DS not wanting to visit STBX -crisis?

[emma_goldman]

TIA for any help!

DS, 4 and 1/2, has started to cry and cling and wants to run away when he is supposed to see his dad. He talks about hating his dad. They are together EOW, one afternoon a week, and one overnight during the week. Otherwise, his behavior is really normal and delightful.

We don't have any court orders as of yet, so I'm thinking of documenting this and taking him to a psychologist and cut back on parenting time with his dad to EOW. Dad disagrees, of course, and blames me. He thinks this is happening because I indulge DS's "tantrums."

DS is also in a new preschool...

Thanks again!

[emma_goldman]

Had to drop him off again today, but he was fine. I guess he's getting bribed by his dad with Halloween candy now!?!

[meemee]

i know this is not what you want to hear... but yeah in a sense i am with your ex.

i know sometimes my ex has to bribe my dd to get her over there because she doesnt want to.

i know once dd is over at ex's she is fine. and i think we need to work with our kids to show them that their parents want to see them too.

it made a big difference when ex started cosleeping with dd. i guess he figured that out.

i support my dd but i sometimes also encourage her to go visit her daddy.

now if he was absolutely HYSTERICAL - you know? the super high degree when you know he DOES NOT want to see daddy... then i would try to talk to your ex and see if you can switch days.

but yeah when kid throws tantrum, its the onus of the other parent to try.

are you doing pick ups/drop ofs from ps? can you do that? that will make a huge difference.

hang in there mama. around 5 kids get confused about what to do and we as kids have to support them in different ways.

[emma_goldman]

Yeah, that's the hard part: I want him to go and be happy. He has been hysterical. It's so hard to see!

Yeah, I think the 5pm hour is difficult. Thanks for the encouragement!