.

Exactly!

DD used to be impervious to bumps. Never cried ever if she fell. Now she is a drama queen about every litllest bump. It is maddening and brushing her off simply doesn't work.